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Dating During The Summer Is Harder Than Any Other Time Of The Year — Here's Why
Even at 29.5 years old, well past the days of camp and school breaks, I still find summer deeply intoxicating. The anticipation of it, the smell of it, the amount of adult beverages I justify consuming during it… June through August are the most intoxicating months of the year. And, subsequently, the most hungover (but there’s always a dip in the ocean to cure that). Dating during the summer is as intoxicating as the season, but it is also as likely to give you a big fat hangover.
Why is it so hard to date in the summer? The season has all of the ingredients for passionate evenings: clothes that strategically expose several body parts, warm night air prime for romantic walks, and weddings galore that beg for plus-ones. Why, then, does summer always seem to be the season of Sandy-and-Danny hookups, and never the season of, “Here’s my new boyfriend, fam!”
For a variety of reasons, it seems as if relationships tend to remain elusive until fall. It could just be that the straight dudes I like to hang around tend to be horny monster Chads who want to sleep with everyone during the summer months, or it could just be that summer, while relaxing, is sort of a hectic time. Next to the December holidays, summer could be the hardest time to go on regularly-scheduled dates. Or, you know, it could be that we’re all too sweaty to look cute. Below, here are some reasons why it’s so difficult to date with the intention of finding a serious relationship during the summer months.
1Summer travel is a time-suck.
Travel takes time and planning, and most peoples’ summer plans are firmed up by June. Between weddings, much needed escapes to bodies of water, and family vacations, cities tend empty out in the summer, especially on weekends. (Which ultimately start at 3 p.m. Friday.) If you’re used to dating on weekends, it’s hard to find anyone left in the city to even go out with! It’s not you, it’s summer.
2Summer sweat stinks.
If I decide to blow-dry my hair before a date in the summer and then run late and end up sprinting over to the outdoor bar, there’s no way I’m showing up without looking like a wet dog. Summer sweat complicates sleeping next to someone, too. Maybe the hot temperatures are in fact the very reason why summer dating cools off.
3It’s fling season, y’all.
I don’t know what it is about that summer air — or perhaps, the amount of booze humans tend to consume each summer — but something about the season tends to most often lead to flings and short-term hookups instead of long-term relationships. Maybe it’s our nostalgia for camp crushes that had to end when Labor Day came, or the simple fact that summer is a whirlwind and its best to savor every moment of it, but unfortunately people just seem to want to keep it casual each summer.
4It’s wedding season!
When people in your life start getting married, you pretty much have no choice but to attend most of those weddings you get invited to. And the thing is, most of these weddings happen to be on summer weekends.
Wedding season can get in the way of dating during the summer for some of the same reasons listed above: the hosts don’t always give singles plus-ones, so weddings become excellent places for weekend flings. Weddings also often involve travel and again, that makes dating in the city you are based in incredibly difficult logistically in the summer.
My advice? Enjoy your summer, and don’t stress the dating until everyone is back to reality for fall. And hey, you just might meet someone while you’re enjoying yourself at the beach!
Nicki Minaj Just Got Very Real About Her Relationship Struggles and Offered Advice for Other Women
Nicki Minaj is here to give you all the relationship advice you will ever need, and it all comes courtesy of her own life experiences. In a recent series of tweets promoting the release of her upcoming album, Queen, which hits stores on August 10, Minaj opened up in a big way about her romantic history and offered some unsolicited (but extremely relevant) advice for other women.
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She started with some background about her own love life, which has been playing out in the public eye for years now.
#Queen, know your worth. I’ve been proposed to 3 times; asked by 4 boyfriends to have their child. Being emotionally, mentally, or physically abused just to crack a fake smile on the gram & show off a ring is not happiness. Being cheated on, humiliated, belittled… for the gram?”
Then came a quick transition from vulnerably sharing her own story to offering advice for other women.
“#Queen, know your worth. You were a Queen before him,” she wrote. “You’ll be a Queen after him. He can’t make or break you. Being equally yoked is what you should strive for. Spirituality is key. Once your spirit can soar on its own, then you are ready to “allow” him the privilege of ur time.”
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Next, Minaj laid into men in general for their collective abuses of power in a tweet that epitomized a lot of the problems being addressed by #MeToo and #TimesUp.
“Having men treat you like dog shit because they’re famous or have money is the new era we live in. Word to the gram. Arguing w|other women while defending your abuser is the new era. Word to the gram. #Queen 8|10|18,” she wrote.
Finally, the singer turned her real talk to her current relationship, in which she describes a partner who wants to get her to settle down and have kids, even though she knows that’s not what’s right for her right now.
“New boy asked if I could have his baby in a year & a half. On God I said: ‘ain’t pushin out his babies til he buy da rock,'” she wrote. “Then I busted out laughing. He said: ‘I’ll put a ring on it. I’ll do anything it takes.’ Yet all I could think of his how much I love my new found freedom.”
