Category Archives: Relationships
If You're Dating Someone Who Has A Child, Here Are 5 Important Pieces Of Advice
As a woman who doesn’t want kids of her own, I’ve always been a little apprehensive about dating someone who has a child. It’s not like I’m Meredith in The Parent Trap who was eager to ship her fiancé’s twin girls off to boarding school. I like kids. I love babies. I just don’t know if I’m cut out to be a mom. And even if I am, I don’t have any real interest in being one, which is fine by me.
Truthfully, if I ever found myself genuinely interested in someone who happened to be a parent, I would be willing to give it a shot. Of course, they’d have to be OK with my views on parenthood, too, but I think it could work. For me, it would come down to how we define our relationship. My role, as of right now, would be that of a romantic partner, not a step-mom. I’m not ready for the responsibilities that come with the latter and I think it’s better for everyone involved that I disclose that going in. In the same way, I’d expect my partner to have disclaimers of their own about how they lead their romantic lives and their family lives. It’s only fair.
Understanding and respecting each other’s needs in a relationship like this is one of the first steps to navigating a potentially-complicated situation. Here are five other tips from people who’ve been there before.
Wait Until You Are In A Committed Relationship Before Meeting The Other Person’s Kids
Honestly I would avoid meeting the kids until you two are more serious. Any attachment you feel to them is 10x stronger the other way. Mainly this is from seeing my sisters date while having kids, they’ll call them dad and then they’re gone.
Be Honest About Your Intentions
So, I’m going to answer this from the other side of the coin. As a single, bi, dad of two kids… be honest and don’t just ghost. I’d rather hear ‘hey, I’m not ready for kids yet’ than just all of a sudden not hear from someone.
Know That You Won’t Always Come First
Getting ‘us’ time can be a challenge since he has custody. But it works out. As someone who was not ever interested in having kids before, it’s kind of nice to have a little one running around.
– cspyny
Treat Their Kids With Respect
I got along fine with his 10 year old son. He and I weren’t compatible for other reasons. There’s nothing that says you have to like or want kids, either. If you relax and treat them like humans, you may get more comfortable later, but if someone decides to pressure you about it, you probably shouldn’t date them long.
Follow Your Partner’s Lead
My last serious ex-gf with kids let me into their lives once we became exclusive and she was comfortable. I adopted the role of positive adult role model. She told me quick it was not my place to raise her children. I led by example in how I treated her and her kids. We broke up. I’m still cool with her but I miss the kids and pets way more then her as time passes.
Like it or not, your relationship isn’t just about you and your partner in this situation. You should maintain an open dialogue with your partner about your feelings, thoughts, and concerns as they come up. Establish boundaries early on (like when you’ll meet their kids, how involved you’ll be in their lives, and how much communication you’ll have with the other biological parent if at all) and review them as the relationship progresses.
While it’s OK to have different priorities in your lives, it’s important to acknowledge this is the case and to be OK with it for the sake of everyone involved. You may not have to be a parent but you do have to be a grown-up about this.
The “Fairy Godmother of Dating” on choosing the right mate and having rewarding relationships
As some of us walk around basking in the love and excitement of watching the Royal Wedding, it makes you wonder how do you know when you’ve found “the one”? Karen Conti is joined in studio by the “Fairy Godmother of Dating”, Dating Coach and founder of Smart Dating Academy, Bela Gandhi. Bela shares advice about relationships, dating, using online dating sites to your advantage, and more.
You can find Karen Conti on Facebook. The Karen Conti Show airs Sundays from 7pm-9pm.
Who Is Matthew Hussey? Camila Cabello's Rumored Boyfriend Has A Romantic-Sounding Career
Camila Cabello hasn’t confirmed she’s dating anyone, but that doesn’t mean fans aren’t speculating about her love life. Rumor has it that Cabello is seeing someone new: Matthew Hussey. Speculation that Cabello and Hussey might be dating started in February, when the two were seen kissing on a beach in Mexico, according to Us Weekly. But who is Matthew Hussey, anyway? The British dating coach has a lot to say about relationships, even if he and Cabello haven’t confirmed theirs.
In case you’re curious about his backstory, Hussey is a well-known dating coach and the author of a relationship column for Cosmopolitan. Some of his articles include stories like “5 Flirting Mistakes to Watch Out For” and “4 Signs That He’s Really Invested In You.”
And in addition to writing for Cosmopolitan, Hussey is the author of a dating book and the host of a dating web series. He also hosts retreats and has online programs. According to his website, his most recent retreat in Florida included topics such as “understanding people’s motives” and “knowing how to build your self-worth.” If that wasn’t enough, Hussey also has more than 1 million followers on his YouTube channel, where he shares videos filled with dating tips. And he has an iHeartRadio show about relationships, too.
If Hussey and Cabello really are together, it sounds like has plenty of insight about how to make a relationship work. And while they haven’t confirmed anything yet, in the photos E! News published in February, the pair do look quite cozy. As E! also pointed out, Cabello mentioned in a Beats 1 radio interview with Zane Lowe, not long before the beach sighting, that there was “maybe” someone new in her romantic life. She had written a song lyric that said, “I can’t say your name without smiling.” For now, though, it sounds like she’s keeping the specifics of who exactly she meant to herself.
And as a separate E! News report from February noted, Cabello seemed to take an interest in Hussey’s work before the photos were released. During a different interview with Z100, Cabello asked interviewer Elvis Duran if Hussey was in the studio, as he’s recorded interviews with Duran in the past. “I love him. He’s great. He gives good advice,” Cabello said to Duran, referring to Hussey. He wasn’t there that day, but it may have been a clue that Cabello’s admiration for the dating coach could have been more than platonic.
While Cabello and Hussey haven’t spoken out about the dating rumors, an unnamed source did share some details with E! News. “Camila recently started dating Matthew,” the source claimed. “It wasn’t something she expected, but she knew of him and really enjoys his work.”
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The source also told E! that Cabello “was a fan” of Hussey’s before they started dating, which lines up with the Z100 comments. It also might make fans wonder if he, too, was a fan of Fifth Harmony and Cabello’s solo album before the two met. After all, how cute would a mutual fandom be?
Cabello is performing at the Billboard Music Awards on Sunday night, and it’s possible that she’ll bring Hussey as her date. If they do show up together, it would definitely clarify some of the rumors. Cabello is also nominated for multiple awards at the show, including one for Top Female Artist, and having a familiar face cheer her on in the crowd would be so sweet.
If these two don’t attend the awards show together, though, don’t expect Cabello to comment on the dating rumors anytime soon. In an interview on the Dan Wootton Interview podcast in March, Cabello described herself as a “private person,” saying she wanted to “keep some things sacred.” Of course, it’s up to her whether she decides to reveal any details about her love life, but that won’t stop fans from eagerly awaiting any clues along the way.
Argentine Football Association offers clumsy advice for World Cup
The Argentine Football Association has apologized for a World Cup manual it printed advising its players and staff on how to seduce Russian women.
For some reason the Russian hosts found it offensive, although it contained such non-controversial advice as: be clean, don’t be negative and don’t treat women as objects.
In the bad old days of the Soviet Union, male visitors were advised to bring jeans and beauty products as dating incentives.
Russia is expecting around half a million soccer fans to visit the motherland starting in mid-June for the monthlong tournament.
To quote James Comey, quoting Donald Trump, quoting Vladimir Putin: “We have some of the most beautiful hookers in the world.”
