Category Archives: Dating Advice
Coleen Nolan hopes ex-husband Ray finds love again after spending Christmas with him – HELLO! Magazine
The couple announced their split in February
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Loose Women panellist Coleen Nolan has opened up about her relationship with ex-husband Ray Fensome. The former couple spent Christmas day together…
Coleen Nolan has revealed there are no bad feelings between herself and her ex-husband Ray Fensome, with the former couple spending Christmas day together. In a new interview with The Mirror, the Loose Women panellist confessed she hopes her ex – whom she split up with in February – finds love again in the New Year. “I am now at the stage when I hope Ray meets someone,” she said. “People might think it is strange, but that side of it isn’t there for me anymore.”
Coleen Nolan and Ray Fensome split at the start of the year
The former coupe were married in 2007, and share 17-year-old daughter Ciara together. Opening up about their decision to spend the festive period with one another, Coleen added: “Obviously it is sad, but there is also a massive sense of relief. People might think it is strange spending Christmas with my ex, but I have to focus on the good times we shared.” She continued: “Ray stayed over – in the spare room of course. We all opened our presents together before me and Ray cooked the dinner.”
MORE: Loose Women’s Coleen Nolan reveals son has given her dating advice
At the start of the year, Coleen announced the end of her marriage to Ray. At the time, she told the Loose Women audience: “It’s been really hard and it’s still really fresh, we’ve only just filed (for divorce) really. He’s only just moved out. I said at the beginning of last year we were having issues but hoped we were going to sort them, and we have really, really tried… But it just gets to a point where you think, you know what, it’s not working, and we can’t get it back together. For the sake of both of our future happiness, and for our kids, especially [daughter] Ciara, it gets to a point…” Coleen is also a mum to sons Shane Jr and Jake with ex-husband Shane Richie.
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3 tips for dating a quiet person – Hivisasa
Dating someone who is ever quiet can prove to be tricky.
There are times you will be expected to compromise with different things.
A quiet person needs someone who understands him or her.
Some things can make you differ with him or her.
Here are three tips for dating a quiet person:
1. Maintain communication
Proper communication is important if you want your relationship to work.
Make sure you maintain constant communication with him or her.
A quiet partner wants his or her better half to initiate most of the things in their love life.
Take it upon yourself to ensure there is a strong relationship between the two of you in the love life.
2. Start conversations
Do not sit back and wait for him or her to start conversations.
Learn to start communication if you want things to work in the relationship.
Start the talk, and your partner will make his or her point.
Through the conversations, you will understand the needs of your partner.
3. Tell them your needs
Do not be reluctant to share your feelings with him or her.
Share with your partner your needs in the relationship.
A listening partner will not ignore your plight.
Remain positive minded when sharing your needs with him or her.
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How To Use Your Dating Apps On Holiday – 10 daily
How you say, swipe right?
Heading off to get the last few weeks of the northern hemisphere summer — hello Greece! — and wondering about using your dating apps while you’re there to, well, you know, meet a few people, maybe have a little holiday romance?
Well you’re not the only one. More and more people are using apps to find friends, fun and f…, well, you get the idea, while they’re on holiday, and with solo travellers looking for connections as they wander the globe (those lucky buggers), we thought we’d get you some rules to live by.
You know, just in case.
Weekend in Paris with bonus photo opp? Sign us up! Image: Getty
If you’re planning to use dating apps overseas, safety is a prime concern, of course. And while you’re free and travelling and away from home so you feel like the rules are relaxed — they possibly shouldn’t be.
Make sure someone knows where you are, meet people in public places before going anywhere private, try not to get too drunk around someone you just met, and don’t tell anyone where you’re staying. “I wouldn’t give anyone my home address, so why would I say what hotel I’m staying in?” online dating coach Julie Spira told Refinery29, and she’s right — safety first.
Next up, make sure you know what you want before you get started. And make sure your matches know what you want as well. Are you looking for a quick fling? Do you just want someone to show you around the sights? Are you planning to move here eventually and marry this person? You can even add it to your profile to make sure that everyone else knows too.
Says Michelle Battersby, Country Lead for Bumble Australia, “It’s really important to be open and honest from the beginning about what you are looking for — and to expect that same courtesy from your matches.
If both parties are on the same page from the beginning then there is less of a chance that someone won’t have their expectations met. And it frees you up to spending your time chatting with people who want the same things as you!”
Julie Spira mentions a client of hers who often gets free tickets to concerts through work. So, when she’s travelling, she’ll update her dating apps to see if anyone wants to join her. “Every single time she meets an incredible person and has an incredible time,” Spira says. Perfect if you’re travelling alone and want to see a different side of a city, right?
Don’t forget to also be aware of cultural issues. If you’re on holiday somewhere where the culture is much different from your own, be respectful. If you’re on a queer dating app, for example, and heading to countries where it’s still dangerous to be openly gay, the people you’re meeting might not be out at all so be sensitive and safe at all times. If your sexuality is not an issue where you’re headed, it’s still important to be read up on local culture and customs. That way, you’ll avoid offending anyone.
Lastly, what is Michelle’s biggest piece of advice for someone on sites like Bumble who are wanting to date on their holiday?
“Holidays are meant to be fun and relaxing! Make sure to be up front about what you want, and don’t forget to have fun!”
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And if you’re going to use the opportunity to have rampant sex of any kind, please be safe.
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This article first appeared August 15, 2018
15 Tinder Dating Tips From People Who Used The App To Find True Love – YourTango
Listen up!
As an adult, every single one of my long-term relationships has started on a dating site or a dating app. With the notable exception of the time I agreed to go out with the guy tattooing me because he literally was driving an ink-covered needle into my wrists and I couldn’t think of a polite way to say no, but that’s a story for another day, and maybe that dating advice can teach you something.
When it comes to using dating apps to find forever love, I’m not alone. We live in a digital age, and when you can have tampons, ice cream, a novelty t-shirt that makes it look like you’re wearing a bikini and a DVD of A Walk to Remember delivered to your door in under an hour at any time of day, why shouldn’t we rely on technology to also help us with our deeper needs like love?
One of the most popular dating apps around is Tinder (obviously), and like many other dating apps out there, it’s got its pros and its cons. It’s easy to get disheartened with Tinder dating when you’re trying to meet someone digitally, but that doesn’t mean that you ought to give up.
Plenty of people have managed to find their husband or wife using the app, so it CAN be done! If you want to achieve a similar result, you’ll want to listen up to what they have to say about how to use Tinder to your advantage. Their dating advice can’t guarantee that you’ll meet your soulmate using the app, but their words of wisdom helped them find love, so surely hearing what they advise isn’t the worst idea in the world either!
1. Expect a lot of first dates.
“I downloaded Tinder after a really rough breakup, and it took a long while of going on first date after first date to find someone I could seriously see for a month or so. After that, it took plenty more first dates, but eventually I found someone that wanted to keep dating and we’ve been together ever since.”
2. Say what you want.
“So I put at the top that I wasn’t interested in hookups which, as expected, guys didn’t pay attention to when messaging me. I matched with my now boyfriend. Not sure why, but I actually messaged him first. We talked and were able to meet the next day, my only day off that entire month. I actually had plans with another guy who seemed more ‘my type’ but canceled. I met him at his apartment and we walked to sushi and watched lots of South Park. And we didn’t hookup! In fact, we didn’t have sex for about three months, after we made us official (we did make out a ton though).”
3. You have to be patient.
“I found my boyfriend of almost two years on Tinder! We love each other so much and we moved in together and even adopted a kitten. Online dating is great for introverts who don’t like to go out in bars, clubs or gym. It took me a lot of swipes to find someone who was interested in a serious romantic relationship but I found him and he’s amazing.”
4. Know what you want.
“From my experience with Tinder dating, you get all types. If you’re looking for a hookup, you’ll definitely find that. If you’re looking for a relationship, you can find that too! Be patient and have fun! That said, I met my SO on tinder. We got married last summer.”
5. Don’t set your expectations too high,
“I dated someone for about a year that I met on Tinder. I think the guys on Bumble are higher quality though.”
6. Keep your sense of humor.
“You’ll meet a lot of trash bags on Tinder (like the guy who parked where I told him not to, so I ended up paying $125 to get his car back just to get him the hell out of my house, and then he accused me of stealing his socks). But you just gotta laugh at it when someone is really sucky and move on.”
7. Make a list.
“Tinder was great when I was in the dating game. However, I had a pretty rigorous checklist to weed out the weirdos and guys who only wanted sex.”
8. Have pictures that show your whole body.
“I had a very good experience. My friends, on the other hand, didn’t. Put the best pictures of yourself that also shows off your body. Don’t write too much about yourself but don’t keep it short. Keep in mind that some guys will compliment on your looks first, but ignore those guys because, eventually, they will ask about sex. I was skeptical at first but I have been a lot happier now that I found my boyfriend.”
9. It’s okay to turn people down.
“I’m engaged to someone I met on Tinder. So, there’s that. I’m also still friends with a few guys I had flings with after meeting them on Tinder. They work in fields adjacent to mine, so it can be fun/useful to swap notes. Be discerning with the profiles you swipe right on and don’t feel pressured to give people a chance. My only bad (just awkward, never dangerous) dating experiences came from giving people I had misgivings about a chance. Oh, and don’t be afraid to message first.”
10. Really read the profile.
“Matched with a girl. She had the URL to her last.fm page in her bio. Being a fan of music, I checked it out and used it as a conversation starter. Over the next few weeks, we exchanged music with one another and we’re on year 5 now!”
11. Remember that what you write matters.
“Having content is huge. I see profiles that just consist of emojis and the guy’s height much of the time. I doubt most girls will decipher those. It’s also very good to list whatever things you enjoy that you think girls like to do too. I mention things I like that I know many guys do; this is to help them feel comfortable. It works well both ways, I find. Humor and punctuation will take you miles in the bio and conversations.”
12. No sex talk first.
“Nothing sexual at first unless it’s a hookup you want with a girl who says she wants a hookup too. On appearances, if you’d say it in front of a fireplace, save it for in person when it’s going well. Not Tinder.”
13. Go on a first date soon.
“Try and get some sort of in-person date ASAP. Even if it’s just meeting up for coffee somewhere between class or during lunch, moving the relationship from Tinder to real life will show if you two are actually attracted to each other, if they can hold a conversation, etc.”
14. Give your prospects something to talk about.
“Put a conversation starter at the bottom of your profile. Something like ‘Message me your favorite [movie, book, band, video game, whatever honestly interests you]’. It gives you something to talk about right out the gate (and makes it even more obvious if someone hasn’t read your profile).”
15. Be mindful of who is in your pictures.
“If I see kids, I am almost immediately assuming he’s giving me a polite clue that he is a parent. The presence of another girl is often going to either suggest there hasn’t been much time since the last relationship he was in, or he’s still with her and they are open or want a third.”
Rebecca Jane Stokes is a writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. Her work focuses on relationships, pop culture and news. For more of her work, check out her Tumblr.
