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Tamra Judge Offered Up Some Dating Advice for “Nervous” Single BFF Shannon Beador … But Did She Take It?
Now that Shannon Beador is back on the dating scene following her split from David Beador, her friend Tamra Judge is keeping a close eye on the single mom. You see, The Real Housewives of Orange County fitness guru has some thoughts about the foodie’s taste in guys, as she recently shared with The Daily Dish.
In fact, Tamra was kind of surprised to learn what her friend’s dating style is like. “The thing with Shannon that I didn’t know that when she dates, she turns into a 16-year-old,” Tamra said, in the video above. “She’s all nervous. It’s funny.”
After dropping some insight into what single Shannon is like, Tamra then kept it real about the kinds of guys Shannon has dated as of late, what type of fella she would like to see for her friend, and what advice she’d like to extend to her friend as she navigates dating.
Speaking of love in the Orange County, Tamra also revealed her thoughts on another pal Emily Simpson‘s own love story and that infamous GChat proposal. “Whatever works,” she said.
Check out more of Tamra and Shannon, below.
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How Anna Faris and Chris Pratt Emerged From Their Heartbreaking Divorce Unscathed and Still the Best of Friends
“We still have love for each other, will always cherish our time together and continue to have the deepest respect for one another.”
Those carefully chosen words—or the other similar sentiments that tend to make up the celebrity breakup statement—have been used before and will be used again. But each time they come across as just a wee bit hollow. Perhaps because for most of us, when we end any sort of romantic entanglement we’re not feeling quite so charitable or entirely all that ready to praise the person that’s left us feeling gutted. Nor are we super eager to commit to spending more time with an ex and having the reminder of what we once had staring us in the face.
But in a post-conscious uncoupling world when delivered by Anna Faris and Chris Pratt, the living embodiment of #goals thanks to their sweet selfies and general likability? In reference to their decade-long romance? Well, the more hopeful among us wanted to believe they truly had a shot at remaining real friends.
Not that it was easy just because they shared a laid-back sensibility, willingness to self-deprecate and a son they treasured above all else, now 6-year-old Jack. As Pratt succinctly put it to Entertainment Weekly this April, “Divorce sucks.”
But at the end of the day, he continued, “we’ve got a great kid who’s got two parents who love him very much. And we’re finding a way to navigate this while still remaining friends and still being kind to one another.”
Because here we are, barely a year removed from their separation, with an amicable divorce settlement on the horizon and an effective co-parenting plan in place. Each half of the former pair has moved on with new partners that appear utterly sensible, neither exuding even a trace of revenge romance vibes. And they both seem, dare we say, pretty happy for each other. Or at least cordial enough to come together to send Jack off to school. An insider reveals their recent outings were an example of their committed co-parenting as they joined up for their son’s orientation and first day of school. “They both wanted to be there for him and to get him settled and it went great,” the insider tells E! News. “They are both involved with Jack and have worked out a good system for him.”
So basically they did exactly what they said they were going to do.
It was a point they drove home more than a few times in the wake of their heartbreaking split. With a book to promote, her half advice-half comedic memoir Unqualified, and a podcast of the same name, Faris was pretty much required to give her views on how to exist in and then gracefully exit a longterm relationship.
At times she spoke with her trademarked humility, like when Stephen Colbert asked why she believed she was quote-unquote unqualified to give dating advice. “I mean, every-, ev-, everything,” she started as the Late Show With Stephen Colbert host attempted to save her by suggesting that really no one is eminently suited to dole out such tips. “I think you’re letting me off the hook with that question,” she replied. “But I am definitely not qualified to give relationship advice. But, having said that…I enjoy it.”
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She is, however, more than a little knowledgable when it comes to the subject of healthy co-parenting.
“What Chris and I try to do is to communicate openly,” she explained to Women’s Health in April. “We reiterate that there aren’t rules to this. We have a lot of love and friendship, and our big goal is to protect Jack.” Doing so involves doling out discipline “when he’s being a little bit naughty,” she told E! News in January, but also constantly reinforcing what a great kid he is. “I think the key is surrounding him with a lot of joy and happiness, which he has a ton of.”
Proving they were in lock step, when it came time for Pratt to hit the publicity trail, for June’s Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom, he backed her up, making sure to reiterate in his EW interview their commitment toward showering Jack with love and each other with kindness. “It’s not ideal,” he admitted of the situation, “but yeah, I think both of us are actually probably doing better.”
And their words weren’t just the stuff of feel-good sound bites. Sources told E! News they committed to counseling after their split so they could get some guidance on navigating this new normal with their son. “It’s nothing to do with them as a couple—they are not trying to get back together or save anything,” an insider said at the time. “Chris wants Anna to learn how to co-parent and how they can exist together with their son, while having separate lives. They don’t want this to affect his life.”
As a result of the work they put in, she was able to truthfully proclaim to People just two months after their separation that they’ll “always have each other and be incredible friends.” She got while fans were so invested in them as a pair, holding them as the shining beacon of what a devoted couple should look like under the glaring spotlight, she added, “All I can say about that is it’s all true—that we truly adore each other, and we love each other. I think it still comes through.”
It’s an achievement that Faris is truly proud of. She admits she has some regrets about how she handled her divorce from first husband, actor Ben Indra. While she never overtly crossed the line, after meeting and becoming entranced with Pratt on the 2007 set of Take Me Home Tonight, there was certainly some emotional overlap. As she put it in Unqualified, “Sure, I get to proclaim I didn’t f–k Chris before I left Ben, but what is there to celebrate in that? It didn’t make me a hero. After all, I wanted to, desperately. And I had feelings for him, obviously, even if I wasn’t honest with myself about what those were. So while I didn’t cheat, I’m not completely innocent, either.”
But when she looks back on this split with Pratt, she’ll be able to revel in how thoughtfully and maturely they both unraveled a shared decade of life. She and Pratt have “a great friendship now,” she revealed on the Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard podcast. “I’m really proud of that, because I’m not sure I did that well the first time.”
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Of course, finding a new romance to throw yourself into takes a bit of the sting out of constantly revisiting the old one, butterflies and first kisses being a great antidote for heartbreak and all. And Faris got that first taste of medicine last fall when connecting with Michael Barrett, a cinematographer she met on the set of her Overboard remake.
Her costars seem to approve. Eugenio Derbezteased in an interview with E! News “for some reason she looks better than me in the movie,” a nod to Barrett’s skills, and Pratt’s Mom cohort Allison Janney told E! News, “I met him once, he seems really lovely.” For her part, Faris was clearly taken enough to join him on a November trip to Italy and bring him along to check out houses in L.A. But she’s playing this union a bit closer to the vest, having loved and learned and all that. She has yet to outright talk about him in interviews or share his likeness with her two million Instagram followers. “I think it’s a lesson learned a little bit in terms of keeping relationships a little bit more private, potentially,” she explained, “even though I pride myself on being a pretty open person.”
And while an insider says the duo are doing really well as they round the year mark on their coupling, Faris remains unsure if they’ll ever take the ultimate pledge of fidelity. “I need to figure out what the purpose is. Like is it safety for your children? Is it convention? Is it so other people respect your relationship more?” she reasoned to Shepard when asked if she’d ever remarry. “For me, I’m just not quite sure where it fits, especially when it feels so easy, of course, to get married and then there’s the untangling in terms of like the state being involved.”
Meanwhile Pratt is exploring a new commitment of his own. Seeing author and lifestyle blogger Katherine Schwarzenegger since they were set up by mutual friends this summer (a source says her mom Maria Shriver played a role in bringing them together having made the acquaintance of Pratt through church-related gatherings and other pals), they’ve entered the exclusive stage of their romance.
“Chris is still smitten by Katherine. He’s genuinely really happy with where things are at,” a source reveals to E! News of their series of dinner outings and church services, the latter being a strong factor in their connection. “Things are heating up faster now and they’re definitely getting more serious.”
So much so, that Pratt has started integrating Jack into their relationship. Schwarzenegger has started spending time with the grade schooler, says the source, and is “slowly staring to get to know him more and more.”
It’s a move that was sanctioned by Faris, who’s also introduced Jack to her partner. “She wanted to be honest with him and have Michael be a part of Jack’s life,” an insider shares. Because anyone interested in dating either Faris or Pratt has to know it’s a package deal. “Luckily they are both dating people who love Jack and are very good with kids,” says the insider. “Jack is going to be a big part of their lives and they wouldn’t date anyone that didn’t accept that.”
Not after they’ve worked so hard to get to this place, pushing past the pain and heartbreak to form a new type of partnerships. “So far they have the co-parenting down and it’s going OK,” says the insider. “They are both amenable if the other wants to take him on a trip or do something special with him. They try to be understanding and open-minded.”
Keeping that as a focus has allowed them to remain on good terms and to create a revised relationship structure that’s every bit as worthy of the goals hashtag.
Not to mention, as they once vowed, the deepest level of respect.
9 Old Wives' Tales About Attracting More Love Into Your Life That Actually Work
If you’re looking to casually date — or even find true love — you might be tempted to go the modern route and sign up for dating apps. And that’s awesome. There are so many tech-y ways to meet new people and expand your horizons, and you should feel free to utilize them. But with all the options out there, it can be easy to forget about old-fashioned dating advice, even though it really works.
Sure, some old-school dating tips are outdated, and others are ineffectual. But there are definitely a few tricks that stick around for a reason. “In many cases, [they have] endured because [they have] consistently worked across generations,” Jonathan Bennett, relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating, tells Bustle. “So, you can’t assume that advice passed down over time is irrelevant to the modern age. In fact, it might be very effective if you give it a chance.”
Think about old time-y things like having your family keep an eye out for potential dating prospects, chatting people up in real life at a bar or coffeeshop, or stepping out your comfort zone and trying something new. These tips for finding love have been around for decades, because they really do work. Here is some old-fashioned dating advice experts say may help you meet someone new.
1Let Your Family Help Out
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When it comes to dating, most people would rather try anything else before turning to family for help or advice. But it really can be beneficial to let your parents, siblings, aunts, and uncles know that you’re looking to meet someone new.
“Having people in your life know you’re open to dating will allow them to fix you up should they know someone who is a good fit,” therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle. They know you well, after all, and may be the best people to have on your team.
This doesn’t mean they should interfere to a degree that makes you uncomfortable. But you never know who your sister’s friend might know, or who your mom might run into. So go ahead and ask ’em to keep an eye out.
2Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

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How many times have we heard the ol’ “step outside your comfort zone” line? Probably too many times to count. And yet, there’s a reason this advice has stuck around all these years.
By being a bit daring, and trying new things, you really can expand your horizons. As Hershenson says, “Joining a sports team or going on vacation by yourself are all ways to meet new people you otherwise would not have met.”
You can go small, too, and simply switch up your routine. Grab lunch somewhere new, take a different route to work, or try a new bar. You never know who you’ll meet!
3Strike Up Conversations

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Speaking of, when was the last time you struck up a conversation with someone you didn’t know? “If you’re at a coffeeshop or concert say hi to people,” Hershenson says. Chat up the person next to you on the bus, or start a convo at a bar, and see how it goes.
Today, we’re super focused on dating apps and social media as ways of meeting new people. But there are so many convos to be had and people to meet in real life, too. “Trying new things often leads to different results,” Hershenson says. “Tried and true methods work!”
4Be A Good & Active Listener

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It’s one thing to appear as if you’re listening to someone, by generally facing in their direction and nodding along. But it’s something else entirely to actually listen, digest what someone’s saying, and get a healthy convo going.
And when you’re out on dates, the latter can be quite charming. “This shows the other person that you care about what they have to say,” Heidi McBain, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. “But also goes deeper in that it shows that you want to spend time with them, that you want to get to know them and understand them better, and that you truly care about them.”
It can be tough to put into practice, but it’s very much worth it. “This was advice from one of my grandparents, and it’s still true today,” McBain says. “Possibly even more so with all our electronic distractions!”
5Stop Thinking About It

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Ever notice how the harder you look to find someone to date, the fewer options there seem to be? This is why dating experts often suggest we stop looking, and simply go about our days.
“When love is on the brain it can be difficult to focus on anything else,” Alexis Germany, an in-house relationship strategist at Seeking, tells Bustle. “I often see clients who are so consumed with dating and finding romance that they only agree to take part in activities where they think they can meet other single people — and this can be a big mistake.”
Sometimes, you just need to do you and forget about dating for a while. “It’s important to spend time doing other things you enjoy even if the likelihood of meeting a potential date is slim,” Germany says. “When you live a fulfilling life the positive energy you put into the world will likely attract just who you are looking for.”
6Remember, Opposites Attract

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People have been saying this for decades. And it’s true. Sometimes opposites really do attract, and keeping that in mind can open you up to new people.
“Attraction isn’t logical,” Bennett says. “Sharing hobbies and general interests is no guarantee of a spark in a relationship. As a result, two people might be extremely attracted to each other and get along, but seem ‘opposite’ from a logical standpoint.”
This is yet another case for stepping outside your comfort zone, and trying new things. It also helps to expand your definition of who might be your type, so you don’t get stuck looking for one type of person.
7Be Yourself & Have Fun

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Even though opposites attract, it’s still OK to surround yourself with likeminded people. So if you’d like to meet someone, try signing up for classes that interest you, hanging out in places you enjoy, and having fun.
“This approach yields better results than online dating because you’re interacting with people that share your interests,” dating coach Patti Feinstein tells Bustle. You’re also likely to be at your happiest when engaging in activities you enjoy, which will be all sorts of attractive.
8Get Out Of The House

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When you’re feeling lonely, or are simply in the mood to snag a date, do yourself a favor and leave the house. “You need to get out and meet people to find someone you want to date and get to know,” Davida Rappaport, psychic and spiritual counselor, tells Bustle. “If you don’t have a friend to go out with, go out by yourself and make a new friend so you can go out together. Whether you are going to clubs, bars, concerts, etc. you need to make sure you enjoy yourself in the process.”
9Make Lots Of Eye Contact

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Even though we’re all staring deep into our phones nowadays, it never hurts to look up and see who’s around. Is anyone making eye contact? Smiling your way? If so, Rappaport suggests waltzing over and having a chat.
Sometimes, it really is that easy to attract more love into your life — or, at the very least, meet someone new. All it takes are a few old-fashioned tips, like getting out, chatting people up, and stepping outside your comfort zone.

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