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Could crying in the corner of a pub REALLY bag me a man? I put bonkers dating advice to the test

MODERN dating has let me down. I have an aversion to swiping and never mastered the art of “sliding into someone’s DMs” which, these days, leaves my romantic options limited.

But what if I could wind back the clock and try dating techniques from the days before Tinder? Thankfully for me, a dating article from 1958 recently went viral with some inspiration.

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Fabulous writer Lauren has been struggling with modern dating, so she decided to try some 50s tips for finding love

In the piece “129 ways to get a husband”, published in a once-popular women’s magazine, tongue-in-cheek advice ranged from learning how to gut a fish to carrying a hatbox.

So, armed with my new dating guide, I hit the streets on a vintage husband hunt. It couldn’t be any worse than an evening of mindless Tinder trawling… could it?

 This article loaded with ludicrous 1950s dating tips recently went viral

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This article loaded with ludicrous 1950s dating tips recently went viral

Stand on a busy street with a lasso

I can only assume that in the 50s the spectacle of a woman with a lasso would attract attention from good-humoured gents.
Unfortunately in London today, people making a fool of themselves in the street is relatively commonplace – and lassoing is actually really hard work.

The swinging action required to get an open loop up in the air then project it over a person requires serious skill.

 Lauren started out trying to lasso passing men... but her rope skills weren't quite up to scratch

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Lauren started out trying to lasso passing men… but her rope skills weren’t quite up to scratch

The passers-by in London either assumed I was mental and gave me a wide berth or completely ignored me.

One man stopped to ask what I was doing while cramming down a takeaway lunch but my attempt to lasso him failed and he kindly advised me that he wasn’t the one for me.

 Unfortunately, none of the passing men were all that interested in Lauren's lasso

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Unfortunately, none of the passing men were all that interested in Lauren’s lasso

Drop a handkerchief

I can unequivocally confirm that – contrary to the magazine’s advice – dropping the handkerchief does not still work.

Supposedly, the idea is that 50s chaps would be keen to aid a damsel, but the main issue these days is that no one carries a hanky and everyone is too busy to notice if you drop one.

Despite being perfectly positioned on a busy street, with a constant stream of men bustling past, not a single gent stopped to collect my fallen handkerchief.

I got a few laughs, one person pointed at it to flag up its descent to the pavement and one other made a half dip movement but didn’t quite make it to the ground to assist me.

 Dropping a hanky by a busy road was more dangerous than anything else

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Dropping a hanky by a busy road was more dangerous than anything else

On the whole I was ignored.

At one point my delicate piece of fabric blew into the middle of the road and suddenly the exercise became dangerous.

 Lauren set off armed with a small sheet of cloth and returned empty handed

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Lauren set off armed with a small sheet of cloth and returned empty handed

Bake tasty apple pies

The 50s dating experts reasoned that every man searching for a wife would be looking for a woman who can stir up a culinary storm and cater for their every nutritional need.

Little did they know that it’s 70 years later and the closest we get to baking is watching Mary Berry discuss soggy bottoms.

I didn’t have time to actually make an apple pie, so settled for an apple tart from a local deli – no one needed to know.

 Perhaps offering up a slice of an apple pie would interest the men in the office?

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Perhaps offering up a slice of an apple pie would interest the men in the office?

Armed with my shop-bought dessert and a few forks I sauntered over to a cluster of eligible bachelors and offered for them to taste my pie.

My kind offer was met with suspicion rather than gratitude and proposals of marriage.

Mindful of my tips for chatting with eligible bachelors, I threw in a couple of other nuggets to ingratiate myself.

As the magazine suggested, I tried to “point out to them that the death rate of single men is twice that of married men” but fell short when they asked for actual figures.

And conscious of the advice that “men like to think they’re authorities on perfume” I asked for fragrance advice but again, drew a blank.

 Once again, the dating tips from over half a century ago proved to be a bit dated

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Once again, the dating tips from over half a century ago proved to be a bit dated

Have a button box to sew on bachelors’ loose buttons

Still smarting from the failure of my apple pie, I brushed myself off and headed to try and snag a different single man in the office.

Back in the 50s, being handy with a needle and thread would be a vital skill for any wife – so the advice encouraged making it known you had a needle and thread close at hand.

Tinder bios focus more on how quickly people can take buttons off than reattach them – but with a sense of desperation starting to sink in, I marched over and enquired whether any men needed shirt repairs, armed with a button box and sewing kit.

 Offering to do some sewing for the fellas at work didn't quite do the trick either

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Offering to do some sewing for the fellas at work didn’t quite do the trick either

Again, the response was more distrust than romance.

Confused about the new service I was providing to men in the office, my prospective husband rejected my offer of minor tailoring.

When I explained that I wouldn’t be offering the same to the married men as they “already had women to do their sewing”, I was aggressively challenged by some women who had overheard the conversation.

I was forced to make a hasty retreat.

 Lauren's offer to help fix any errant buttons wasn't appreciated

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Lauren’s offer to help fix any errant buttons wasn’t appreciated

Stand in the corner and cry softly

It was time to bring out the big guns – and I’d saved the best pulling technique until last.

In the 50s it was reasoned that chivalrous men the world over would climb over tables to comfort a woman in tears, and I hoped my damsel in distress act would still turn some heads.

Unfortunately these days bars are often packed with mascara-stained cheeks on a night out and often the blokes wisely opt to just leave well alone.

Even so, I found a suitable corner in a semi-busy bar and ordered a glass of water – I would need to hydrate if I was going to generate actual tears.

 When all else failed, Lauren set off to her local and had a good cry - hoping some man would take sympathy

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When all else failed, Lauren set off to her local and had a good cry – hoping some man would take sympathy

Mustering all of my GCSE drama skills, I started to gently sob.

I took the opportunity to glance around as I wiped my eyes and realised that not a single person cared.

I upped my game and let out lady-like wails; perhaps they just hadn’t spotted me?

Still nothing – not even a sympathetic smile.

 Crying alone in the corner of a room isn't all it's made out to be

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Crying alone in the corner of a room isn’t all it’s made out to be

 Even Lauren's best efforts weren't enough to elicit a sympathetic smile... let alone any genuine interest

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Even Lauren’s best efforts weren’t enough to elicit a sympathetic smile… let alone any genuine interest

All in all, my attempts at picking up a partner 1950s style were an epic failure.

Displaying my “wifely” talents didn’t impress the men in the office and I couldn’t get any attention with my hanky and tears.

Even trying to physically entrap a fella ended in disaster. But at least “the time I tried to lasso a bloke” will be a good conversation starter on my Hinge profile.

Hear Blake Shelton Cover George Jones' Novelty Hit 'The King Is Gone'

Blake Shelton pays homage to George Jones, Elvis Presley, the Flintstones and Jim Beam bourbon in his latest “Friends and Heroes Session” release — a cover of “The King Is Gone (So Are You).” The 1989 single by Jones was penned by songwriter Roger Ferris and was one of the country icon’s last for Epic Records before he began recording for Nashville’s MCA label.

The otherwise forlorn tale of a man drowning his sorrows in whiskey presents a bit of absurdist humor as Shelton sings, “I pulled the head off Elvis, filled Fred up to his pelvis,” draining the contents of an Elvis-shaped Jim Beam decanter into a “Flintstones jellybean jar” (so-phrased because that presumably flows better musically than “jelly jar”).

The song’s irresistible sing-along chorus incorporates animated character Fred Flintstone’s catchphrase “yabba-dabba-doo,” which was actually part of the track’s title on early pressings of Jones’ LP, One Woman Man, but later changed to avoid a legal hassle. As the story continues, Shelton finds himself in conversation with both Elvis and Fred, who offer him dating advice before he finally comes to the realization that he won’t be forgiven for his past transgressions. By the song’s end, all he’s left with is a broken decanter — the result of punching Elvis’ nose.

Shelton’s previous Friends and Heroes Session was another ode to a potent potable, “Tequila Sheila,” which featured Bobby Bare, who had a hit with that Shel Silverstein-Mac Davis song in 1980. Shelton will launch his Friends and Heroes Tour on February 14th in Oklahoma City, a trek that features Trace Adkins, Lauren Alaina, the Bellamy Brothers and John Anderson.

7 side hustles you can start from your couch

If you’re alive in 2018, you’ve probably heard of the side hustle. These days, it seems like everybody has one. In fact, if you’re a millennial, half of your peers already do.

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Side hustles allow you to earn extra income, supplement a still-growing business, or get paid for a hobby you enjoy.

Many people hesitate to start a side business because they think it’ll be complicated. But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be. You don’t need to go to an office, hire employees, or spend hours cold-calling to succeed.

And sure, you may only earn a few hundred dollars per month at first. But because these side hustles cost almost nothing to start, the money you rake in will become pure profit.

Excited yet? Here are seven side hustles you can start from your couch.

1. Sell an information product

People love to learn new things, and you can profit from packaging your advice, knowledge, or expertise into a sellable product.

Are you an expert at getting the best deals at Disneyland? Know how to train pets? Give good dating advice? You can turn those insights into an ebook or course that people will pay for.

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With information products, you pay an initial cost to create the resource and the website where it’s hosted, but it costs you nothing to produce extra copies of the book or course for new customers. That means that after you cover the initial costs of creating the product, you’re looking at almost pure profits from each sale.

If you create a solid information product and promote it well, it could earn you substantial passive income for years to come.

For instance, if you sell an ebook about dog training for $10 and get an average of 25 people to buy it every month, you’ll rake in an extra $2,500 per year. Or if you build an interactive course teaching men how to talk to women and sell it for $1,000, just one purchase a month will boost your income by $12,000.

2. Become a virtual assistant

A virtual assistant is like a regular assistant, only they connect to the business person online. They’re often hired by the hour, which means you can work as many or few hours per week as you’d like.

A virtual assistant can do practically anything, but the work often includes organizing resources and documents, scheduling appointments, taking calls, accounting, research, writing, proofreading, or editing.

If you have great attention to detail and would rather work with others than start a business by yourself, this could be a profitable choice for you.

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Freelancing websites like Upwork and Fiverr often have job openings for virtual assistants. You can negotiate your own price with the client and clarify your tasks before accepting the job.

As a virtual assistant, you can charge between $15 and $60 per hour depending on how much value you’re able to bring to your client.

3. Create a niche review website

Creating an in-depth resource on a specific niche can be a profitable endeavor.

The secret to a niche website’s profitability is affiliate marketing and advertising. The website creator writes a number of informative, in-depth articles and product reviews to help readers know which items they should purchase.

As the website’s audience grows over months and years, and more readers begin to purchase items through the website’s affiliate links, the website owner can begin to earn hundreds and even thousands of dollars per month.

The passive income blog Income School expects a well-built niche site to earn an average of 2.5¢ per page view, per month, and bring in an average of 30,000 monthly page views by the end of the first year. A niche website with thousands of monthly page views will also often receive five- and six-figure bids from investors.

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4. Proofread

We all have that friend who corrects everyone’s grammar or finds typos in menus and street signs. If you have a knack for finding mistakes in your native language, you could get paid to proofread.

Freelancing websites like Upwork and Fiverr have a steady stream of proofreading jobs, or you can start asking your friends and business connections to help them eliminate errors in their writing.

Proofreading rates can vary widely. Proofreaders who charge per word can command rates from 2¢ to 7¢ per word, or anywhere from $10 to $90 per hour. Rates depend on the quality of the job, the turnaround time, and the importance of the final document.

5. Translate

Parlez-vous francais? Or Spanish, Japanese, or Arabic? If you speak a second language, you could get paid to translate from your second language into your native language.

To find translation jobs, try online freelancing platforms made specially for translation, like Gengo and Unbabel. Or post your profile on ProZ, where clients search for translators and post translation jobs on the site-wide job board.

Translators generally charge between 10¢ and 25¢ per word or $30 to $50 per hour. Like proofreading, rates depend on quality, time constraints, and the importance of the translation.

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6. Teach English

You’re reading this article in English, which means you’re a speaker of the most in-demand language on the planet. Millions of people attempt to learn English every year, which means English teachers are in high demand.

Websites like iTalki and Cambly are online platforms for anyone who wants to teach English or other languages to people of all ages. If you live in North America, you have more options, like teaching English to Chinese children through VIPKID or Qkids, or to Korean children through Englishunt.

Rates for English teachers can vary based on your experience and skill level. Cambly pays $10 per hour, VIPKID, Qkids, and Englishunt pay between $13 and $22 per hour, and iTalki allows teachers to set their own price.

7. Start a content site

I know what you’re thinking: “Seriously? Didn’t everyone and his cousin already bail on their blogs because they got tired of the content-generation hamster wheel?” It may feel that way, but if you’re passionate enough about a subject, it might not feel like work.

And believe it or not, the market is still not saturated. There are millions of topics that people search for every day, and many of them have not been written about yet.

Even if your blog is about a popular topic, you can still find your unique angle, says Henneke Duistermaat in her book Blog to Win Business. “You can safely assume that everything about your topic has been written already,” she admits. “However, nobody has said it yet in the way you can say it.”

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There are many paths to a profitable blog. Like niche websites, you can promote products through affiliate programs and collect a percentage of each sale. Or you can place ads on each page of your blog and collect a few cents for each impression, or person who views the ad. Another option is to sell information products (see No. 1) to the readers of your blog.

If you choose your subject well and use multiple money-making strategies for your blog, you can see monthly earnings of a few hundred dollars to a few thousand dollars over time.

If you have a smartphone or computer and an internet connection, the money is yours for the taking. Whether you choose to write, teach, or help someone else succeed, you can start building your profitable side hustle today.

5 of the best dating sites for introverts, wallflowers, and shy people

Online dating is a great, non-intimidating way to put yourself in the mix.
BEST FOR WORKING PROFESSIONALS
Elite Singles
For people who have busy lives and careers, Elite Singles is the dating site for you because it’s aimed directly at successful professionals looking for other successful singles who are not often found on traditional dating sites.
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Best for something serious
Aimed at singles over 30 who are looking for serious relationships instead of something casual.
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BEST for focused dating
Great success rate with many long-term and committed couples — not to mention thousands of marriages.
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Online dating is basically the best thing that ever happened to introverts.

You can now scan for a potential partner without ever leaving the comfort zone that is your sofa. Of course, eventually you’ll need to get up and actually go on a date. But until then, scroll away my friend. After all, there are millions of people all around the planet who are now realising the strengths that introverts bring to the table.

You can even say we’re living through a worldwide Introvert Revolution. Just look at the success of self-proclaimed introvert Susan Cain’s wildly popular book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Her book has sold millions of copies worldwide, a TEDtalk she gave on the topic has been viewed over 20 million times, and she reportedly gets paid five-figures for a single appearance.

While there’s some overlap between being shy and being an introvert, Cain spelled out the difference during her 2012 interview in TIME, saying that, “shyness is fear of social judgment and humiliation, and introversion is really preference for less stimulation.”

If you’ve ever stopped to think about it, some of the most powerful people in the world are introverts, like Mark Zuckerberg and Barack Obama. Introverts are taking over and people are noticing — including those who run dating websites.

So if the idea of socialising in a noisy bar or trying to make conversation in large groups is your personal idea of hell, there are dating services out there that cater to your specific needs. Have a hard time coming up with what words to say to someone you’re into? There’s an app for that. Prefer to make meaningful connections? We found the perfect website for that too.

To help you heighten your odds of finding the person to match your awesomeness, we rounded up five of the best dating sites for introverts just like you. 

Focused online dating experience • Has a reputation for having users that are serious about finding someone special

Expensive • No searching • Sign up can be long and tedious

The Bottom Line

It has a great success rate with pairing singles together to become long-term and committed couples — not to mention thousands of marriages

Great success rate with many long-term and committed couples — not to mention thousands of marriages.

  • Free version: Yes
  • One month: £44.95/month
  • Three months: £21.95/month
  • Six months: £18.95/months
  • One year: £9.95/month
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Who’s online: eharmony’s membership pool consists of singles who reside in more than 200 countries worldwide.
How it works: eharmony uses a compatibility matching system that pairs relationship hopefuls based on 29 different dimensions of compatibility. To get started, just fill out the Relationship Questionnaire, and once you’re confirmed as legit, the website will start sending you your compatible matches. It seems to work because eharmony has impressive success rates.
How it helps introverts: eharmony has a feature called RelyID that helps verify the information provided by other members, like their name, city, and age. You know what that means? No catfishing. Also, your profile is only visible to the people who are a good match for you, so the experience can help to narrow your potentials down to only those who are actually a good fit. Those who have signed up to RelyID will have a badge on their profile, letting you know they are for real. Not everyone using the site will have verified their ID though.
There’s also Guided Communication, a four-step program of communication with your matches. Basically, its a series of questions that help to break the ice. If that doesn’t work, the site also offers free dating advice

Comprehensive profiles • Users are working professionals • Verification and privacy are taken seriously

It might take a long time to complete questionnaire • No search feature • You need a premium account to get anything out of the dating site

The Bottom Line

This dating site is considered one of the best for singles with busy careers who also want a deep and long-lasting relationship

For people who have busy lives and careers, Elite Singles is the dating site for you because it’s aimed directly at successful professionals looking for other successful singles who are not often found on traditional dating sites.

  • Free version: Yes
  • Three months: £70.17/month
  • Six months: £54.63/month
  • One year: £39.01/month
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Who’s online: Elite Singles says its users are mainly educated, relatively affluent, adults between the ages of 30 and 55 who are in search of long-term commitment. The site breakdown by gender works out to be 56 percent women and 44 percent men. 
How it works: In order to find like-minded matches, Elite Singles has you take an in-depth personality test. The test will evaluate you on your level of openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Based on the results, the smart profiling can send you three to seven compatible matches every day. 
How it helps introverts: Since the personality test can identify the traits that really make you who you are, the dating service can match you with exactly the type of personality you’d be most compatible with.  

It’s the first online dating site • Users are mostly serious about finding long-term relationships

The verification waiting period is annoying • It might take a long time to complete questionnaire • Expensive

The Bottom Line

Match is the gold standard for online dating and meeting new people

Aimed at singles over 30 who are looking for serious relationships instead of something casual.

  • Free version: Yes
  • Three months: £21.08/month
  • Six months: £18.74/month
  • One year: £16.39/month
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Who’s online: In short, this site is probably filled with your neighbours, old colleagues, new colleagues, and more. Match is pretty popular with members with diverse backgrounds who share a few common goals: to meet other singles, find dates, form romantic relationships, and meet life partners. 
How it works: Match is pretty much an open dating service. There’s absolutely no limit to who you connect with, or how often. After you set your dating criteria, the site will display possible matches. You can tweak or fine-tune the results as you wish. 
Features for introverts: Large crowds can be scary, but Match regularly hosts meet-up events where you can create genuine relationships over time. If you enjoy browsing anonymously, there’s a feature called Incognito Mode that allows you to view profiles without the other person knowing. 

Over 25 million users • Very sex positive • LGBTQ friendly

Bad and outdated design • Expensive • The dating site looks like an ad for porn

The Bottom Line

Although the site has a lot of fake profiles, it’s one of the best dating sites if you’re looking for sex and hook-ups with individuals looking for the same thing

Adult Friend Finder is a dating site for people who are looking to get laid. The site doesn’t hide that fact with euphemisms, so all of its over 25 million users are very open to the fact that sex is the main reason why they are on the dating site.

  • Free version: Yes
  • One month of GOLD: £25.30/month
  • Three months of GOLD: £16.85/month
  • One year of GOLD: £11.37/month
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Who’s online: Adult Friend Finder has more than 25 million users from all sorts of countries from all around the world, including the UK, United States, Canada, and Australia. The dating site has also been translated into various languages, such as Chinese, Dutch, and Portuguese. To be very blunt, Adult Friend Finder is a dating site for people who are looking for “no strings attached” casual sex.
How it works: After filling out a surprisingly in-depth questionnaire, which includes questions about your gender, sexual orientation, relationship status and who you’re looking to meet, users then go to the main page where they can search for people who are also looking for relationships or just casual sex.
Features for introverts: Since AFF has millions upon millions of users from around the world, there’s always a large group of people constantly using it 24 hours a day. No matter your kinks or sexual orientation and no matter the time of day or night, there’s someone on the dating site waiting for you to share your preferences, sexual desires, and maybe hook-up with you too. Adult Friend Finder is the dating site that never sleeps and allows you to really go for what you want.

Easy to meet someone like-minded • UK-centric • LGBTQ friendly

Expensive • Fewer members than sites like Match

The Bottom Line

A site that makes it easy to find someone who shares similar values to you

80% of Guardian Soulmates members are also Guardian readers, so if you fall into that category, the site makes it easy to find someone who shares similar values.

  • One month: £32.00/month
  • Three months: £21.33/month
  • Six months: £16.00/month
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Who’s online: Guardian readers, of course.
How it works:  If you believe the Guardians’ own reader profiles, this dating app should be full of “wealthy foodies who like to travel and invest”. Sounds pretty attractive to us. Guardian Soulmates might consist of a smaller pool than dating sites like Match or apps like Tinder, but if there’s any truth in the profiles, the matches you make should be interesting. Guardian Soulmates also includes a cool feature called ‘Find a soulmate’ that uses criteria that you select in the “who you’re looking for” page to give you a list of potential “soulmates”. For each individual criteria, you can set how important these aspects are to you, and if they are important to other site members, you will be matched up.
Features for introverts: You can search for matches using the “Find a soulmate” function, letting the site show you matches based on both your preferences and how well you fit the preferences of other users, so you can hopefully avoid unpleasant encounters with people that don’t compute with you.

This article originally appeared on Mashable.com