Relationships Talk

Clarke Gayford vowed to name his kid “Danger” before becoming a dad.

Gayford who with the Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern announced the name of the daughter Neve Te Aroha Ardern Gayford at the weekend has previously spoken publicly about giving children “rad” middle names.

In a series of light-hearted videos made eight years ago before he and Jacinda became a couple, Gayford encourages parents to give their kids a middle name that says “they are not as old and as boring as they seem now”.

Gayford, who reveals his own boring middle name is Timothy, suggested parents choose a fruity name such as Delicious or a useful name such as Not guilty.

“The only times they are used is when you are doing something bad like when you are in court or getting married.

“Throw something out there that just makes it a little bit more interesting.”

He said he had already decided that he would call his middle child Danger because “then danger will quite literally be their middle name”.

While Gayford obviously had a change of heart over using the name Danger, he did take his own advice about choosing an interesting middle name for his first born and instead named her after the small rural Waikato town Te Aroha, which has a population of 3,906. Her second middle name Arden represents her mother’s last name.

Ardern told media on Sunday they had chosen Te Aroha as a tribute to the amount of love the baby had been shown.

“All of the names we were gifted along the way, I thought how do I reflect the generosity particularly from all of the iwi who gifted us names.

“Te Aroha seemed to be a way that we could show that love and generosity. It is also the place where all my family are from and I grew up under that mountain.”

Gayford features in five short clips on the You Tube channel “Rattle Ya Dags” where he also jokingly imparts other valuable and what he describes as perhaps controversial advice to viewers. He is among a raft of other well-known Kiwis, including Jason Gunn, Simon Barnett and Peta Mathias, imparting tips.

In the one titled Bad Relationships, Gayford tells people to start every new relationship badly such as not turning up to a date or kissing an ex so that their partner’s expectations of them can only improve.

“… Improve the relationship slowly therefore surprising your partner ‘oh you brought me flowers, you never brought me flowers before’ – surprise. You will also never hear those words remember when you used to, you were so much nicer when you used to do that’.

“Start slowly, improve slowly. Everyone wins. Trust me – I have had literally hundreds and hundreds of really successful relationships.”

Gayford also encourages people to visit places in New Zealand because they are “heaps radder” than those overseas “except Whanganui – that place is a shi**er”.

In what he considers to be other important advice, he also revealed that the “Dry clean only” label on garments is a lie and that the item can in fact be put in the washing machine. “Hell you can put it in my washing machine. Why don’t you grab your smalls, come round, lets go washing,” Gayford said.

After some tears-filled years in the supposed “friend zone,” Ashley Iaconetti is happily engaged to Jared Haibon. The two had been through the ringer on Bachelor in Paradise and in real life. Now Ashley I. has advice for single people who may be nervous that they’ll never find a match.

If anyone can serve as inspiration for people that think they are eternally single, it is Ashley I. In a June 21 interview with E! News, Ashley reassured her single fans, “The wait will be worth it!” That’s some simple advice, but that’s easier said than done. Just imagine how she felt waiting it out in such a public manner on several seasons of reality TV.

The two-time Bachelor in Paradise alum admitted,

“It is the sweetest, coolest thing to hear people say that we inspire and give them hope for the love in the future. A lot of the girls who watch me and us on this journey have always been in my position… Perpetually single, the guy they want never wants them back.”

After years of people publicly doubting her, Ashley I. is in a great place both professionally and romantically. She is really killing it and all she needed was some patience to wait it out until Jared came to his senses.

Ashley I. declared to E! News, “I think almost 70 percent of couples do start out as friends… It took three years to get to this very wonderful, happy place.” Hopefully this means that there will only be tears of joy for now on, for the most famous crier in the Bachelor franchise.

In that same interview, Ashley I.’s future husband Jared shared, “As of right now, we just got engaged, we’re fiancées, we’re madly in love and enjoying life.”

Oh, how far they’ve come. Pretty much every fan of the Bachelor franchise is more than familiar with their epic saga, but in case anyone needs a refresher, this is how Ashley I. and Jared got to this point. They first met on Season 2 of Bachelor in Paradise back in Summer 2015. She was immediately smitten, but Jared just wasn’t on the same page. They both returned to the Mexican resort for Season 3 of BIP “as friends”, but that did not go over well. In short, it looked like the self-proclaimed “Kardashian wannabe” would be single forever while pining for Jared.

It seemed like she finally got her reality TV love story when she “won” Bachelor Winter Games and starting dating Kevin Wendt. It was great for Ashley’s friends, family, and followers to see her get the guy, but the two just weren’t the perfect match.

Their short-lived relationship did serve a very important purpose though. It pushed Jared to realize that he was actually in love with Ashley, and he couldn’t bear the thought of her being with someone else. When the couple went public with their relationship in May 2018, they shared a nearly 45-minute video for Ashley’s web series called The Story of Us, detailing their history.

During the video, Jared admitted, “I remember I heard rumors that she might have met somebody, and I was sad.” He also said, “Sometimes I need a kick in the ass. That was a big kick in the ass.” Clearly.

Jared poured his heart out to Ashley, the two started dating and now they are engaged to get married. Ashley was right all along. So of course, there are plenty of singles who relate to their story — specifically Ashley’s point of view — and couldn’t help tweeting about it.

It’s tough attempting to date in 2018. If Ashley I. and Jared’s love story has proved anything, is that good things come to those who wait. There’s nothing wrong with remaining single, taking the time to make sure that a relationship is worth it, and then finally going official. Just ask Jared and the soon-to-be Ashley H.

According to the research, the main turn-offs were bad breath (60% of people thought this), being loud and obnoxious (59%) and talking about an ex during the date (51%). So if you’re the type to drink an entire tube of garlic paste before a date, then rip your top off and scream through a megaphone how much you still love your ex – chances are it won’t go down too well.

If we’re looking at time periods here, then 52% of people admitted to calling time on a date in less than half an hour – “Oh, my cat’s just exploded, I can sense it, I’ve got to go and clean it up” – so the pressure is on to make a good first impression. And you better do it fast. Within 15 minutes if you want that second date. Although that said, the survey also found that people only need around 13 seconds to decide if they were attracted to the other person.

Other findings include that a measley 53% would consider a second date if the other person didn’t live up to expectations, so you’ve got to pull it out the bag on the first go if you want romance to actually blossom. And how to do that? Well, apart from the ones mentioned above, here are the next ten most common turn-offs on a first date:

1. Sweating profusely

2. Constantly checking their phone

3. They talk politics all evening

4. Chewing gum loudly

5. Social-media obsessed

Being a sister comes with a lot of perks. You get a friend for life, someone to share clothes with, and a person you can trust with every secret. If you have a sis, you’re already one lucky girl, but as the younger sis, you get some extra bonuses. You see, there’s no denying that your big sister understands you like no one else, and always will.

Sure, you have your best friend who’s like the PB to your J, but your sister is the sandwich maker who knows exactly what kind of PB and what kind of J you need for the perfect lunchtime combo. You may think you and bae click on another level over everything, from movies to music — but you and your big sis wrote the book on how to click like that. As someone who is basically you in a nutshell, but a few years older, she understands everything you’re going through, and that’s what gives her those dope sister powers.

Pretty much, your big sister knows you better than you know yourself, which can be a bit annoying at times, but ultimately, you love it. It comes in handy, and it’s all because of these six things that makes your sister so special.