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The “Fairy Godmother of Dating” on choosing the right mate and having rewarding relationships
As some of us walk around basking in the love and excitement of watching the Royal Wedding, it makes you wonder how do you know when you’ve found “the one”? Karen Conti is joined in studio by the “Fairy Godmother of Dating”, Dating Coach and founder of Smart Dating Academy, Bela Gandhi. Bela shares advice about relationships, dating, using online dating sites to your advantage, and more.
You can find Karen Conti on Facebook. The Karen Conti Show airs Sundays from 7pm-9pm.
Who Is Matthew Hussey? Camila Cabello's Rumored Boyfriend Has A Romantic-Sounding Career
Camila Cabello hasn’t confirmed she’s dating anyone, but that doesn’t mean fans aren’t speculating about her love life. Rumor has it that Cabello is seeing someone new: Matthew Hussey. Speculation that Cabello and Hussey might be dating started in February, when the two were seen kissing on a beach in Mexico, according to Us Weekly. But who is Matthew Hussey, anyway? The British dating coach has a lot to say about relationships, even if he and Cabello haven’t confirmed theirs.
In case you’re curious about his backstory, Hussey is a well-known dating coach and the author of a relationship column for Cosmopolitan. Some of his articles include stories like “5 Flirting Mistakes to Watch Out For” and “4 Signs That He’s Really Invested In You.”
And in addition to writing for Cosmopolitan, Hussey is the author of a dating book and the host of a dating web series. He also hosts retreats and has online programs. According to his website, his most recent retreat in Florida included topics such as “understanding people’s motives” and “knowing how to build your self-worth.” If that wasn’t enough, Hussey also has more than 1 million followers on his YouTube channel, where he shares videos filled with dating tips. And he has an iHeartRadio show about relationships, too.
If Hussey and Cabello really are together, it sounds like has plenty of insight about how to make a relationship work. And while they haven’t confirmed anything yet, in the photos E! News published in February, the pair do look quite cozy. As E! also pointed out, Cabello mentioned in a Beats 1 radio interview with Zane Lowe, not long before the beach sighting, that there was “maybe” someone new in her romantic life. She had written a song lyric that said, “I can’t say your name without smiling.” For now, though, it sounds like she’s keeping the specifics of who exactly she meant to herself.
And as a separate E! News report from February noted, Cabello seemed to take an interest in Hussey’s work before the photos were released. During a different interview with Z100, Cabello asked interviewer Elvis Duran if Hussey was in the studio, as he’s recorded interviews with Duran in the past. “I love him. He’s great. He gives good advice,” Cabello said to Duran, referring to Hussey. He wasn’t there that day, but it may have been a clue that Cabello’s admiration for the dating coach could have been more than platonic.
While Cabello and Hussey haven’t spoken out about the dating rumors, an unnamed source did share some details with E! News. “Camila recently started dating Matthew,” the source claimed. “It wasn’t something she expected, but she knew of him and really enjoys his work.”
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The source also told E! that Cabello “was a fan” of Hussey’s before they started dating, which lines up with the Z100 comments. It also might make fans wonder if he, too, was a fan of Fifth Harmony and Cabello’s solo album before the two met. After all, how cute would a mutual fandom be?
Cabello is performing at the Billboard Music Awards on Sunday night, and it’s possible that she’ll bring Hussey as her date. If they do show up together, it would definitely clarify some of the rumors. Cabello is also nominated for multiple awards at the show, including one for Top Female Artist, and having a familiar face cheer her on in the crowd would be so sweet.
If these two don’t attend the awards show together, though, don’t expect Cabello to comment on the dating rumors anytime soon. In an interview on the Dan Wootton Interview podcast in March, Cabello described herself as a “private person,” saying she wanted to “keep some things sacred.” Of course, it’s up to her whether she decides to reveal any details about her love life, but that won’t stop fans from eagerly awaiting any clues along the way.
Argentine Football Association offers clumsy advice for World Cup
The Argentine Football Association has apologized for a World Cup manual it printed advising its players and staff on how to seduce Russian women.
For some reason the Russian hosts found it offensive, although it contained such non-controversial advice as: be clean, don’t be negative and don’t treat women as objects.
In the bad old days of the Soviet Union, male visitors were advised to bring jeans and beauty products as dating incentives.
Russia is expecting around half a million soccer fans to visit the motherland starting in mid-June for the monthlong tournament.
To quote James Comey, quoting Donald Trump, quoting Vladimir Putin: “We have some of the most beautiful hookers in the world.”
Number of rapes in Scotland linked to online dating sites more than trebles in four years
Twenty women a year are attacked by strangers they met online (PA / Picture posed by model)
THE number of rapes in Scotland linked to online dating sites has more than trebled in four years, we can reveal.
The UK-wide National Crime Agency (NCA) dealt with 20 reports of Scots being raped after meeting someone through internet dating –compared to only six in 2014.
Most offences took place during the first face-to-face meeting after making contact online. Most victims were women.
The figures have emerged after a former Territorial Army officer was last week jailed for eight years for the rape of two women he met on dating site match.com.
Philip Donegan, an ex-lieutenant colonel, attacked a 33-year-old woman at her home in Paisley in October 2016. He also raped a 30-year-old woman at his home in Knightswood, Glasgow in July 2017.
Experts say the figures show the need to be cautious and follow safety advice, but also point out the rise reflects that more people are going online to meet partners.
An estimated one million Scots are registered with online dating sites, according to industry experts.
The NCA’s Serious Crime Analysis Section (SCAS) works to identify potential serial killers and rapists at an early stage by collating reports of the most serious incidents from police forces across the UK.
It was set up in the wake of the case of Yorkshire Ripper Peter Sutcliffe, who murdered 13 women in the north of England.
The NCA received six reports of allegations of rape initiated through dating sites in Scotland in 2014.The following year the figure was 10 and in 2016 it was 16.
Last year 20 were reported, which were in various stages of the justice process ranging from investigation to prosecution.
Sean Sutton, head of national investigative capabilities at the NCA, said a major reason behind the rise in cases was the larger numbers of people using dating sites.
He said: “No-one will be surprised that the internet and its capabilities, while making life very much easier and simpler for us all to navigate, means that offenders will also use that ease of use and simplicity to identify potential victims.”
However he said incidents were likely to be vastly under-reported, with anecdotal evidence suggesting many victims of dating site sex attackers are unwilling to go to police.
“Victims in some way may think they are culpable for being on a website,” he said.
“We try to deter that way of thinking, to tell people it absolutely isn’t their fault and they will be treated with the utmost of respect and compassion when they report to police.”
Figures published by Police Scotland show there were 87 rapes in 2016/17 where the victim met their attacker online through social media or internet dating – a 24% rise on the previous year.
Sandie Barton of Rape Crisis Scotland said the charity’s helpline received calls about people targeted through dating websites.
She said: “One of the areas we have noticed is where it is older women – who perhaps have come out of a marriage or are divorced or are a bit out of the loop in how they meet people – using dating websites to meet people.
“When something happens they feel embarrassed and may be less likely to come forward.”
However she cautioned against “fear- mongering” around using dating websites.
“It is the same sexual violence – but another way that perpetrators are using to get access to people,” she added.
Lawyer Nicola Thompson, from Thompsons Solicitors, said the rise in predators using internet dating sites and apps was “terrifying”.
She said: “While the anonymity of some sites protects customers who may not wish others to know they are using a dating site, people must recognise that it also opens the door to predators who may use the anonymity aspect to target victims.”
A spokeswoman for match.com said it encouraged members to report unsafe behaviour on the website and to the police.
She said: “We welcome the conviction of Philip Donegan and extend our deepest sympathies to his victims.”
Staying safe dating online
Protect your identity and personal information when creating a profile – do not use your surname in your user name and avoid including details such as your email address, home address or where you work.
When having a conversation online, think whether you would be sharing the
same details if you were meeting the person face-to-face.
Beware of providing contact details to people who say their subscription is about to end – a common ruse to take the conversation away from the safety of the dating site as quickly as possible.
Carry out research on social media profiles to check as much information as possible about someone before meeting them for the first time and use image search to check any photos provided.
When meeting in person meet in a public place with lots of people around and use your own transport to get to and from the date.
Check if your dating site has a moderation team and a support line you can call to report any concerns.
For more advice visit onlinedatingassociation.org.uk
Victims can no longer fear being blamed
Professor Lesley McMillan
By Lesley McMillan, Professor of sociology and criminology at Glasgow Caledonian University
In the past a minority of people used lonely hearts ads which would have required writing a letter to make contact. But social change and the internet opened new areas which make online dating far more accessible.
Society accepts the use of internet sites, but some old attitudes prevail where the victim is judged rather than the predator which may leave some reluctant to report attacks.
It would be concerning that judgements would be made about women using those kind of sites or social media rather than targeting predators.
A number of high profile rape cases have recently used text messages and social media interaction, so that is also something we all need to think about.
Websites have a duty of protection
Sandy Brindley (Andrew Cowan/Scottish Parliament)
By Sandy Brindley, Director at Rape Crisis Scotland
We have seen increasing numbers of people being targeted by predatory men using dating sites.
Online dating can play a really positive role in many lives, but it is also the case that it can enable predators to pretend to be someone they are not.
Most dating sites give general safety advice.
This is important but dating sites also have a responsibility to protect people using their sites from anyone with a history of sexual offending.
People who have been raped after meeting someone through a dating site may feel embarrassed or reluctant to report what has happened.
But it’s essential to stress that going on a date with someone you’ve met on a dating site in no way ever makes you responsible for being raped.
