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Scorpio Man Personality Traits, Love Compatibility, and Dating Advice – Cosmopolitan.com
Scorpio
Birthday: October 23-November 21
Type: Fixed water sign
Key words: Intense, passionate, emotional, secretive, sexual
Love anthem: “Without Me” – Halsey
Famous Scorpio men: Frank Ocean, Mark Ruffalo, Jimmy Kimmel, Adam Driver, Leonardo DiCaprio, Joe Biden
Best matches:
The absolute best match for a Scorpio is the fellow water sign, Cancer. There’s natural compatibility between signs of the same element, and both signs are huge on trust and intimacy. Virgos are great matches for Scorpio as well. No other sign is as dedicated as a Virgo is to their lover, and when Scorpio recognizes how devoted his Virgo lover is, it creates a super tight bond.
Scorpio is a paradox. His sign is classified as a fixed sign, meaning he’s loyal, dedicated, and stuck in his ways, but he’s also a water sign, meaning he’s emotionally fluid and filled with passion. He’s co-ruled by Pluto, planet of transformation and change, and Mars, the fiery planet of action and energy, resulting in a mysterious figure who’s a hidden volcano of intensity right beneath the surface. His sign is one of the most intimate and he’s an all-or-nothing kind of guy, so if he lets his walls down, you can rest assured he’s completely enthralled by you!
His sign always has a ton happening beneath the surface, no matter how stone cold he appears to be on the outside. No topic is too taboo for him to tackle–he has insane emotional and psychological depth, and is incredibly cunning. Getting to know a Scorpio is an experience in and of itself, but he takes it one step further by intensifying everything you do together. It’s never just a kiss or a hug with him—it’s an embrace. You don’t go on dates with him—they’re adventures that quickly become vivid memories.
He’s also super big on commitment. Because he’s afraid of others judging the wild thoughts that are always flying around in his head, he’s insecure and doesn’t let people in easily. After the first couple of dates he’ll have subjected you to several “tests” and probed you psychologically, whether you know it or not! Once you’re in though, you’re in. He commits to someone if, and only if, he’s absolutely positive he knows the real you and trusts that you’ll accept him for who he really is. Being ruled by Mars, named after the god of war, he’ll protect his loved ones with everything he’s got if he has to. It’s rare to find someone as dedicated, fierce, passionate, and loyal as a Scorpio in love!
He’s a very indulgent sign when it comes to food, drinking, and sex—any kind of pleasure, really. But the physical intimacy of your relationship is nothing compared to the emotional entanglement that occurs between a Scorpio and his lover. He wants your relationship to be strong enough that he becomes a part of you both. Even if things don’t work out in the end, you’ll never forget your Scorpio ex! He loves wholeheartedly, and your relationship promises to be life-changing—he is the sign of transformation, after all.
However, all of his darkness and angst and brooding can get old after a while! Even if you’ve been going steady forever, you’ll still catch him trying to psychoanalyze your words and actions on the DL. All of the questions and anxieties on his end only leads to confusion and creates an actual problem if it goes on for too long! And when you do fight, he can be as self-protective as an actual scorpion, though, luckily, things rarely get to this point. He is a fixed sign, after all, and is very slow to rise to action. He’s loyal and dedicated to you more than anything else, and wouldn’t be with you unless he was positive that you were both 100 percent in it.
The word “plutocrat” refers to someone who is very powerful and very wealthy. Being ruled by Pluto, Scorpio men can easily embody this mindset. His jealousy and need for control is a drag. Luckily, Scorpios are very aware of boundaries, so if you set healthy ones, he’ll respect them. Power and control issues are problems all Scorpios face, but if you enforce your rules, he’ll stay in line.
But to really bond with him, you need to open up to him. He can smell superficiality from a mile away, so if you aren’t keeping it real with him, he won’t be interested in you for long. He’s only interested in getting with someone who honestly wants to get to know him. He has layers on layers on layers, but when he trusts you enough to open up and you reach the core of who he truly is, it’s definitely worth it. For all of the intensity and emotional drama that Scorpios get a bad reputation for, the passion and love they have is tough to beat. He’ll form a relationship with you that neither one of you will ever forget!
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AAFU: I'm still in therapy. Should I be dating? – The Outline
Brandy Jensen, The Outline’s associate editor, has made a lot of mistakes in her life. Has she learned from them and become a wiser person as a result? Hahaha oh gosh no. But it does leave her uniquely qualified to tell you what not to do — because she’s probably done it.
Dear Fuck-Up,
I’m a just-turned 30-year-old guy who has been in therapy for years working out tons of baggage. Most of that baggage affects my ability to have lasting, valuable relationships, which is something I definitely want.
As each week of therapy passes by I uncover more shit that’s really holding me back from being able to have these relationships I long for, but I am doing work, and that work has helped immensely.
What I want to know is: Should I spend more time working through these issues before I go back on Tinder and swipe to my heart’s content? Am I leading people into a trap in which they will be dating a piece of metal that is being reforged ever so slowly and may never be complete? Or am I worrying for nothing. Are we all just bad blacksmithing metaphors and I’m being too hard on myself?
I don’t want to dick anyone over, but I also don’t know if completely cutting myself off from dating is the right move either.
Am I allowed to date?
Sincerely,
Single but not sure I can Mingle
Dear Single,
I get some version of this question — I don’t feel ready for meaningful relationships; I worry that I’m too messed up to commit — fairly often, almost exclusively from men. How interesting! Yours is the most recent and I am lazy but it’s a question I want to address so I’m opting to respond to you and the question of readiness more generally.
Let me begin by saying to you, Single, and the others who have written me, that I know how time-consuming it can be to unpack your emotional baggage and keep up with fantasy football or drive a stick shift or whatever it is men do, so I realize you may have missed out on a few things. Did you know, for instance, that we are probably past the point at which we can save ourselves from ourselves and we will be punished by rising seas and devastating drought? Did you miss the ongoing rise of fascism? Perhaps you were not aware, and this will come as a bit of a shock, that Donald Trump is the president?
In other words, what, precisely, are you waiting for? Do you think conditions are likely to improve?
I’m being glib, of course, and I do sympathize with this feeling of unpreparedness. In some ways, you are hardly to blame. The language of labor has so effectively colonized our ideas about love — emotional labor now frames all care as transactional, dates are understood to be job interviews, etc — that it makes a sort of sense you would seek to do a bit of emotional resume-building before heading back out into the market.
And, truthfully, there are circumstances under which one should not be dating. However, in my experience, those are not typically marked by careful self-reflection. When I first moved to a new city after leaving my marriage I was wildly optimistic about dating again, filled with the sort of deranged assuredness one can only get from drugs or wax wings or being very, very wrong. I met someone for whom I had unreasonably strong feelings and promptly turned into an utter lunatic. When I think back on what I unleashed on that generally well-meaning guy I want to crawl into the earth.
But you don’t mention a discrete event that may be responsible for your hesitation, just the vague idea of “baggage.” If I had to guess, I’d say this allusion to an inability to maintain meaningful relationships means you have hurt people before, and you either feel genuine guilt about it or you are uncomfortable with the experience of being told you caused someone pain. I’m glad you are uncovering some of the root causes behind that but let me suggest one you may not have previously considered: you are a bit of a coward. That’s fine, most people are, and this is a particularly insidious and easy-to-mistake form of cowardice that thinks itself courage.
When you are terribly afraid of being held responsible for the emotional well-being of others, it feels very mature and responsible to decide that you should “work on yourself.” It becomes both a way of retroactively absolving yourself (wow, can you believe all of the ways my issues manifested before I decided to work on them) and a rather elegant little trick to exonerate ongoing bad behavior (dang, those pesky issues again! I guess I must keep working on them). This is especially true for those too-clever-by-half motherfuckers who think that nobly warning someone in advance they “are working on their issues” mitigates any way in which they might disappoint or harm. And even with the best of intentions, it obviates the fact that relationships themselves are a process of being made ready, not something you come to static and fully formed.
Perhaps you do have good intentions. It’s hard for me to say what these issues of yours are, since you do not go into specifics, and perhaps you are making a good-faith effort to work on yourself sans scare quotes. Some of the questions I get in this vein do indicate a sincere and profound yearning to find love, but a conviction that one must be made ready for it through work. I can understand the urge, especially now as things get inexorably worse, to slow down; to pull inward and take stock and focus on ourselves. But I would ask whose interests are typically served by enclosure? By the sort of emotional austerity that says you do not have the resources to devote to others?
Who told us self-sufficiency was a virtue and why did we believe them? Especially when the truth is obvious, or at least has become very obvious to me over the course of this year, as I’ve eked out a meager space for myself writing the preferred advice column of depressed socialists: we need each other desperately, in ways none of us can be ready for.
In truth I doubt I’ve been ready for anything in my life. Especially for things to end, which I have been thinking about a great deal lately. You, Single, are now old enough that more and more things will end, and it’s good to consider what you want your life to look like as that happens.
My grandfather passed away a few months ago. I loved him fiercely and I’m still not able to realize the full breadth of my grief. Mainly I read about other people losing someone they loved and think “my, how terribly sad for them to experience that.” He and my grandmother were married for more than 60 years, which is also something I find difficult to contemplate. She suffers from dementia that has accelerated since his death, and while she has many lucid moments, she is completely incapable of remembering that he’s gone. Rather than break her heart anew, whenever she asks where he is everyone says he’s just gone out to run some errands, or have some lunch with a friend. She finds this answer both plausible and soothing. I think it’s probably a kindness that she doesn’t have to feel alone at the end of things. I don’t want to be alone at the end of things either.
So by all means, Single, and everyone else who asks me some form of this question, continue to work on yourself and figure out how to be better. Go to therapy for you, so that you may feel more at ease in the world. But above all, if you are sincere in your desire to love someone, grow the hell up. You don’t have to be finished or complete unto yourself to be good to people. We are rarely ready for the things we need.
Love,
A Fuck-Up
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Libra Man Personality Traits, Love Compatibility, and Dating Advice – Cosmopolitan.com
Libra
Birthday: September 23-October 22
Type: Cardinal air sign
Key words: Romantic, intellectual, flirtatious, polite, indecisive
Love anthem: “Kiss You” by One Direction
Famous Libra men: Donald Glover, Zac Efron, Ryan Reynolds, John Mayer, Snoop Dogg, Hugh Jackman, John Krasinski
Best matches:
Fiery Leo is a great match for Libra! Leos are artistic and fascinating to Libras, and both love to be gushy when it comes to romance. For similar reasons, Aries is a great match for Libra, too. Sure, they’re technically opposite signs, but Aries is unique, upbeat, and a cardinal sign just like Libra, so the two of them are never bored with each other!
Libra is the seventh sign of the Zodiac, and like the set of scales they’re represented by, Libras have an innate sense of balance and strive for harmony. They’re also motivated to start conversations and instigate action in social settings, thanks to being a cardinal sign. Your Libra man is an expert communicator, always knowing the perfect thing to say in any situation to come off as diplomatic, tactful, and charismatic. He’ll make you laugh and become besties with your besties. And he’s definitely the guy you want to take home to meet the rents, and you’ll be confident they’ll love him.
Libra is one of two signs ruled by Venus, planet of love, pleasure, and relationships. Libra, being an air sign, is filled to the brim with romantic thoughts, and loves to share them. He has a soft, gentle, and non-threatening Venusian vibe, with great taste in fashion and art, to boot. He usually moves in a graceful way, but when the balance is off, it is off! If he’s caught off-guard or surprised, his demeanor immediately becomes clumsy and nervous! Honestly, though, it’s kind of cute.
Libras are known to be indecisive, weighing every option very carefully to find the best one before making a commitment. This can be a hassle sometimes, but it stems from his open-mindedness and willingness to find a solution. He’s the best guy for finding a silver lining to every cloud, no matter how dark or stormy it appears to be. His natural optimism is one of the main reasons why he’s such a great partner to have–he always has the perfect advice to give, ice breaker to strike up a conversation, or witty one-liner to make the whole room laugh.
Being the sign of relationships, your Libra guy is hella social and has a ton of friends, but everything you do is as a partnership. He’s so relationship-focused that it could feel as if you’re joined at the hip sometimes, but he also turns every outing into an exciting and romantic experience with his charm and silliness. He truly treats you as an equal (if not someone better than him) and is super accommodating, especially when it comes to the bedroom. Not only is he putting your needs before his, but he’s open to kinks and new positions. Variety is the spice of life for him, and he’ll try anything once.
His fun-loving, flexible nature can get annoying, however, when you feel like he’s actually inconsistent. Libras can come off as shallow and uncommitted in the early stages of dating–he can be your Romeo at first, but then ghost you in the blink of an eye. And then right when you think he’s over you, he’s back, charming as ever and acting as if he never went anywhere. He’s openminded and openhearted, which can be a good thing if you’re actually dating him, but when he’s too busy debating if he actually likes you or not to commit, he can put you through a lot, emotionally.
Geminis have the reputation as the Zodiac’s most two-faced sign, but Libra is more than capable of stealing that title! He changes his tone and mannerisms in order to be well-liked by everyone around him. His ability as a master wordsmith is a huge asset, but also potentially his worst trait, as his words drip with honey when he’s with a crowd, but his silver tongue can turn sharp if the two of you get into an argument. He’ll rebalance eventually and go back to being sweet, but you might not move on as easily.
Once you lock down a committed relationship with a Libra (which is half the work, honestly), the real challenge is handling his need to please and tendency to talk for hours. He’s a chatterbox who can exhaust someone who thrives in silence, especially when he presents a dilemma, asks your opinion, challenges it until you agree with him, and expects you to defend his original opinion! It’s a crazy dance you have to keep up with, but it’s all lighthearted banter to him. Entertain his love for conversation, indulge him in his need for romance, and be patient with his indecisiveness if you want to enjoy the pluses of dating a Libra!
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Charly Caruso Talks Dating In WWE, Advice From Paige After Recent Break-Up – eWrestlingNews
WWE broadcaster Charly Caruso was recently a guest on former ring announcer Lilian Garcia’s podcast, “Chasing Glory.” Caruso talked about the difficulties of dating, how being in WWE affects her dating life, and some advice she recently received from Paige. Here are the highlights:
The difficulties of dating: “I think it has created a little bit of a barrier because when I meet someone I am pretty guarded, and I don’t know if it’s necessarily because we have past experiences where we have our defenses up, but I think part of me isn’t used to seeing these healthy and strong relationships so I am almost like, well, is it possible for me to have one?
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“I know that dating and having relationships are so much different with technology and social media that it is – just trying to date in this era, especially in New York City is just a trip,” Caruso said. “I think a lot of people in these places were all so focused on themselves and career-driven that relationships end up taking a backseat.
“Whereas, middle-America a lot of people are used to settling down at earlier ages, and that is kind of like one of their plans where they want to get married and have kids, which becomes their primary priorities whereas in these big cities like New York and Los Angeles you see people settling down much later so dating is very wild.”
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How being in WEW affects her dating life: “Just to be with someone who can understand what you are going through, I mean, it is a lifestyle that not a lot of people cannot handle,” Caruso said. “You have to be very secure with yourself. I have guys that I have dated and they’re like, ‘So, are you hooking up with the wrestlers?’
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“Like, okay, just relax, if you are my boyfriend there is nothing to worry about. You shouldn’t have to worry about other people or be intimidated. They say things like, ‘Well, you are around all these attractive people all the time.’
“Or, when I worked at a news station where I was around people from the NFL and the NBA, and guys would tell me that they wouldn’t like that I would be around those people, but I would say that it is my job and you don’t really have a say in it and this is how it is going to be.”
Advice she recently received from Paige: “You would have to be around a strong guy who is very secure with himself, also just supportive of what you are doing,” Caruso stated.
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“I was just having this conversation with someone the other day, it was Paige because she just broke up with her boyfriend just recently, and I told her, you know, every guy says that they want this strong and confident woman and that is what they love about you, but it is only a matter of time where they start resenting you for that, and they can’t keep up with you and that they don’t like that you are so dominant or so successful because then it makes them feel less secure, which isn’t the case for everybody, but with my past experiences that has how it has been for most of the time.”
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H/T Wrestling Inc. for the transcriptions
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Rezar
Gzim Selmani
Birthdate: 06/16/1994
Height: 6’4″
Weight: 305 Ib
He is a Dutch-Albanian professional wrestler and retired mixed martial artist currently signed to WWE, where he performs in its developmental territory NXT as one …
