Category Archives: Dating Advice
Single Vermonters: Maybe avoid doing these things on your Tinder date – BurlingtonFreePress.com
If you’re looking for love online the best time to swipe right is on Monday evenings. Buzz60’s Sean Dowling has more. Buzz60
Single Vermonters might feel the pressures of “cuffing season”, when the cold makes you feel the need to be “tied down by a serious relationship.”
Or maybe you just want a relationship, regardless of the weather.
Either way, the Vermont Comedy Club hosts a recurring show “Tinder Nightmares” that uses audience members’ dating horror stories to fuel improv scenarios.
Tinder, an online dating app, requires users to swipe left or right in order to match with potential dates. It falls into a larger pool of apps, like Bumble and Hinge, that facilitate conversation based on mutual interest.
The show on Thursday did not require audiences to focus solely on unsavory Tinder encounters, allowing participants to branch out into bad dating experiences overall.
Tips for a Tinder date
Based on the stories, here are a few takeaways to keep in mind for dating, whether you download an app, get set up by a friend or meet at a bar.
- Avoid being in an exclusive relationship with your significant other.
- One audience member recalled telling her coworker about someone she met up with for drinks. The coworker realized her colleague’s date was in a relationship with someone else — in the same office.
- Know your limits when drinking or smoking so that — even if the date ends early — the rest of your day can still be enjoyable.
- One audience member described going on a date, which included smoking weed and feeling tired. After not having much of a connection, he remembered going home, laying in bed for hours and throwing up on himself.
- Be ready to: 1) navigate out of potentially uncomfortable conversations about beliefs and ideologies or, 2) Have a spirited debate, and maybe a plan to leave.
- One person volunteered a story that he said ended in an argument over politics and him leaving his date’s place.
- If you’re being set up on a blind date, don’t be afraid to get a little information about the other person from the friend coordinating. And if you’re doing the coordinating, try to see beyond the obvious when considering compatibility.
- Someone remembered being set up by his boss on a blind date. The only reason he thinks it was suggested in the first place? They are both gay.
Ultimately, there are no foolproof ways to ensure you have a good time this cuffing season. But maybe these can help you navigate the holidays with a little more ease.
Contact Maleeha Syed at mzsyed@freepressmedia.com or 802-495-6595. Follow her on Twitter @MaleehaSyed89.
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She hates the outdoors, he enjoys the fresh air – Detroit Free Press
Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Dear Carolyn: I don’t like to go outside. I don’t really see the appeal. I enjoy indoor activities like reading and binge-watching shows and cooking. I will sit outside for a game or something, but I don’t go outside for outside’s sake.
I get a lot of pushback. People are really shocked when it’s objectively a nice day out and I couldn’t care less. I’ve shrugged them off, except I have been dating a guy who is into getting outside “to enjoy the day.” I live somewhere with rough winters so it isn’t a big deal until it warms up, but every good weekend he wants to go for walks or sporting events or eat outside. On a nice day recently, I wanted to go to the movies, come home, and hang out inside. He said he felt like we “wasted” the whole day and the nice weather.
I really want to find a compromise because I really dig him, but I feel hesitant to even tell him how much I dislike the outdoors because it’s been criticized most my life. Any suggestions?
– I Don’t Like to Go Outside
Tell him. Not telling is not fair. If this incompatibility is intractable enough and affecting parts of your lives that both of you are unwilling enough to compromise on, then it’s time to break up.
The compromise, by the way, is for you to force yourself outdoors on nice days to see if it’s a trade-off you’re willing to make in return for the pleasure of his company. But you don’t get to do it secretly, because he also needs to decide if he’s willing to be with someone who has to force herself outside.
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That’s not just because people who are being good sports about something are less fun to have around than people who genuinely enjoy it. It’s also because there might come a point down the road where the thrill of his company wears off a bit and the effort to get outside feels bigger every time and the balance of your trade-off shifts toward “nah.” He needs to make an informed decision about you, and that possibility is likely enough that he has to be able to weigh it for himself.
Imagine if you commit long-term and get transferred to a warmer climate. Then you’re not sucking it up for shorts bursts, but instead tormenting each other year-round.
Please note that none of this has anything to do with any pushback you’ve gotten. Your way is good for you, their way is good for them, and anyone judging your standards by their own really needs to butt out.
Re: Outside: You’re not alone! There are people out there like you, and you owe it to yourself to find them (or not, if you don’t want to). I have never been one for the outdoors, and I live where hiking is the preferred hobby of seemingly everyone. It doesn’t help that I’m also allergic to everything that blooms and prone to heat exhaustion. But regardless of the reasons, you’re entitled to the environment you enjoy. There’s no good reason to tie yourself to someone who doesn’t respect the things you enjoy.
– Inside, Please
Right – and calls them a “waste.” Thanks.
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VIDEO: Dating and Depression Tips Part 1 by Practical Psychology – ProHealth
Are you trying to date while dealing with depression? Or, are you dating someone who has depression? Either way, relationships can present you with a whole host of emotions that might throw you and depression for a loop.
If you’re wondering how to date when depression is a factor, check out the tips in part one of this video by Practical Psychology.
The 7 types of men every woman has dated, according to a relationship expert – Body and Soul
As a single girl trying to ace that career, exercise well, eat right, maintain her sanity, and still make time to hang out with friends and family, it often makes me stop and wonder if I’ll actually end up forever alone. I mean, how many men will I need to sort through before I meet ‘the one’? And most importantly, how long will this gruelling process take? Should I assign months, years, or even decades? Mathematically speaking, that’s a helluva lot of precious time swiping left and right, making small talk, and crying over heartbreaks.
Okay, no one can actually give me an exact number or time frame because it’ll probably happen when I least expect it, but according to Tala Scott, founder of Evolve Today and relationship expert and author, there are seven men I will meet before I meet my perfect match – and this applies for all women. In Scott’s new book ‘Heaven on Earth Begins: the Seven Stages of Love’, she does exactly that – investigates the seven stages of dating before you find Mr Right.
Scott wants us to stop making the same mistakes, stop dating the same f**kboys, and instead make sure we women find that long-term happiness we all deserve. But to do this, Scott advises you have to kiss seven types of Mr Wrong until you find your Mr Darcy. So, which one’s have you ticked off? And who are you yet to tick off?
1. Mr Grey
AKA 50 Shades of mood swings/mixed messages/knowing the unknown.
“He wants you close enough to exercise control, but never closer than arm’s length emotionally,” Scott says. “His intrigue is a product of being emotionally distant, and he still carries the baggage of his first heartbreak. Don’t think you can change him! Love should not be difficult.” Amen, sister.
2. Mr McDreamy
Scott describes this as the person who “feels like your soul-mate” and the relationship “is a fulfilling and beautiful experience.”
“This loving relationship based on care and mutual understanding, arms you with the tools and knowledge of how to love.”
If it doesn’t work out between the two of you, don’t cry because Scott advises that this relationship will have taught you self-mastery and inner confidence – two qualities that will make you the ultimate #bosslady.
3. Mr Unavailable
“Mr Unavailable can’t offer you one or more of these connections: heart, body, soul and mind,” Scott explains. “This relationship isn’t a complete, full love. This man is emotionally, mentally or physically unavailable.” And he needs to be said goodbye to. ASAP.
4. Mr Upgrade
“Mr Upgrade has a strong connection to your soul and an even better understanding of the real you. There is a spiritual magnetism to your relationship, and an attraction to the soul.”
But as perfect as it may seem, there is one significant flaw: “… this soulful attraction often can’t translate due to an unhealed past relationship that will interfere with your intimate connection.”
5. Mr Variety
If you haven’t seen the film ‘The Other Woman’, then add it to your holiday to-do list – now. Basically, Cameron Diaz, Leslie Mann and Kate Upton play three women who are all romantically involved with the same douche bag AKA Mr Variety.
Scott describes this type as “the charming centre of attention that can’t seem to keep his eyes on one girl.”
“This heartthrob will be in and out of your life in a flash once the connection gets too intense for him, leaving you burning for more and wondering what went wrong.” Girlfriend, this one has danger written all over it. Save yourself the heartbreak and time.
6. Mr Duality
“Mr Duality is your twin in terms of your values, thoughts and strengths, with a deep sense of care and protection in your relationship.”
Sounds like Mr Darcy, right?
Well… “There is always some sort of difficulty when it comes to entering a committed relationship, and it is often due to unrequited romantic love.”
7. Mr Darcy
Simply put, every girl deserves to find their very own Colin Firth, ahem, I mean Mr Darcy.
“Your search is over when you meet your love of a lifetime, Mr Darcy. The love is complete in the heart, body, soul and mind, and the love is unconditional. He sees nothing but perfection and beauty in you and makes you see it in yourself, too. This Divine Union Relationship shows you how easy true love can really be!”
True love does exist, and it’s waiting for you out there.
Tala’s book ‘Heaven on Earth Begins: The Seven Stages of Love’ is currently available to purchase here.
For more like this, this is the average number of sexual partners each generation has had, and if you have this personality type, you’re probably having way more sex FYI.
