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Taylor Swift's Dating Advice For Tiffany Haddish Is So Unexpected
There are lots of unique perks that come along with being a celebrity. You get free things all the time, everybody kisses up to you, you get to be on the cover of magazines, you have a voice people actually want to listen to, and, of course, you get to rub shoulders with other celebrities. And part of rubbing shoulders with other celebs means getting advice from them. Sometimes very unexpercted advice. For example, Taylor Swift’s dating advice for Tiffany Haddish is not what you’d expect from the pop star.
“You know what, I’m about to go on Instagram right now and put out an advertisement because I’m very single,” Haddish, 38, told PEOPLE while announcing her collaboration with Lawry’s Seasoned Salt. “I was talking to Taylor earlier — she said that’s what I should do!” the comedian added.
For starters, let’s just digest the fact that Haddish and Swift are apparently close enough to be dishing about their love lives. In fact, Haddish told PEOPLE that she texts Swift “every other week or so.”
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And then, of course, there’s the advice she gave. Put an ad out on Instagram? Sounds pretty dang bold to me. But, hey, I’m totally here for it.
If you’re interested in answering Haddish’s upcoming Instagram ad for a lover, buckle up because she’s got some pretty high standards.
First, she starts with the basics. “Credit score has to be over 700, no kids, have his own place,” she told PEOPLE. “Basically don’t be living with your momma and daddy unless you are providing for [them].”
Then, there’s the more detailed list of characteristics she’s after. “[He has to] have confidence in himself, accomplish any task he sets out to do. Have a mole on his left foot. Good hygiene, pretty teeth,” she added to PEOPLE with a laugh. “He has to have a great smile and has to be willing to smile.”
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I’m going to go ahead and assume she was joking about the mole on his left foot thing but I’ve gotta say the rest of her requirements are pretty great. Someone who has a great smile and actually wants to smile? Sounds great to me. Someone who’s confident? Sign me up! Someone who sets goals and accomplishes them? Hell yeah!
I’m with Swift. I really hope Haddish posts her requirements on Insta and all of the worthy dudes step forward.
But how did the two become friends in the first place? Well, in an appearance on The Ellen Show, Haddish admitted that it was Swift who approached her after meeting Haddish on the set of Saturday Night Live.
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“Taylor was like, ‘Tiffany, Oh my God, I like you, we gotta hang out!’ I was like, ‘Yes! We gotta hang out girl, let’s hang out,’” she told Ellen DeGeneres on her show last year.
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After telling Haddish she liked her, Swift invited her over to her house where the two shared a home cooked Southern meal and, well, now they text every couple weeks or so and give each other dating advice… so I think it’s safe to say the dinner went well!
Val Chmerkovskiy and Jenna Johnson Give New 'DWTS' Couple Alan Bersten and Alexis Ren Advice
Ask the pros! Dancing With the Stars’ Val Chmerkovskiy and Jenna Johnson, who got engaged in June, opened up exclusively to Us Weekly about the latest couple to come from the ABC dancing competition: Alan Bersten and Alexis Ren!
“There’s something about the show, man,” Johnson, 24. “You’re so hands on. … Dance is very physical. You’re spending so much time with that one person and I think it’s inevitable when there are two beautiful, attractive people who are talented. I’m happy for them. I’m happy for Alan, he’s like my little brother. I’ll be watching out for him.”
Jenna Johnson and Val Chmerkovskiy.
“Advice?” she continued. “Do your own thing. Just, like, stay in your own bubble.”
Chmerkovskiy, 32, then joked, “Alan, do less of your own thing. Do more of someone else’s thing.”
Johnson then clarified she was referring to not basing your relationship “on anyone else’s relationship.”
After Ren, nearly 22, confessed she was developing feelings for Bersten, 24, during an October episode of DWTS, a source confirmed to Us that the social media influencer “adores” the So You Think You Can Dance alum. “Alexis’ feelings for Alan are real!” the source noted. “He thinks she’s super sweet and beautiful.”
Bersten told Us earlier this month that the pair, who finished in fourth place during the Monday, November 19, finale, are taking things “day by day.”
Ren added: “People are going to hate either way, so I might as well say my truth, say my feelings, and if they take it one way or the other, that’s their perception on the situation, not mine.”
Fellow DWTS season 27 competitor Milo Manhein, meanwhile, played a hand in setting up Bersten and Ren. “Me and Alexis went to at least 10 dinners where the topic of discussion was just Alan, like whether he thinks she’s cute or what’s going to happen with that,” he told Us exclusively on Tuesday, November 20. “Alan brought me and Alexis together. I’m thankful for Alan.”
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This is the biggest mistake you're making on a first date, according to the founder of an elite dating app
- More young people than ever before are now single, and while for some this is a choice, others are struggling to find love.
- Dating apps are often blamed for the rise of “hook-up culture” and thus the decline of commitment, but this may not be the case.
- According to The Inner Circle founder David Vermeulen the main mistake singletons make is expecting love at first sight and discarding someone after a first date, when in reality we should give people a second chance.
Being single has never had less of a stigma attached to it than it does today.
Looking at the UK, over half of Brits aged 25-44 are now single, and millennials all over the world are choosing to marry later than previous generations.
But despite the fact that many of us are single by choice, plenty of others are trying — and struggling — to find “the one.”
Some people blame millennials’ apparent inability to settle down on dating app culture — after all, when someone “better” might be just a swipe away, why would you commit to just one person?
This is called the “paradox of choice,” which makes us believe the grass is always greener on the other side.
Read more:You might still be single because of something called the ‘paradox of choice’ — here’s what it means
According to a dating expert, there’s one main thing many of us are doing wrong in our quest to find love: writing a potential suitor off after just one date.
Thanks to romantic novels and rom-coms, lots of people expect to be swept off their feet or feel love at first sight on a first date. If they don’t, they don’t bother pursuing things with that person.
But this is largely unrealistic, and expecting there to be fireworks from the start is where many singletons are going wrong.
“That’s only in the movies,” David Vermeulen, founder of elite dating app The Inner Circle, told INSIDER. “Some people are really uncomfortable the first time they see somebody. You have to sell yourself in a way. Some people can do it really well, and some people can’t, but at the same time they’re obviously a nice person.
“You have to look through it and if you believe it could potentially work, I always say you should go for a second date and see how it goes.”
Vermeulen believes you should always give someone a second chance — unless the first date was completely awful.
That doesn’t mean you’ll never feel a sizzling spark upon meeting someone new, though.
“Of course you might feel fireworks if you’re really lucky,” Vermeulen says. “But it’s not always going to happen. You have to be really lucky. That’s how I see it.”
Read more:5 pieces of dating advice that are actually ruining your chances of finding love
He also believes it’s essential to put some thought into planning a first date.
“I tell everybody you have to put some effort into it,” Vermeulen says. “You have to think of somewhere nice instead of a Starbucks. You don’t have to go for a big dinner, but if you know this person works, for example, in Shoreditch [east London], don’t meet up near your place if you live in Notting Hill [west London].”
And when you’re there, be interesting and interested, but don’t judge your date too harshly.
“On a first date show interest in each other,” Vermeulen advises. “It doesn’t always work like in the movies, like love at first sight. Some people are a little bit nervous the first time so give them a second chance.”
True love could be just two dates away.
What Is Intuition? How To Make Decisions About Dating & Relationships More Intuitively – YourTango
You can easily use your intuition to discover if the person you like is interested in you, too.
Wouldn’t it be great if you had a voice in your head that told you who you should date and why or whether you should talk to a certain person or not?
Well, you do!
It comes from out of nowhere, fast and immediate. Besides harnessing it for great dating and relationship advice, the greatest of men have used it and trusted it more than their analytical, rational part of the brain. That inner voice is intuition, and it’s been labeled a superpower. It’s what gives men great ideas and suggestions, warnings and solutions.
“I believe in intuitions and inspirations…I sometimes FEEL that I am right. I do not KNOW that I am.” ― Albert Einstein
What is intuition?
According to the most basic definition, “Intuition is the ability to acquire knowledge without proof, evidence, or conscious reasoning, or without understanding how the knowledge was acquired. Different writers give the word ‘intuition’ a great variety of different meanings, ranging from direct access to unconscious knowledge, unconscious cognition, inner sensing, inner insight to unconscious pattern-recognition and the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning.”
Intuition gives us the ability to understand something or acquire knowledge quickly without proof or conscious reasoning, and without understanding how the information is acquired. You just have to learn to hear what your inner voice is saying.
Intuition can be useful in all aspects of your life from buying your next house or upgrading your car to getting your next fulfilling job or relationship. Businessmen, entrepreneurs, and inventors use intuition all the time when making major decisions. One inventor said that intuition is as important as rationality.
You can substantially increase your intuition quickly with the following simple steps (I’ll also let you know what happened when I heard it but didn’t follow it).
How can you access, develop, and intensify your intuition?
Cultivating intuition isn’t limited to clairvoyants, mystics, and witches. There’s more science to it than you’d guess, and more concrete ways to build up your intuition than you’d think.
“Intuition is always right in at least two important ways: (1) It is always in response to something; and (2) It always has your best interest at heart” ― Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
Here are 6 pieces of the best advice on how to make decisions about dating and relationships more intuitively by listening to your inner voice.
1. Ask questions as often as you can and
Be curious. Then listen for the answers.
2. Practice listening
So this by spending time alone in the quiet, which means no music, no television or any screens, no phone, no noise. That’s what quiet means. Listening, “sensing,” and following your intuition takes practice.
There’s a game I play while driving which helps me increase my intuition. I practice intuiting what other drivers will do. I ask questions such as, “Is that person going to change lanes without signaling. Is that driver going to exit? Is that person on their phone or distracted in some way?” This helps me practice using my intuition and immediately tells me if I’m right.
3. Meditate
Meditating can also help you “hear” your intuition. Any activity when you can be still and silent can allow you to hear your intuition more.
Schedule time in your daily planner to meditate (once in the morning and once in the evening), to enjoy quiet time, to pray and to listen.
4. Write down information as it comes to you
Record these and your intuitive experiences, whether you followed intuition or not and what the consequences were. Write about them in a journal daily. This will help you observe your progress and keep you connected to your intuition practice.
5. Tune out external opinions and advice
One of the best ways to develop your intuition is to stop listening to other people’s opinions and advice.
Humans project their own personal experiences, beliefs, and feelings in what they tell other people. Rarely trust what another person says.
6. Listen to your “gut feelings” more
Science has proven that your gut is the mechanism that tells you if something or someone is good or bad, wrong or right for you. So listen to your body when it comes to making decisions like who to date next.
How I used my intuition when I started dating again:
When I got back into dating, I used my intuition to help me make decisions on who to see for how long.
I dated someone who was late for the three dates we made, not ten to fifteen minutes late, more like 45 to 60 minutes late. My intuition told me that this person was dating other people. On our last date, I casually steered the conversation to dating habits. My intuition was right. We had different ideas about dating, so I moved on.
Some people are just interested in having a superficial connection that leads to a physical relationship and nothing more. I, on the other hand, prefer a deeper connection and believe in spending time getting to know a person to find out if they share common values and beliefs, experiences and opinions or if they sincerely are interested in me as a person.
You can easily use your intuition to discover if the person you’re pursuing is interested in you for the same kind of relationship.
The more I put myself out there, the more chances I got to practice using my intuition to determine if it was a good idea to keep in contact with a person or to end it.
My streak of dead-ends led me to a realization that I hadn’t listened to my intuition from the start. I remembered what my intuition had told me about this idea of getting back into dating: focus on your career path first and foremost. I let someone else convince me that I should be seeing people. Instead of following my intuition I listened to the friend who suggested that I start dating again since I had been separated for a couple of years. Because I didn’t follow my intuition, I used my time and energy on something that didn’t go anywhere when I could’ve been focused on something more important.
Learn from my experiences by starting to apply the practices mentioned here. Look and listen to what your inner voice is saying. Stop asking anyone for advice and start trusting yourself, your heart, your body, and your own mind. Trust your intuition.
Acela Baladad is a writer specializing in personal narratives and poetry that share experiences, lessons learned, and wisdom gained, especially around family, self-improvement and addiction/recovery/and beyond.
This article was originally published at Good Men Project. Reprinted with permission from the author.
