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Woman who ‘married’ ghost of 300-year-old pirate reveals pair have SPLIT UP – The Sun
A WOMAN who “married” the ghost of 300-year-old pirate has now revealed the couple has split up.
Amanda Sparrow Large, 46, first appeared in the spotlight when she legally married the Haitian pirate by a shaman priest earlier this year.
Amanda Sparrow Large and her 300-year-old Haitian pirate ghost have called it quits
The 46-year-old was tired of “physical world” men, and consequently found love in the ghost of an 18th century Haitian pirate…until she revealed things didn’t work out for them, reported The Mirror.
The pair got married on a boat off the Irish coast in international waters, reported The Irish Sun.
But now the mum from Drogheda, Co Louth, Ireland, is warning people to be “very careful when dabbling in spirituality”.
She said: “So I feel it’s time to let everyone know that my marriage is over.
The pair got married on a boat off the Irish coast in international waters earlier this year
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Amanda pictured with her bridesmaids at her wedding
“I will explain all in due course but for now all I want to say is be VERY careful when dabbling in spirituality, it’s not something to mess with.”
Amanda paid a whopping €6,000 to change her name legally, and worked as an impersonator of “Pirates of the Caribbean” character Jack Sparrow.
She changed her and had replica tattoos, dreadlocks and gold teeth fitted to look like identical to the character.
Before their controversial marriage, Amanda made the headlines for her tips on “having ghost sex” sessions.
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Amanda worked as an impersonator of ‘Pirates of the Caribbean’ character Jack Sparrow
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Because Jack couldn’t wear his ring, it was fitted to a candle which was used in the wedding ceremony to represent him
She previously claimed that she and 300-year-old ghost Jack went on dates, had rows and even had an active sex life, before their recent divorce.
She said: “Spiritual sex is all about being able to feel the energy. It’s nothing to do with masturbation.
“So although it can be tried from any position, missionary is probably best to start with because it’s easier to feel their weight and take it from there.”
Before their turbulent relationship resulted in a break up, the couple dated for two years before becoming engaged.
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Amanda previously gushed about the proposal: “Jack proposed to me. I told him I wasn’t really cool with having casual sex with a spirit and I wanted us to make a proper commitment to each other.”
At the wedding, she held a flag bearing a skull and crossbone as a symbol for her husband.
Because Jack couldn’t wear his ring, it was fitted to a candle which was used in the wedding ceremony to represent him.
Ex-Captain Jack Sparrow impersonator who married spirit of 300-year-old pirate, Amanda Teague, on the best position if you’re having sex with a ghost
Depressed couple is at relationship impasse – Detroit Free Press
Dear Amy: A month ago, my wife of five years told me she was going through a depression and was questioning our relationship. To be fair, I was as well.
We haven’t made love in six months. I tell her all the time how beautiful she is. I try to initiate sex, and I get nothing. She finds ways to make me feel bad when I fall asleep early on the weekend and accuses me of drinking too much beer.
I went back to the gym, but that did little to improve our relationship. It only made me feel like a loser.
I offered to make changes (which I did), but things were maybe worse than before.
We decided that separation was best to really figure things out. She again said that we needed to get our spark back. I am having a hard time, as I miss her and my son.
I see him often, but it’s not the same.
I confided in an old female acquaintance, and she and I ended up having sex.
I’m overcome with guilt as I never so much as flirted when my wife and I were together.
My wife told me that she loves me and is in love with me, but is unhappy with herself.
If I tell her about my sexual encounter, our relationship will end. I don’t want that. I don’t want the guilt I have.
I want my family and would give up sex altogether to have her back. I was emotionally fragile and lonely when it happened. It was awful. I’m dying to get advice. I swear I’m not a damn monster I’m just hurting. We are still separated and I’m desperate for advice.
– Guilty Husband
Dear Guilty: You and your wife both claim to be depressed. You are also dissociated, detached (pick your adjective) and spinning out in your separate orbits. Your wife does not want to be intimate with you, and although you claim to have made major efforts to please her, it hasn’t worked. The root for both of you seems to be in the way you connect or communicate. Mainly, you don’t.
You each need counseling, and you also need couples counseling.
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You, for instance, don’t seem to have been able to handle having an intimate conversation with an acquaintance without acting out sexually. You should see this somewhat disastrous and unsatisfying sexual encounter as a wake-up call to seek out the help of a professional. I agree that you should not tell your wife about this until you have a better handle on who you are, what you want and where you fit into your family system. A good counselor will provide you with tools and coaching.
Dear Amy: I am a grandma with a large and ever-growing family.
I have six children with spouses, 12 grandchildren with extras and two great-grandchildren.
None of us are poor but numbers are increasing, so we all come to Christmas together at a home where we can spread out.
Last Christmas we decided to exchange gifts of not more than $10, and for each of us to contribute only one gift.
We stockpiled the gifts and then picked a number for order of choice, and then the fun began.
We could choose another one’s choice, or keep our own.
This went all the way down to the youngest.
We all still laugh about how much fun it was and they decided to do the same thing this year.
– Gift Problem Solved!
Dear Problem Solved!: This seems to be a version of “Yankee Swap,” and I absolutely love it.
In my family, during the bulging years of more kids and spouses, we drew names at the table after Thanksgiving dinner (you drew as many names as were in your own immediate family).
Now we exchange mainly homemade gifts, and donate to charities in one another’s names.
Dear Amy: The letter from “Upset Ex,” the woman with a manipulative ex-husband who kept going after her for money, is someone who needs encouragement to seek therapy and support.
Even kindhearted people with good boundaries struggle with manipulation that involves a suicide threat. She was married to this man for a long time.
I think your suggestion of a social worker for him is great, but she is likely to need help with the emotional pain of having an ex who struggles in the way he does.
My heart goes out to her.
– Debra
Dear Debra: I agree that she might need professional help, too.
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Ex-wife props up new wife by putting herself down – Detroit Free Press
Dear Carolyn: I interact with my husband’s ex-wife, “Debby,” almost weekly at the kid handoff and other kid-related events. She is honestly one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met, and she has handled our marriage with nothing but grace and maturity.
Yet there is something that really upsets me every time I see her. She has an almost compulsive need to put herself down when she talks to me, usually in the context of how I am better in some way. “I wish I had your sense of humor … [husband] deserves someone who laughs at his jokes!” or “I am so glad [husband] doesn’t have to look at someone with these love handles anymore!” Sometimes they are obviously meant to be funny but there is a core of truth that makes me feel really uncomfortable, really sorry for her.
I know it is never as simple as one person’s being better than another, but I am about 10 years younger than she is and don’t think she would take kindly to my giving her a condescending lecture on how the chemistry between two people is its own organism or anything like that.
What do I do, just change the subject every time she does this, in perpetuity?
– Upset
This has so many ways to go wrong, for all the reasons you’ve given and a few you haven’t.
So I think you say something only if you’re confident you can do so with compassion but without a hint of pity – and only if you’re comfortable knowing you have only one shot at it. No fixes, no do-overs.
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And I think you say:
“I wish you were as kind to yourself as you have been to me.”
That’s it.
I hope you can do it. I hope she hears you.
Dear Carolyn: My husband’s side of the family – parents, siblings and spouses – enjoys playing cards during the evening hours while on vacation for a week at the beach. One family allows their young children to stay awake, and recently has allowed them to participate in the adult card games.
This makes the games slow, frustrating, and simply not as fun. Would it be reasonable to ask that after 8 p.m. be reserved for adult games?
– Fight or Fold?
It would be reasonable to approach a reasonable family, yes.
To approach an unreasonable family would be to invite an unreasonable backlash of manufactured outrage and finger-pointing, driven by these parents’ (self-)loving misconception of everyone’s enchantment with their children as equal to their own, which would only serve to ruin the card games as thoroughly as including the spawn has.
So make your calculations accordingly and at your own risk.
If you think you can pull it off but like your chances better if you hedge, then I suggest asking for some just-adults card nights. Explain to them that your post 8 p.m. beach-week card games are your sacred $(percent)^(asterisk)! opportunity to drink and swear. This is especially effective if you don’t in fact drink or swear.
If you opt to surrender to the hopelessness of it, then try to find other ways to make these gatherings fun for you again – at least till the kids are old enough either to play skillfully (7-to-10-ish) or to find playing cards with the old people just as off-putting as they once found it thrilling (11-to-13-ish). Count to 20 from there and the not-kids-anymore will be drinking and swearing with you! At least till you and your husband start to fade around 9:30 and drag yourselves off to bed.
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‘I think my friend’s fiancé is married’ – 9Honey
When it comes to dodgy boyfriends we’ve all had a few, and we usually spend a while looking past the red flags before realising what’s up.
But one woman has watched her friend race past every red flag without a second glance and she’s looking for advice.
Taking to the popular parenting forum Mumsnet for help, the woman confessed she thinks her friend’s fiancé is a married man.
And she’s got some pretty compelling evidence.
“Her [fiancé] travels for work constantly. Literally comes home one night every three weeks,” she explained. “Sometimes he is uncontactable when he is ‘busy’ or doing secretive stuff, because get this… he works for the government.”
The man’s suspicious work schedule and secretive job just don’t seem normal. (Mumsnet)
She then goes on to explain that because of the secret nature of his work their relationship must be kept hidden – but not just from his employers.
“Their relationship is secret from his work and even his parents (she’s never met them),” the woman continued.
The man also says he works seven days a week every week, sometimes works for 24 hours straight and gets no holidays, even at Christmas.
If all of these weren’t enough red flags, there’s also the issue of the couple’s 2-year-old daughter.
The poster claims that the man has very little to do with his daughter as he never sees her, and is “a non-existent father”.
The woman included a list of all the behaviours that don’t add up, and it paints a damning picture. (Mumsnet)
But the poster’s friend just refuses to see the issues in the relationship; “She won’t listen to reason and has cut EVERYONE out who questioned it.”
It all adds up to paint a very suspicious picture and the poster is convinced that the man is in fact already married.
“Am I being unreasonably to think he’s a lying s–t who probably has a wife and kids????” she asked.
The response from commenters was quick and unanimous – he’s married and dodgy.
“Surely she must be mildly suspicious at the very least? Utter madness! So where is his main living address supposed to be? A secret work location?” one wrote.
Commenters were quick to back her up, assuring her that she wasn’t being unreasonable – the guy is dodgy. (Mumsnet)
“I agree, definitely married and probably not even using his real name if there is no trace of him out there?” said another, “It sounds like she need to hire a PI and just have a little look see into his past.”
One commenter even suggested getting a private investigator involved to get to the bottom of the whole thing. (Mumsnet)
But some were a little more harsh with their feedback.
“This is completely nuts. She can’t be that stupid, really? And who would want a relationship under these terms anyway?” one questioned.
Some people were just shocked that the woman’s friend believed any of the man’s stories. (Mumsnet)
While love may be blind, we sure aren’t and it looks like this can only end in tears.
