Category Archives: Relationships

Online Dating After 30: The ROI Is Awful – Refinery29

The online dating ROI is bullshit, and this is the hill I’ll die on. The invested effort of heterosexual single women looking for men to spend time with online is not met with a proportional return, not by a goddamned mile, and this disparity does not exist elsewhere. Want to get in better shape, feel more fit? Work out, it’ll happen. Want a better job, better salary? Work hard, pursue it, you’ll get there. Want your home to feel more organized? Clean the motherfucker. The established relationship of effort-to-result is challenged in online dating in a manner that is nothing short of madness. Honestly, there are slot machines in Vegas looking at the online dating odds right now and finding them unfair.

Sparks fail to fly for mom dating her perfect match – Sumter Item

DEAR ABBY – I have a close friend who is in her mid-30s. She’s a wonderful, divorced, hardworking Christian mother of four who has finally ventured back to the dating scene. She’s currently seeing a guy who in all respects is perfect for her, she says. Unfortunately, when it comes to romance, for some reason she can’t seem to get aroused, and it’s now at a point where she avoids his kiss if possible.

She really likes him and would love for this to work and feels conflicted because she doesn’t know how to “light her fire” and find him intimately attractive. She’s afraid she’ll eventually push him away even though she wants the exact opposite. Any advice I can pass along?

Needing a friend in the Southwest

DEAR NEEDING – Your friend needs to understand why she’s having a problem “getting her fire lit.” Could it be related to her divorce? Her feelings about premarital intimacy? Has she seen her doctor to rule out a physical cause? Or could it be that although he looks good on paper, there’s simply no chemistry?

Because intimacy is an important part of marriage, she needs to be honest with herself about why she’s reacting the way she is. If this isn’t the only man this has happened with, and she can’t find the answers within herself, some sessions with a licensed mental health professional may be in order.

DEAR ABBY – My son and daughter-in-law are “horrified” that we refer to our 3-year-old grandson’s penis using the correct terminology. Should we relent and refer to that part of his body as something else?

Unsure in the South

DEAR UNSURE – Not in my opinion. Children should be taught the correct terms for their body parts as soon as they are aware enough to identify – and pronounce – them. To do this will prevent confusion and possibly embarrassment later.

DEAR ABBY – My husband invited his good friend (an artist) to stay with us for two nights because he is coming to our city to give a speech. He accepted.

We tried to contact him two weeks ago, one week ago, three days ago, yesterday and this morning to find out what time he’ll arrive so we can plan our schedule and prepare the food. He still hasn’t gotten back to us. I had planned to go to church and a concert afterward. My husband doesn’t want me to leave.

I am very frustrated about the man’s lack of consideration. My husband considers him a good friend, but after the way we are being treated, I’m not convinced.

Still waiting in California

DEAR STILL WAITING – I don’t blame you for being miffed. Good friends don’t treat each other so rudely. They answer their messages and show up when they’re expected. Unless the man was in the hospital, solitary confinement or dead, there’s no excuse for his poor manners. Because your husband considers him a good friend, he should have stayed home to welcome “the artist” and let you off the hook.

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Andrew Broad linked by social media post to 'sugar daddy' dating sites nearly a year ago – ABC News

A social media post has emerged showing disgraced Nationals MP Andrew Broad was confronted with claims about use of “sugar daddy” dating sites nearly a year ago.

Key points:

  • The Nationals MP has not denied the authenticity of the social media post
  • This week he quit the ministry and announced he will retire at the election
  • Nationals leader Michael McCormack has been forced to defend his handling of the scandal

Mr Broad, a married man, this week resigned from the ministry after it emerged he had used a dating app to meet a younger woman while on a trip to Hong Kong earlier this year.

But the new post suggests Mr Broad might have been linked to at least one other woman on the site.

The post on Mr Broad’s Facebook page alleged Mr Broad had been using dating sites earlier than the August incident.

“Going to the papers this coming week in regards to you chatting to my friend from a sugar daddy website,” the post reads.

“The IP address and also Seeking Arrangement (sic) has confirmed everything.

“So your (sic) in trouble! Your wife is being told about all this also.”

It appears that post has sat on Mr Broad’s Facebook profile for at least 49 weeks.

The ABC contacted Mr Broad about the post and via text message he did not deny its authenticity.

“My priority is my family. I am leaving public life,” Mr Broad said.

He said media had hounded his family in recent days but did not comment on the post.

The ABC attempted to contact the person who posted the allegations on Facebook.

Mr Broad announced 24 hours after the scandal emerged in New Idea magazine that he would not contest the next federal election.

Nationals leader Michael McCormack says Andrew Broad (pictured) has let the public down.

Threats of defamation action

The new allegations emerged as Nationals leader Michael McCormack indicated that Mr Broad could sue New Idea magazine over its article about his personal life.

“I don’t know what had taken place, whether Mr Broad’s lawyers had contacted New Idea, that was a suggestion made to me, as to the fact that it was under investigation and this perhaps could have been a defamation matter,” he told Sky News.

Mr McCormack has been forced to defend his handling of the matter, including not telling Prime Minister Scott Morrison until the magazine released its story.

After initially saying Mr Broad told him about the matter “a couple of weeks ago”, Mr McCormack had to issue a statement to confirm he learned about the matter on November 8.

Mr Broad, on advice from Mr McCormack, contacted the Australian Federal Police about the matter but it this week confirmed no offences had been committed.

Sparks fail to fly for mom dating her perfect match – Brunswick News

Dear Abby:

I have a close friend who is in her mid-30s. She’s a wonderful, divorced, hardworking Christian mother of four who has finally ventured back to the dating scene. She’s currently seeing a guy who in all respects is perfect for her, she says. Unfortunately, when it comes to romance, for some reason she can’t seem to get aroused, and it’s now at a point where she avoids his kiss if possible.

She really likes him and would love for this to work and feels conflicted because she doesn’t know how to “light her fire” and find him intimately attractive. She’s afraid she’ll eventually push him away even though she wants the exact opposite. Any advice I can pass along?

— Needing A Friend In The Southwest

Dear Needing: Your friend needs to understand why she’s having a problem “getting her fire lit.” Could it be related to her divorce? Her feelings about premarital intimacy? Has she seen her doctor to rule out a physical cause? Or could it be that although he looks good on paper, there’s simply no chemistry?

Because intimacy is an important part of marriage, she needs to be honest with herself about why she’s reacting the way she is. If this isn’t the only man this has happened with, and she can’t find the answers within herself, some sessions with a licensed mental health professional may be in order.

Dear Abby: My husband invited his good friend (an artist) to stay with us for two nights because he is coming to our city to give a speech. He accepted.

We tried to contact him two weeks ago, one week ago, three days ago, yesterday and this morning to find out what time he’ll arrive so we can plan our schedule and prepare the food. He still hasn’t gotten back to us. I had planned to go to church and a concert afterward. My husband doesn’t want me to leave.

I am very frustrated about the man’s lack of consideration. My husband considers him a good friend, but after the way we are being treated, I’m not convinced.

— Still Waiting In

California

Dear Still Waiting: I don’t blame you for being miffed. Good friends don’t treat each other so rudely. They answer their messages and show up when they’re expected. Unless the man was in the hospital, solitary confinement or dead, there’s no excuse for his poor manners. Because your husband considers him a good friend, he should have stayed home to welcome “the artist” and let you off the hook.

Dear Abby: My son and daughter-in-law are “horrified” that we refer to our 3-year-old grandson’s penis using the correct terminology. Should we relent and refer to that part of his body as something else?

— Unsure In The South

Dear Unsure: Not in my opinion. Children should be taught the correct terms for their body parts as soon as they are aware enough to identify — and pronounce — them. To do this will prevent confusion and possibly embarrassment later.