Category Archives: Relationships
Ariana Grande’s 2019 Dating Strategy Is the Most Relatable Thing You’ll Hear All Day – Cosmopolitan.com
If you’re looking for relationship advice for 2019, look no further than Ariana Grande’s Twitter account. She has a surprisingly simple plan for her love life for the upcoming year.
A fan tweeted to ask her who she’s dating right now, and this was her epic reply. “Spoiler for the rest of this year / probably my life: it’s no one. please refer back to this tweet for future questions,” which is a true mood.
Considering she and fiancé Pete Davidson broke up not even three months ago, this seems like a totally fair way to approach the new year. That’s basically what she said on “Thank U, Next” when she said she had a new love, but “her name is Ari.” The girl’s tryna focus on herself!
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Pete seems to be taking their split in stride, too. This weekend, he performed a standup routine where he joked about being namedropped in the song.
He reminded the audience that most people don’t blatantly mention their exes in songs, but “not this wonderful lady. This diabolical genius named all of us.”
Glad to see there’s no hard feelings between these two. Happy 2019!
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Dear Abby: Son-in-law's old tablet reveals secret adult dating sites – The Ledger
Advice: Tell your son-in-law what you found and ask for an explanation. What he tells you will determine what steps you should take next.
DEAR ABBY: My son-in-law gave me a tablet that he was not using, as he had upgraded. He removed most of his information. When I went to set up my accounts, I noticed his list of apps and passwords was still present and saw four accounts to an adult dating site.
My daughter and SIL have been together/married for four years. The tablet is less than 2 years old. I don’t know what to do: (1) act like I never saw it, (2) tell him what I found and hope for a good explanation, or (3) tell my daughter. This will destroy her. Please help! — SIGN ME DEVASTATED
DEAR SIGN ME: Tell your son-in-law what you found and ask for an explanation. What he tells you will determine what steps you should take next.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and my best friend, “Bridget,” do not get along. They remain civil most of the time, but one thing is threatening to ruin the peace.
When Bridget visits, she likes to bring along little toys and treats for my cats. That’s fine, but she also opens bags of loose catnip and sprinkles it throughout the house. My husband hates it because the catnip gets everywhere, and it’s a chore to clean up. When he politely asked Bridget to stop, she told him to “stuff it” and said the cats like it.
She continues to do it every time she comes over, and my husband has grown more and more upset. I’m not sure how to mediate this. What can I do? — CAT-ASTROPHE IN ATLANTA
DEAR CAT-ASTROPHE: At this point, Bridget isn’t bringing the catnip over because she thinks your cats like it. She’s doing it to antagonize your husband. If you continue allowing her to do this, it could affect your relationship with your husband, so if you’re smart, you will back him up and tell her to cut it out. (Meow!)
DEAR ABBY: I’m a medical student who has been battling depression over the past few months. I didn’t do well on a recent very important exam, and I’ve sunk even deeper into my depression.
I have tried reaching out to fellow classmates about it, but they tell me to just suck it up or assume I want attention. I tried talking to my family, but ever since the loss of a beloved pet, my parents are having a difficult time emotionally, and I don’t want to trouble them even further.
I feel trapped and lonely and there’s only so much more I can take of putting on a mask every day to pretend I’m happy. I’m not sure where to go from here. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. — LONELY AND DEPRESSED IN CHICAGO
DEAR LONELY: Putting on a mask isn’t the solution. The problem with depression is that, like any other untreated illness, it can grow worse. Because your depression began before that exam, I’m recommending you consult one of the psychiatrists at the medical school for guidance. Please don’t wait to do it. You should also tell your parents, pet death or no pet death, because they need to know as well.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Should she date an old flame even if he’s still married? – Detroit Free Press
Dear Carolyn: I rejected “Sam” years ago in favor of “Aaron.” Aaron and I are newly divorced – initiated by me – after 25 years of marriage and three kids.
Sam has been alienated from his wife for many years and moved out five years ago at her insistence. Sam initiated divorce proceedings but they ultimately stalled, and Sam and “Gina” remain married.
Sam says he stays in the marriage for the sake of their only son, who is 21 and finishing college. In my opinion he stays married because the finances work out better that way.
Now that I’m divorced, Sam wants to see me. (We have not actually been face-to-face in 10 years.) I have refused his advances. He is still married, after all.
If I didn’t want to see him, there would be no problem. Alas, I do. Please provide a long list of reasons seeing Sam is an awful idea. Thank you.
– Someone Who Wants to Not Want Sam
This is your game; I have no interest in playing it.
You obviously want to satisfy your curiosity about Sam, so do it.
Whatever you decide, the likeliest potential snag isn’t that Sam is still married to a woman he doesn’t live with and hasn’t lived with for years, but instead that you and Sam are operating from a quarter-century-old idea of what it’s like to be together.
And possible amnesia to possibly excellent reasons you didn’t choose Sam back then.
And possible blindness to the fact of billions of other men/women on earth besides each other.
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And possible temptation to snuggle into something familiar when braving some time alone might be better for you.
So if you do approach Sam, then be self-aware, logical, patient, open-minded, as skeptical as you can be without veering into cynicism, and self-aware (you say redundant, I say emphatic). And, set your bull(asterisk)(asterisk)(asterisk)(asterisk) detectors to 11. That way, when his reasons for staying married sound like excuses – to use a not-random example – you will be prepared to say, “Those reasons sound like excuses.”
This posture is the very antithesis of game-playing. Aka, bliss.
And if I’ve misread your letter and you genuinely don’t want to see Sam, because he’s still married or whatever else, then don’t.
Dear Carolyn: Can one stay happy while living with an active addict? Spouse of 35 years is a truly good and caring person, yet lies, steals others’ prescription pills, and wrecks cars under the influence.
– Dog Tired
Who is this hypothetical “one”?
We are talking about you.
You are talking about you.
Yet you’ve erased you, gone outside yourself both for your problem (the addict) and solution (“can one stay happy?”).
So humor me, please, and say aloud: “This is about me.”
Your spouse may be lovely inside somewhere but the addiction runs the show now, apparently into a tree, or worse. And you are “dog tired” because the addiction is running you, too.
So please get help, for you. (His problem is his problem.) A therapist whose training and experience focus on families of addicts is where I’d start, but if there’s a cost or scheduling issue, start with the closest Al-Anon group in the book. Please. Soon. Take care.
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Here Are 15 High School Dating Tips for the Unlucky in Love – Student Edge
“thank u, next.”
Love is a mysterious fig. Especially in high school.
At least we have Ariana Grande to help us get through the tough times with her own self-empowering wisdom on the subject.
Still, we felt we needed a little something more, like practical advice on how much to spend on a date, where to go and the best way to balance dating with study.
That’s why we decided to ask our members the most pressing dating questions, like…
“What are your high school dating tips? How early is too early to start dating? Where do you recommend going for a first date? How much should you spend? Did you have to break-up with your high school GF/BF? Why? Were you dumped? How did you cope? Did your relationship go through a rocky period after graduating or during exams? Did the relationship recover?”
Okay, not all of the advice we received was helpful, and we couldn’t rightfully co-sign some of the suggestions that came through (like actual submissions “Don’t ever get a girlfriend they ruin your life,” and “BE HOT”).
There were also disputes over the best time to start dating, and whether or not your first date should be full of distractions to keep it from becoming awkward or an uninterrupted get-to-know-you sesh.
So, take this advice in the spirt it was intended: to let you know that no one really has this dating thing figured out, but plenty have been through it before, so you’re not alone. Even Ariana’s just doing her best.
Here are our favourite 15 dating tips.
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Let her pick the movie, no matter how bad it is.
Zethery B from QLD
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Do not go to the movies on a first date! First dates are made for getting to know one another, to explore common interests and to begin to familiarise yourself with some differences (which you can’t do whilst watching a movie unless you’re going to dinner afterwards). First dates should be for deciphering whether or not someone is a possible future partner.
Nhi H from VIC
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Where do you recommend going for a first date? How much should you spend? Somewhere you can do an activity so you’re not too focused on each other (if things get awkward), but also where you have a chance to have a chat and get to know each other. Activities like mini golf are perfect because you can have fun while doing it but can also sit down afterwards and have a good conversation. This also wouldn’t break the bank.
Kate D from WA
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The best place to go on a first date is somewhere where you and your potential partner can get to know each other. A movie theatre for example is not a great first date because it doesn’t allow for that much bonding through communication. Go out to dinner, bowling, the park or to a music concert as some examples. If you can enjoy each other’s company while being in an environment where it’s comfortable to talk, then this is a great way to grow intimacy and find out what you have in common. In terms of how much money should be spent on a first date: enough to buy yourself and your lady a meal and an ice cream after.
Sam N from WA
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My high school dating tip is always split payments at the end of a date. Pay for yourself. It starts the relationship on an equal platform. Also, don’t ever feel pressured to do stuff or feel like you need to change who you are for a guy. If he’s the right guy, or even just a good guy then he won’t push you and he won’t need you to change. He will like you for you. One last thing: if he doesn’t treat his mother right, get outta there.
Estelle M from QLD
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During my Year 12 exams my relationship did get slightly rocky at times due to the immense amounts of stress on both ends of the relationship. However, having a special someone who can relate to your struggles and can understand with a deeper knowledge due to going through the same struggle means he or she may be more capable to encourage you and make you feel calmer. It is always good to have good social support systems whilst going through exams or just tackling assignments in general. However, it is very vital to also set aside a few boundaries such as labelling certain priorities at times in order to keep on task and be productive instead of being a distraction to your partner or vice versa. I believe there are always pros and cons to everything but through this exam period, for me, I would not have been able to get through without my boyfriend.
Chloe L from VIC
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During Year 12, keep a level of separation; you don’t need to be in each other’s presence 100 per cent of the time. Year 12 is stressful: keep distance and allow time for yourself. That said, DON’T LET PEOPLE TELL YOU IT’S BAD TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP IN YEAR 12. It can be done and sometimes great when you have a person with you for the ride to help.
John K from SA
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Don’t get in a relationship in Year 12. If you do get broken up with, surround yourself with friends who will cuddle you and do things you love to distract you. P.S. Perfect first date 100% Laser Tag. Show him who’s boss!
Tara C from VIC
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When dating in high school, it is so important to remember that the world you’re building is bigger than your relationship. If something goes wrong or if you break up, you have so much to look forward to, so many new people to meet and so many new more things to do. Surround yourself with people who love and support you and want to help make your world better.
Michelle S from SA
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My main high school dating tip is to never take things too seriously. You are still young and there is so much to learn and it is okay to make mistakes. Never force yourself to do anything that you are not comfortable or are not ready to do.
Marie C from NSW
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Enjoy the moments you have with them. Don’t take it too seriously, because love is very fleeting especially teenage romances.
Christine L from WA
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Never change for anyone! It’s so easy to forget that there’s someone out there for everyone and you should always do what feels right for yourself! There’s nothing wrong with waiting for the right person to devote your time to because it’ll all be worth it in the end! When you know, you know!
Cassidy H from QLD
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I never really believed in horoscopes or dating clichés. For me, the best dating advice is you’ll know you’re with right person if it feels right. Dating should be easy and fun. If you guys are arguing and yelling at each other all the time, then perhaps it’s time to reconsider.
Anne G from VIC
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Firstly, keep your relationship with your girlfriend/boyfriend separate from your circle of friends; meaning, don’t be overly affectionate while in the group, as that can get a bit awkward for everyone. Not only that but oversharing your personal moments on social media can not only be annoying for everyone but also makes your friends who aren’t in relationships feel worse about their situation, seeing you guys happy 24/7. Communication is key to a successful relationship. This is why if an issue comes up along the way, don’t talk to your friends or a third person about it before your partner. One of the worst things is when your boyfriend/girlfriend has problems with you but hasn’t addressed them to you first.
Iccha S from NSW
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I got dumped beginning of Year 12. My boyfriend was older and was part of my closest friends group at church. He broke up as it would be too much stress during HSC time and also because he needed to mentally and spiritually grow more. I respect his decision even if I didn’t cope all that well at first. But once I’d realised that there’s other people in the world and I needed to focus on the ones who did love and care for me, life became more positive. I went from living off tubs of ice cream to going on runs and cooking fun, healthy meals. A good way of coping is to do some physical activity with a close friend; one you can open up to and talk to and laugh with whilst also keeping active so you too feel good inside and out.
Crystal P from NSW
Good luck out there! And remember…
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