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“There’s an app for that!”

By now, you’re well aware of the fact that there’s an app for pretty much everything — including dating and finding true love!

Dating apps and online dating sites have become more and more common, and most people who are actively looking for love are using at least one of them. But with so many to choose from, how do you know which dating app is best for you, your specific personality type, and whatever it is you’re specifically looking for in the realm of love and relationships?

While some of the best apps and most popular sites have essentially become household names, there are some more obscure ones out there providing people with what exactly they’ve always wanted every single day.

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In today’s day and age, there are millions of single people. Meeting the right person has gotten harder and harder. Our schedules are busier and busier, and our culture does not really help the situation. We live in a consumer’s society and it’s slowly infiltrating our minds as well. We always want more or something different.

The beauty of dating sites is what they make it easy for you to find exactly what you’re looking for in. As time goes on, these dating apps and dating sites are becoming more and more of a way to make their algorithms really fit the right people together.

One of the best things about these apps is that they put you in control. You don’t have to settle for blind dates.

By the way, I suggest trying multiple apps at once, especially since most of them are free! The perfect match for you might be on only one, so make sure that you take advantage of all the possibilities that are available to you! And don’t be discouraged if you don’t immediately find exactly what you were looking for.

Be light hearted and open-minded, and you can even use these apps to practice flirting online and becoming more and more seductive!

Good things take time, and though using a dating app is going to considerably augment your chances of finding someone compatible with you, it doesn’t mean that you should immediately jump into a relationship with them. Take the time to get to know one another.

Sometimes, allowing the flame to burn too hot too soon will end up putting the fire out altogether.

Here are 23 of the best dating apps for finding true love (or whatever it is you’re looking for), based on your personality type and what you want most in relationships.

For the generic men and women of the world:

This is “the app to discover the people you’ve crossed paths with, the people you like, [and] the people you’d like to find again.” If you came across someone in real life, it will put their profile on your timeline in the app. Like the Tinder app, if you both “like” each other, you’re allowed to chat.

A new feature on the app makes it possible to send songs to each other. If you don’t want to see a specific person on Happn anymore, you just click on the cross button.

This one is great if you’re not in love with the idea of dating a total stranger. It connects you with friends of people you already know and connects your social networks. It can be reassuring knowing that you have a friend in common and what’s more, you know you have something to talk about right off the bat.

If you meet someone in real life and want to know if they’re single without asking your friends in common, the app lets you do just that. You can link your Facebook profile and browse friends of friends that are single and on the app.

This dating app claims to be a mix of some of the top and well-known dating apps like Tinder, Match, OKCupid, and Zoosk.

The filtering system is very well organized, you can set updates, organize common interests, have topic-based group chats, view full-screen photos, etc.

Here is an app that is perfect for people that are tired of having their mailboxes being filled up with messages from people that are interested.

This app gives you one match a day and you have 24 hours to decide whether or not you like each other.

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With this dating app you can video chat with your potential date before actually going out, so you can really see if you’re interested or not!

We all know that sometimes people post deceiving photos on their profiles, but with this app, you’ve got nothing to worry about.

This app is widely popular around the world and it has one of the highest ratings among users. It’s free to use but if you want to upgrade your service you have to pay.

There are about 20 million users worldwide, and one of its features allows you to geo-locate other users on a map if that function is active on their profile.

Women run the show on this app created by the former executives of Tinder. Like Tinder, you can swipe right to “like” someone and left to pass.

If the person you like liked you too, then you are able to talk, but only women can initiate the conversation! Women have 24 hours to reach out before the connection disappears.

Though it’s not as popular in the US, this is actually one of the largest online dating apps in the entire world. It encourages you to contact people that don’t live in the same neighborhoods and you can check into events.

This way, if other users are at the same bar or concert as you, you can meet up and see where the night takes you!

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This app uses your Facebook profile to link you with friends of friends. Guys get 21 matches every day at noon and they either like or pass. The algorithm then chooses the best matches for women based on the guys that are interested, and then the women get to choose who can get in touch with them.

It’s a simplified approach and the app claims to be “designed for singles who want to find something real with little or no effort.”

For music lovers:

This is an app that connects people based on their love for music. You can scan your iPhone music library or post your favorite bands and take it from there.

It’s primarily used as a romantic platform but people have been known to make great new friends with common interests as well.

For people in search of a one-night stand:

This is an app if you’re looking for a one night stand. It calls itself the Uber for Dates and says “it’s all about real dates right now, and making real-life connections.”

Users post a meeting request that lasts for an hour, and if you accept someone that’s up for meeting up, you can take it from there. For ladies, it’s free. Men can try it out for a week for free, but then have to pay for continued use.

For those interested in astrology:

This app is great for anyone that likes to read their horoscope on a regular basis. The app explores romantic compatibility and astrology and you could meet the right person for you!

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For marijuana enthusiasts:

If you’re looking for someone with whom you could share your love for Mary Jane, HighThere! is the dating app for you. Users can even add a video to their profile so you steer clear of any “catfishing”.

For the LGBTQIA+ community:

While it’s true that a large number of dating apps cater to heterosexual relationships, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t anything else out there!

One of the biggest dating apps, OKCupid offers twenty-two options for gender identity and twelve for sexual orientation, while being able to hide or share their profiles with straight people.

Her is an app developed for women who identify as being gay or bisexual, and while being a dating app it also has a community feel in which users can share content and events, and mark other users as friends instead of romantic matches.

Some dating apps for men that identify as being gay or bisexual are Grindr, Scruff, Hornet, and GROWLr.

These tend to be used for casual hookups, but GROWLr has events feature that allows you to bring some friends to an event. Surge is one of the top rated dating apps for gay men and allows users to filter based on serious relationships, or quick hookups.

For elitists:

Are you looking for someone who has the same “social status” as you do? The League links to your Facebook and LinkedIn, and users have to go through a very detailed application process. Yes, not everyone is granted entry, and once you’re in, you set very specific criteria.

If you’re looking for someone with a certain job, education, and status, this is the app for you.

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For men and women looking for someone of the same religious faith:

If sharing the same religious beliefs is one of the most important things to you, there are certain apps like Minder, CDate, and JSwipe that could be great for you.

These apps for Muslims, Christians and people of the Jewish faith all link to your Facebook profile but don’t share any details on the social network.

For haters:

Hater is a dating app that brings people together who hate the same things so that they can hate them together. Really!

It’s always great to find people with whom you have things in common, even if it’s things you can’t stand!

Once you’ve chosen the dating apps that look the best to you, don’t hesitate to reach out for any help!

Wishing you the best and above all, have fun!

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Alex Cormont, known as the French Relationship Expert, helps women find love with right man in the kind of relationships they’ve always dreamed of. His advice has been featured in Forbes, Huffington Post, GQ, Elle and more.

This article was originally published at French Relationship Expert . Reprinted with permission from the author.

COUNCILLORS have approved a controversial housing application, despite advice from their own heritage officers.

Cliffe View in Allerton is a cul de sac containing a number of Grade II listed buildings, some dating back to the 1800s.

Plans to build a “modest” single storey house on an area of waste land next to 19 Cliffe View were first granted by Bradford Council in 2009.

Construction recently started, but work was stopped after concerns were raised that the plans were different to what had originally been approved. A planning application was then submitted to increase the size of the previously approved property.

The application, by Iftikhar Ali, attracted a number of objections from neighbours, and was heavily criticised by the Council’s heritage officers, who said the new, larger home would harm the setting of the surrounding listed buildings.

They said: “The proposed dwelling is wholly incompatible with its context. It makes minimal effort to integrate. The impact on the setting of the listed buildings must be the primary planning consideration, and it would be expected that any development would maintain or enhance the setting of the listed buildings.

“There is no apparent public benefit in the proposed scheme to offset the significant harm which it would cause to the setting of the listed buildings.”

The plans went before Bradford Council’s Bradford Area Planning Panel last week, with members advised to refuse the application to protect the heritage of the area. But members went against advice of their own officers, and approved the plans.

At one point during their discussion, when it appeared the committee would unanimously pass the application, the Council’s legal advisor had to remind them that as Councillors that part of their duty was to protect the district’s listed buildings.

The changes include adding first floor accommodation – meaning the size of the property would increase from 3.8 metres to 5.9 metres.

Despite the recommendations, members of the panel said they had no problem with the building’s proposed design, with many saying it was an improvement over the originally approved single storey house. They felt it would not harm the appearance of the area more than the already approved design.

Chair Shabir Hussain (Lab, Manningham), said: “The first design looks atrocious to me, it should never have been passed. I think this design looks a lot better.”

Some members said the only problem they had with the application was the materials used, and asked the developer if stone could be used instead of render.

When it came to the vote three members voted to refuse the plans and three voted to approve them. Chair Cllr Hussain cast the deciding vote, allowing the larger house to be built.

Are you having relationship troubles? Is the long distance bothering you or do you have trust issues? Are you looking for someone to talk your heart out about these problems? Worry not. So, TV anchor, theatre personality, comedian, political satirist, columnist and author, Cyrus Broacha is here to help you: From navigating relationship trouble to helping your love life go the distance, he’s got all the dating advice you’ll ever need from your first date to something that you can’t find a solution to. From how to approach your crush to how to handle a break up, shoot your questions to Cyrus and he will answer them.

I have a crush on a guy in my class. We keep bumping into each other at least two or three times a day. We were good friends before but we recently had a fight. Now, I don’t know if he still has a crush on me. If no, then how should I impress him? — TS

TS, I once went to a Chinese restaurant in Beijing. But I really struggled to order anything. That’s because the menu was in Mandarin. Finally out of desperation I pointed at a dish on another table. Promptly the dish and the man were brought and seated at my table. Your facts are all very sketchy. You say you were friends, and then you had a fight. But what was the fight about? Was there any name calling? Any hair pulling? And why do you want to impress him if he’s not talking to you? And how would you even do that, by wearing his favourite shirt? By getting him a free subscription to Netflix? By growing 4 inches taller? Let’s focus with the now. Approach him, and find out why he’s upset, specifically. Give him a little attention, try, and, heal the wound first. Let’s repair the friendship. The ‘Crush’ will have to wait.

I am a 29-year-old guy working in a private company. I had undergone heart surgery two years back and I am now living a normal life. However, now, I am afraid to be in a relationship with anyone, as I think that the girl I like might not accept me the way I am. Please help. — RS

Looks like they were treating the wrong organ. It’s not your heart, but your mind that needs help. Don’t you remember that beautiful fairy tale by Hans Christian Anderson, where a toad with heart surgery, grows up to be a beautiful swan? (Okay, I may have mixed up 3 separate fairy tales and one story on financial embezzlement from Wall Street as well). But finally yours is a question I can answer. It’s all fairly simple. First and foremost, and the only thing you need to do is, accept yourself the way you are. That is, heart surgery and all. The cliché is true. No one’s perfect. Except may be Aamir Khan. Oh and Roger Federer, also may be Kim Jong Un. But by and large we all carry our own secret surgeries. So love thyself please. Then and only then will girls follow.

I recently met this girl at a friend’s party. We both spoke and had almost instant chemistry. However, I don’t really know if I have started liking her or is this just a passing cloud feeling. We talk to each other almost every day and like each other’s company. What should I do? — VS

VS, Paul Van Muteen, the Dutch agrarialial scientist, was the one who grew a mustard plant in cotton and water. It was he who explained that the most important dynamic in this combination was time. It’s also how the Judge explained to Charles Manson the concept of life imprisonment. In fact ‘time’, is the answer you are looking for, Mr.VS. Also let me stress by ‘Time’, I don’t mean the magazine, but instead I speak of the concept with the same name. Since you talk to each other every day, and enjoy each other’s company, let ‘time’, do its thing. Time will give you your answer. It worked for the mustard seem, it worked for the magazine it’ll also work for you.

I am in love with this senior at my college. However, I am not really sure if he is single. We speak to each other during college hours. I wanted to know how should I get this friendship going so that I could know him better and then confess my feelings. Please help. — KR

KR, the ancient Greek Philosophers, and I mean ancient, (Diogenes would have been 2,178 years old today for instance), had discovered over 645 cues in our body language that hinted at deep feelings. For example, pulling hard at your right earlobe for more than 40 seconds. Blowing air into your palms, and then rubbing the same palms on your face. Pulling your trousers up above your navel. (Oh yes, the ancient Greeks wore trousers). My point, KR, is watch his body language for tell-tale signs that he’s more than interested. And about the ‘single’, part, just ask him. If you want to be indirect, just mention how you love being free and single, he’s bound to counter his position. In cricketing terms, “watch the ball”. The signs are all out there. We just need to read them. Now for a general comment. To all H.T. readers a Merry X’mas, and a Happy New Year. And to non HT readers, “if you are not an HT Reader how come you are reading this”?

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First Published: Dec 26, 2018 12:30 IST