Relationships Talk

Aquarius

Birthday: January 20-February 18

Type: Fixed air sign

Key words: Friendly, unique, geeky, intellectual, complex

Love anthem: “Lost in Japan” – Shawn Mendes

Famous Aquarius men: Darren Criss, Harry Styles, Michael B Jordan, The Weeknd, Ashton Kutcher, Taylor Lautner, Joseph Gordon-Levitt

Best matches:

Aquarius gets along great with Gemini. They’re both air signs and can keep up with each other’s mental pace. Aries is another awesome match for Aquarius. Aquarius is endlessly fascinating to Aries, so the fire sign’s interest is never lost. They both appreciate uniqueness and understand the other’s need for independence and space.

Aquarius is an air sign, meaning he’s intellectual, thoughtful, charismatic, and an expert communicator. He’s also the sign most associated with platonic relationships and eccentricity, so it’s like dating your weirdo best friend! Everyone is attracted to his unique and unconventional nature because he’s ruled by Uranus, the planet of suddenness, invention, and disruption. His unapologetic self expression is why he’s known to break the status quo frequently and often, making him the Zodiac’s humanitarian. If you want to get with an unforgettable guy, find yourself an Aquarius! He may be a total nerd, but he’s charming, complex, and has an open mind and heart.

It’s uncommon to find an Aquarius guy actively pursuing romantic interests on dating apps. Since he’s an air sign, he’s a total people person, and prioritizes finding close friendships over relationships, which is why you have to genuinely be his bud before dating possibly enters the equation. He’s self conscious about being an oddball, so it takes him awhile to open up to you, but once he does, you’ll find he’s worth the wait!

As a reliable fixed sign, this guy is your rock and you’ll learn to love how he’s always able to be there for you when you need it. He’ll gladly listen to your problems and work to give you the best advice. Because he can detach and view things objectively, you always know he’s keeping it real. To top it all off, his natural quirkiness and great sense of humor make everything better, and just like a true best friend, he’s always there by your side through thick and thin.

As an air sign, he’s upbeat and social, but as a fixed sign, he’s a big fan of relaxing and staying in one place as much as he can. This combo is contradictory, sure, but so is Aquarius! Honestly, it’s the best of both worlds: he’s the life of the party whenever he goes out, but he’s also down to mega chill out at home. Something that will always rile him up, however, is whatever cause he’s devoted himself to. If he hears of a rally or protest, he’ll put everything else on pause so he can attend—and he’ll want to bring you along, too. As calm as he is most of the time, he’s passionate when it matters most. And he cares that you care, too, and can keep him intellectually interested.

That being said, your Aquarius boy toy is kind of like Siri. He’s super-smart, ultramodern, and programmed with fascinating traits. But at the end of the day, he can be such a robot! His supercomputer of a brain is the source of his best traits, but is also the reason why he intellectualizes and processes his emotions rather than expressing them. He easily detaches from his feelings, so your relationship will be lacking when it comes to lovey-dovey moments. And don’t even try to push him to be more romantic or intimate—he’s a fixed sign with unmatched stubbornness, so he won’t budge!

Aquarius men also tend to cause a commotion wherever they go. He’s ruled by Uranus, planet of disruption, after all, but that doesn’t justify how much he loves to showboat himself. He’s both hyper-aware of how different he is, and readily hamming it up front of others for validation. He sometimes adopts a contrary nature just for the sake of being different, it seems, especially when he’s in a bad mood. You say “yes” and he says “no,” just to make a point of not following the status quo. Don’t let his insecurities and sour attitude turn a simple disagreement into an actual argument—this undesirable aspect of his personality rarely comes out.

The best advice? Treat him like your best friend, who you love but sometimes get SO annoyed with. After all, he treats everyone like his friend, including you, so it only makes sense. But he more than makes up for this lack of romance with his never-ending commitment to his loved ones and his unforgettable presence. Your relationship with him has a very complex dynamic—it feels like you’re with your bestie most of the time, but there’s a very real sense of love and affection as well. You won’t be getting a dreamy fairytale romance, but his long-lasting love and dedication to you promises you’ll still get your happy ending!

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Capricorn

Birthday: December 22-January 19

Type: Cardinal earth sign

Key words: Dedicated, motivated, steadfast, stubborn, committed

Love anthem: “Perfect” – Ed Sheeran

Famous Capricorn men: Zayn Malik, John Legend, Bradley Cooper, Evan Peters, Liam Hemsworth, Logan Lerman, Eddie Redmayne, Denzel Washington, Ryan Seacrest

Best matches:

Scorpio is a fixed sign, so they already have the stability and reliability that Caps want so badly from their partner, and there’s a natural compatibility between earth signs and water signs. Taurus is another spectacular match for a Capricorn. They’re both earth signs and vibe well from the start, and the mutual respect these two have for each other’s strong work ethic is a huge compatibility booster!

Capricorn is the mature, assertive daddy of the Zodiac. He’s a cardinal sign, meaning he’s motivated, ambitious, and a great leader, but he’s also an earth sign, which makes him practical, productive, and über dependable. His sign is ruled by Saturn, the slow-moving planet of responsibility and structure—so he’s super serious, almost all the time! This is why he’s such a natural businessman; he’s goal-driven, brilliant in his field, and like all earth signs, motivated by money. But even if he makes enough money for the both of you, he’s only interested in being with someone just as hardworking as he is. Is he the most spontaneous guy around? Well, no, but his love for you is rock solid.

In the preliminary dating stage, it takes a while for this guy to let his walls down. He easily comes off as cold and intimidating, even though he probably isn’t trying to, and he’s a tough nut to crack. Once he’s sure you’re actually into him, he makes a move. He’s the earth sign most likely to approach you first, thanks to his motivated nature as a cardinal sign, but don’t expect flowers and chocolates! He’ll shoot you a text or just come up to you and say: “Hey, I like you.” He’s big on routines and schedules, so he’ll probably send you a Google calendar invite and remind you at least once before the fact.

He’s not good with emotions—he’s the opposite of Cancer, the most emotional sign—but he tries his best to be affectionate. Acts of service is his chosen love language–his earthy nature means he’s only really concerned with what’s tangible, so he’ll never be an over-the-top romantic. Being the most business-minded sign, a lot of the help he offers you is in the form of assisting you in career or education-related matters. You could be pulling a hell of an all-nighter finishing up a presentation, but once he swoops in to help out, the whole project is finished in the blink of an eye.

When he’s with you, he invests a huge amount of time and energy into your own personal development so you can find success with all of your goals. One of his greatest talents as the zodiac’s cardinal earth sign is being a phenomenal leader that can offer practical advice while also leading by example, which you’ll definitely observe if you’re around him long enough! No matter how big the job is, he’s ready with a plan. He’s equally as unapologetic about pushing you to achieve your best work, too! If he’s confident that both of you are independently crushing it, then he’s happy. He wants a powerful union between two equally-successful lovers, and a relationship with this guy promises to be stable, secure, and have a ton of lasting value.

However, life isn’t always about constant wins, and a Capricorn is seriously under a lot of pressure from trying to make it so. Impressing him takes a lot, and sometimes the only indication of his approval is a quick smile or a nod. He’s also so focused on working that you might go a couple days without hearing from him–work-life balance is uh, not a balance with him.

Your Capricorn guy is no-nonsense and grounded, just like all earth signs. He’s a pessimist, to be honest, and a lot of the time his aloof reputation comes from the fact that his outlook is rarely bright. This is why he’s such a control freak—he thinks the only way to avoid hurt or disappointment is to be in charge of everything. Don’t worry about him being too possessive or controlling, though. He takes respect very seriously, too, and if you feel like he’s stepped on your toes, just speak up about it! He’s very cut-and-dry with how he approaches matters, so as long as you’re the same way it should be smooth sailing.

He’s such a hard ass because it’s in his nature, truthfully, and he has nothing but the best intentions (because he always has to be the best, remember?) His constellation, the Sea Goat, is also known as the Mountain Goat by some, and like a mountain goat, this guy has lofty goals, aims high, and jumps higher and higher up to reach success! The view is nice from up top, and he wants nothing more than to share that with you.

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A decade ago, when Mandy Ginsberg asked couples how they met, some would give a fictitious answer: “Oh, we met through friends.” When she then revealed she worked at an online dating company, their answers shifted: “Oh, we actually met through Match,” they told her.

In her nearly 13 years at Match Group Inc., where she became chief executive in January, Ms. Ginsberg has watched the stigma of online dating fade almost entirely. Today, many people even proudly pursue a multiapp dating strategy.

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Dear Pastor,

Good day to you. First, I must congratulate you on the wonderful work that you are doing. I am having a problem, and I hope that you will be able to give me some advice. This is my first letter to you. I am writing to you from the United Kingdom.

My partner and I are British. He was raised in Jamaica and returned to the UK a few years ago. He has a son who was born in Jamaica when he was in his 30s.

Last year around summer, a young lady and her friends went to Jamaica on holiday and met his son. She then went back to Jamaica in March of this year. My fiancE met this young lady for the first time at the train station in Manchester. He told me that she had three suitcases and told him that she was doing research at the university for the 10 years she has been living in London. She said that when she is finished with university, she will go back to Jamaica to do business and open a laboratory. She also wants him to get his son to the UK. My partner asked her what would happen if he gets his son here and he did not go back home. He did not hear from her until in August when she called him and told him that she was going to Jamaica, and by accident, she told him that she was also five months pregnant for his son.

She told him that he should bring a copy of his passport because she wants it to take to Jamaica and to sort out a new birth certificate for his son. His name is not on his son’s birth certificate. I told him not to give this lady his passport details as we don’t know the lady’s correct name and address. She also said that she is working at a lab. My partner gave her a copy of his passport. She also asked him to sign his signature at the back. I could not believe that he did such a stupid thing.

We haven’t heard anything from her since. I thought that what if she took his details to sell someone to get them a British passport. I don’t trust this woman. I think she is a ‘con’ and a liar.

The young man in Jamaica will be heartbroken. I do not believe who she claims she is and what she is studying at university. How did she support herself throughout the years if she is not working?

She is currently in Jamaica and she said that she was in the hospital for more than three months and started a new job. Which employer would give their employee three to four weeks holiday in August? Very strange.

CAN’T TAKE THE STRESS

I told my fiancE that this woman is a scammer. He is stressing me out with their problems. I have a heart problem, and I can’t take on too much stress. I told him that this woman is messing up his son’s head. I told him that when she comes back to the UK, he needs to find out who she truly is. I don’t even think she is living in London. How is she going to cope as a single mother? London is very expensive.

I was praying and I asked the Lord to tell me about this lady. In my dream, I saw her lying on the floor and was late in her pregnancy. I went to speak to her and then I found myself pulling out a cushion from under her dress and she was not pregnant. She was faking. Then I started to rebuke her in the dream. She was very angry when she found out that I exposed her. She also told the young man in Jamaica and his family that she travels the world and does research.

I was shocked that during her travelling she could not find a wealthy or an educated man. I told my fiancE that in order for her to get the young man as a permanent resident here, she should return to Jamaica and marry him. She has to be earning PS18,600 to get him into the UK. God knows what she has up her sleeve when she returns to the UK. Pastor, I will keep you up to date.

May God bless and keep you, Pastor.

B.B.

Dear B.B,

Your man should not have given this woman any information about his son. I will be glad to hear more of your story next time. But don’t allow what she has done to get you ill. Be prepared to tell the authorities the truth if you suspect that this woman is indeed a con.

Pastor