Relationships Talk

One thing can pretty much be guaranteed about any person who has just come through a divorce. No matter how much of a brave face they attempt to put on, they are likely to be emotionally fragile. Depending on how acrimonious the end of their relationship was, getting into another one may well be the very last thing on their mind. If you’ve been divorced, what advice would help you regain your confidence? What if you’re interested in getting to know a recent divorcee? What would be the best way to approach them? When it comes to using a dating website, what should you be aware of?

While a lot of pointers about dating after a divorce are down to common sense and individual circumstances, there are certain general rules which can be applied. Here is some of the best advice.

Only return to dating when you’re ready

If you want to get into dating again after coming through a divorce, the most important decision you have to make is a simple one. Are you ready? It can be quite difficult to quantify when it would be healthy for you to get back ‘into the saddle’; realistically it’s only you who can make this call. But the important aspect is to take your time before committing to a new relationship. Ensure wounds have healed before you are ready to embrace a more positive future.

Try out dating sites

Online dating is almost tailor-made for post-divorce relationships. You have a diverse range of potential partners, literally at your fingertips. You can take your time assessing the particular qualities of any of the singles you come across, deciding which of these charming individuals would be most compatible.

Try and recover that sense of optimism

It’s only natural to feel a sense of despondency when a relationship finally comes to its conclusion. However, rather than dwelling on the past, If you want to embrace your love life again it would pay to remain positive about your future. So avoid anything liable to resurrect memories, such as date locations you used to favor, or music you once adored listening to. Instead, focus on different activities to enjoy with your new partner.

Be mindful of previous relationship flaws

It would do no harm to consider where things went wrong first time around. Perhaps you were too blind to see the wheels coming off at the time, but with the benefit of hindsight, you might have a better perspective on what you would do differently. Keep these in mind as you indulge in a new courtship, and take remedial action to smooth over any potential issues as soon as possible.

Focus on less superficial qualities

Perhaps you were drawn to your first partner by physical attraction. There’s obviously nothing wrong with that, but if you want to make the most of a post-divorce partnership, try prioritizing more enduring qualities, rather than how fanciable a person might be. Attributes like kindness, reliability, intelligence, and honesty will truly bring you together. These will spur the deeper emotions leading to chemistry.

Don’t rush into a new relationship

You don’t even have to put yourself out there at all if you are still unsure of how things might progress. Take your time. Savor what it feels like to be single again after having spent so long as part of an item; perhaps latterly, an unhappy and unsatisfied part of an item. There would be no harm in enjoying the life of a singleton for a while before rushing into getting involved with someone again. Your time will come in due course.

Oct. 16, 2018  

Ange was going through a difficult time when she stumbled upon Elly Prior’s website, Professional Counselling. “My recent meltdown led me to find you,” Ange wrote in a thank-you note to the seasoned therapist. “I’ve only read a few pages of your website, and I love it.”

Elly’s website is full of informational resources on how to cultivate better relationships, better endings, better moods, and better dating lives.

Ange said she didn’t feel comfortable talking to a counselor about her problems, so she appreciated having a place where she could browse, learn, and grow anonymously. The website’s free advice articles gave her the encouragement and insight she needed to move forward.

Since 2001, Elly has shared straight-to-the-point dating and relationship advice with an ever-growing online audience.

Elly ran a private therapy practice for 22 years, and, now she continues to provide counseling thanks to her website.

Professional Counselling is an authoritative resource at the intersection of relationships and mental health. Elly has compiled decades of professional knowledge in clear, step-by-step articles. She deftly educates and advises readers struggling to deal with emotional issues, including infidelity, alcoholism, dependency, depression, and PTSD.

Elly uses a conversational tone to identify why people are hurting and what they can do to resolve their feelings, repair their relationships, and cultivate a healthier frame of mind.

“I want to deliver the very best advice,” she said. “I want to connect with my audience and make it personal. I want my audience to see who I am and what I stand for.”

Articles & Videos Deliver Practical Relationship Advice

Professional Counselling has branded itself as a “mind and relationship guide” for partners of all ages, orientations, and backgrounds. While 70% of readers are women, Elly said she has seen a steady increase in the number of men looking for answers on her site. She gives practical and easy-to-understand advice that works for both men and women. Anyone who wants to maintain a healthy relationship can go on the website and read up on what they can do to let go of their baggage and reach their goals.

Elly can help readers identify the symptoms of a nervous breakdown or recover from a breakup. She can counsel partners through rough patches or support singles after a divorce. She dives deep into these complex issues and makes them feel a little less complicated.

Professional Counselling offers an in-depth look at how mental health impacts relationships.

“I don’t use high-brow terms,” she told us. “I use plain language and speak as if the person is sitting across from me.”

Her compassionate and down-to-earth tone is a great comfort to readers facing difficulties and worrying that there’s something wrong with them. Again and again, Professional Counselling reinforces the idea that there’s nothing so wrong that people can’t fix.

If a reader is in a serious crisis, Elly recommends that he or she seek affordable online counseling, so they can do the one-on-one work that leads to lasting breakthroughs.

In the next year, Elly plans to create more video content for her website and thereby make her counseling more engaging and personal. The videos will answer common questions readers have posed on her website, and she will also address dating and relationship issues she has dealt with in her therapy practice.

“As a therapist, I could see no more than 20 clients per week,” she said. “Now, just think how many people I can reach online. There’s no limit to that.”

In the Works: A Forum for Divorcees Over 50

Elly is on a mission to give everyone access to qualified counseling and mental health information. She has built her website to serve as a one-stop shop that can answer questions, address concerns, and recommend holistic solutions. Clients can learn on their own time and at their own pace with the support of a professional and highly-qualified counselor.

As you can see from Elly’s testimonials, Professional Counselling has had a positive impact on the lives of many people. “I just feel the need to let you know that I am in awe of the work you do here,” said Charlie. “Thank you so much for being a wonderful and caring person. The world needs more people like you!”

“Thank you so much for being a wonderful and caring person. The world needs more people like you!” — Charlie, one of Elly’s readers

The positive feedback has spurred Elly to continue creating helpful resources for singles and couples in need.

By producing more and more content, Elly hopes to increase her influence and speak to an audience that is often neglected in the dating industry. She told us her readership currently skews younger, around 18 to 40, and she sees tremendous opportunity for growth by attracting Baby Boomers who have been through a divorce and are ready to make a change.

“I cannot believe how much I have improved, and I really would not have been able to get through it without your help.” — Katie, one of Elly’s former clients

Furthermore, by partnering with Better Help, Elly can direct her visitors to resources that can help singles identify their negative dating patterns, stop repeating the same mistakes, and seek healthier relationships in the future.

“On the whole, I think anyone can benefit from Professional Counselling,” she told us. “I don’t have a specific goal on my to-do list, but I’d like to make myself available on Patreon and create a structured forum for clients and see where I can go with that.”

Elly Offers Professional Insights With a Personal Touch

Elly continues to guide singles and couples with therapeutic and compassionate advice. She has made her professional knowledge and experience accessible to a vast online audience, and many people have written her to say thanks.

Professional Counselling is a constructive resource where anyone in an emotional crisis can seek professional assistance. The website provides a safe and nonjudgmental space to ask questions and discover answers. A library of free articles empower readers to tackle their personal problems and overcome obstacles so they can live their best life.

Elly’s authoritative content gets to the heart of mental health and relationship issues, which she discusses with professionalism and sensitivity.

“You seem gentle in your approach. I guess it kinda surprised me,” Ange said in her testimonial. “I imagine your website to have helped many people, from your tone alone.”

But it’s both their whirlwind romance and the fact that so many people have been following their relationship, week-by-week, that will likely make calling the engagement off more emotionally difficult for Grande and Davidson. But calling off a wedding is hard no matter what, and it can be even more difficult when the relationship was short and intense, says Guy Winch, PhD, a psychologist and author of How to Fix a Broken Heart. When a couple has a whirlwind romance, their feelings have been burning brightly for their whole relationship and it can be devastating to come down from that high.