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Tiffany Haddish says Taylor Swift gave her priceless dating advice to find the right guy ‘Credit score has to be over 700, no kids, have his own place’ – TheGrio
The odd couple of Tiffany Haddish and Taylor Swift have become such fast friends that the musician, who’s written quite a few tunes about bad relationships, has offered up dating advice to the hardest working actress in Hollywood.
—Tiffany Haddish teams up with Lawry for a spicy, new project just in time for the holidays—
Haddish recently took to Instagram to promote her Lawry’s Season Salt collaboration and to make a potential love connection and advertise that she was looking for a new boo.
“You know what, I’m about to go on Instagram right now and put out an advertisement because I’m very single,” the 38-year-old actress told PEOPLE while announcing her collaboration with spice company.
“I was talking to Taylor earlier — she said that’s what I should do!” the comedian added, saying that the two text “every other week or so.”
Swift offered her advice and Haddish took the bait and laid out her rider of what she looks for in a ride-or-die mate.
“Credit score has to be over 700, no kids, have his own place,” she says. “Basically don’t be living with your momma and daddy unless you are providing for [them].”
“[He has to] have confidence in himself, accomplish any task he sets out to do. Have a mole on his left foot. Good hygiene, pretty teeth,” she adds, laughing. “He has to have a great smile and has to be willing to smile.”
Good luck with that!
The Nobody’s Fool actress and the songstress reportedly ignited a friendship on the set of Saturday Night Live in 2017.
“Taylor was like, ‘Tiffany, Oh my God, I like you, we gotta hang out!’ I was like, ‘Yes! We gotta hang out girl, let’s hang out,’” she told Ellen DeGeneres last year.
Haddish then teamed up with Swift for her Reputation Stadium Tour, and made a cameo in a video.
—Michelle Obama’s ‘Becoming’ sold 725,000 copies on first day—
While we’re happy Haddish is feeling pretty joyful about love and friendships not everybody is happy about her Lawry’s deal.
Make sure you head over to https://t.co/LFc8zdAyoD for my Joyful Greens recipe and #MakeItExtra this Thxgvng with my limited edition bottle of lawrysseasoning. It even has my face on it. Link in bio.… https://t.co/rdceDqmFxp
— Tiffany Haddish (@TiffanyHaddish) November 19, 2018
In fact, some salty folks took to social media to slam the company and Haddish for teaming up, calling it racist to put a Black woman on the bottle.
lol @ saying Tiffany Haddish and her lawrys salt is promoting heart disease in the black community. Y’all really hate that chick. 😭😭😭
— Hak33m 🇳🇬 (@PrinceHAK33M) November 17, 2018
This Tiffany Haddish shit is so supremely racist, and we can’t even see it! They didn’t give her a clothing line, or accessory line. They gave her FUCKING SEASONED SALT. Why? Because she personifies what white folks think of us for fucking giggles.
— Bunchie Cakes (@De4thRHO) November 17, 2018
Others pointed out however, that the hypocrisy is real.
Diddy sells vodka. Rick Ross big ass got Wingstop. Nas is the voice of Hennessy commercials. Lebron been selling Sprite since forever. But you digging at Tiffany Haddish over seasoning salt? Shut up.
— Bey Phi Bey, Philly Chapter President. (@brownandbella) November 19, 2018
How to Stick to Your Keto Diet and Still Enjoy the Holiday Season – Men's Health
When thinking about the holidays, the term “diet” doesn’t really come to mind. And the keto diet? Definitely not.
A high-fat, low-carb eating plan, the ketogenic diet allows only 10 percent of your daily calories to come from carbs, which is roughly 20-30 grams of carbohydrates. Eating more than this could knock you out of ketosis, or fat burning mode.
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To put this into perspective, half a cup of mashed potatoes has about 11 grams of carbs, meaning you’ll have to skip many of your holiday favorites.
Yet you can stick to your keto diet by choosing the right foods and spending more time mingling with friends. Stuffing your face with green bean casserole and pie might seem like the point of Thanksgiving, but it’s really not.
Here’s how to survive the holiday season when you’re limited to keto-friendly food and drinks.
Beware of hidden carbs
Turkey drumsticks and pie might seem like high-fat items, but they’re not necessarily keto-friendly. On its own, turkey is great for keto, but if it’s doused in gravy—which is made with flour, you could get kicked out of ketosis. And be cautious of vegetables since they could be prepared with non-keto ingredients.
“Green bean casserole contains 19 grams of carbs, so it’s also out,” explains Ginger Hultin, a Seattle-based dietitian and Spokesperson for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. On their own, cranberries have 12 grams of carbs per cup–but that number will definitely go up when made into a sugary sauce or relish.
In addition to these deceivingly non-keto foods, you’ll need to stay away from grains, starchy vegetables (like sweet potatoes), certain dairy products, legumes, and sweet beverages and cocktails.
Bring something to the table
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If you’re worried about breaking keto, bring a dish that’s safe to eat. As a bonus, it doubles as a gift to your host or hostess, too.
Good examples include a simple salad with olive oil, side of non-starchy vegetables (think Brussels sprouts or broccoli), or a keto-appropriate dessert, says Hultin.
“Super keto friendly options include broth-based soups with green leafy veggies, mashed cauliflower (instead of potatoes), big, beautiful, fresh green salads with vinaigrette dressing (no sugar), [and] you can find recipes for no-sugar added cranberry sauce,” she says.
If you’re giving pumpkin pie a keto makeover, you’ll need to forego the crust and sugar. “Use heavy cream or coconut cream and sweeten with a no-carb stevia or sugar-alcohol product,” Hultin says. “Because of the carb count in canned pumpkin, you may need to restrict more from other foods,” she advises.
Keep your meal simple
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“For the holidays, you’ll need to keep it simple if you’re on a ketogenic diet,” Hultin warns. Basically, you’ll want to stick to meats–turkey, beef, salmon–and green veggies. Be cautious of sauces and dressings as they likely have added sugar or other non-compliant ingredients.
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But you can make your own sauces using olive oil, mayo, or blended avocado as a base. Then, season with salt, pepper and plenty of fresh or dried herbs for no-carb flavor.
Now is not the time to experiment with different foods, and you don’t want to start interrogating the chef or host about what’s inside each dish.
Ignore negative feedback
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Your family and friends might think you’re a downer for being keto, or they may not understand your desire to diet during the holidays.
“People you’re eating with may be confused about the new dietary pattern you’re following. You can say something like, ‘I know you care about me but I’m working with my doctor on this diet and it’s prescribed for a specific reason for my health,’” says Hultin.
“With friends and family, let them know all the healthy foods you can eat, like green veggies, fresh meat, seafood, and poultry,” she says.
Ignore the negative talk and stay strong—it’s your body and lifestyle.
Choose your favorite carbs
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Spend your net carbs on foods you look forward to each year. Don’t just eat a roll because it’s there—unless bread is your favorite part of the meal. If you love pie or potatoes, measure the serving size so you don’t overdo it–and enjoy every bite.
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If you want to drink alcohol, you’ll have to include that in your total carb count. Generally, you’ll want to avoid beer, stick to hard alcohol, which is carb-free, and avoid sugary holiday drinks and mixers.
For cocktails, anything sweet like juice, or cola-based mixers, are out the window. Most clear liquors like vodka, whiskey, gin, scotch, rum, and tequila contain zero carbs on their own,” Hultin explains. Mix these with soda water or plain water and garnish with a lemon, lime, or sprig of rosemary for a keto holiday cocktail.
Focus on non-food activities
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Sure, food is pretty damn important during the holidays, but it’s not why we all gather together. Instead, focus on participating in your favorite family traditions. Plus, you can easily eat dinner before enjoying the holiday parties.
You can also start new healthy holiday traditions, like running a race, playing a sports game, or cooking healthier (and keto-friendly) meals with family and friends. Be grateful for people—not food—this year.
Parental advice can help reduce youth dating violence – Hindustan Times
It turns out, if parents talk to their children about all the non-violent ways that can be used to resolve conflict, it can reduce youth dating violence.
According to a recent study, parents who talk to their children about non-violent ways of resolving conflict may reduce children’s likelihood of physically or psychologically abusing their dating partners later.
However, when parents give contradictory messages, it implies that violence is acceptable in certain circumstances.
“Show the value of parents advocating non-violent responses to conflict. Youths may be getting a mixture of both violent and non-violent solutions from their parents, but in our study, it was those non-violent messages that really protected kids from perpetrating violence in their romantic relationships,” Rachel Garthe, lead researcher of the study.
Garthe and her co-authors surveyed a random sample of more than 1,000 sixth-, seventh- and eighth-grade students about their parents’ views on handling conflict. The assessment included questions such as whether the child’s parents condoned fighting as long as another person started it, or if their parents urged them to stay calm or walk away if another person said something disrespectful to them.
The majority of the students – ranging from 82%-88% across all the waves of data collection – reported receiving a mixture of parental messages that endorsed peaceful as well as aggressive means of handling disputes.
Students also were surveyed about their perpetration of dating violence during each three-month period prior to their completing a survey. The students were asked if they had engaged in six forms of physical violence, such as shoving their romantic partner, and four types of psychological aggression, such as intentionally provoking jealousy in their boyfriend or girlfriend.
Students rated each act of dating violence on a 0-3 scale, with a “0” meaning they had never engaged in that behavior and a “3” meaning they had done it 10 times or more. Garthe said the prevalence of dating violence among the students surveyed was high across all years of the study.
As many as 35%-45% of the students indicated that they’d committed at least one act of physical or psychological aggression against their boyfriend or girlfriend. These associations between parental messages and youths’ likelihood of perpetrating dating violence were consistent for males and females, Garthe said.
First Published: Nov 20, 2018 11:19 IST
Lack of communication derails relationship – Detroit Free Press
Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Dear Carolyn: I recently broke up with my girlfriend, who had been saying repeatedly of our relationship, “This isn’t working.” She was referring to things like, we don’t live close enough to each other to make getting together quick and easy, and that our financial and career situations are in very different places right now. When I broke up with her I thought she would basically agree it was the right thing to do, given her repeated complaints.
Instead, she cried, screamed, and then told me, “This isn’t working,” was supposed to mean, “Just dating isn’t working so you should propose.”
I’m kind of flabbergasted. Does the fact that I didn’t pick up on what she was saying mean I have problems with reading people? Or does it mean she has problems with communicating, which is all the more reason I was right to break up?
– This Isn’t Working
It means you both have problems with communicating.
She didn’t say what she actually meant, and you didn’t ask her to explain what she meant, or ask what solutions she had in mind for the “isn’t working” stuff like commutes and finances. And/or you didn’t say, “I’m confused, I think it’s working great – I really love being with you.”
Now, you might be thinking, you asked and she answered and so you did your part. But if all this time she was really trying to hint-nudge you toward a proposal, then presumably the emotional/physical connection was at least somewhat good, yes? And so there was some kind of a gap between that emotional/physical connection and the verbal message of, “This isn’t working.” Good communication on both sides is what turns a confusing message into a coherent one.
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Not for nothing, but I don’t get any sense from your letter that you actually love[d] her. If you’re looking for “all the more reason I was right to break up with her,” then here’s one: If you don’t feel like a piece of you has been removed with this breakup, then she’s not the one you want to marry.
Revisit as appropriate if both of you learn how to talk.
Dear Carolyn: My daughter’s friend, who grew up in foster care, likes to call me Mom. I don’t want to sound like a Meany McMeany, but I only want my daughter to call me Mom. I cringe every time her friend says the M-word, but I never correct her. I have been super kind to her by buying her things, making sure she has food at home and giving her rides from work. Should I just suck it up?
– Not Your Mom
I actually sucked in my breath reading this.
It is great that you have given material support to your daughter’s friend. But this person, who has no family of her own, is giving you the gift of love. If you can look at that gift in your hands and seriously feel annoyed that you can’t exchange it for a different size or color, and if you think you can aw-shucks this annoyance using cutesy poo McLanguage, then I don’t know what I can possibly say to you to change your mind.
Heart, I should say. To change your heart.
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