Category Archives: Dating Advice
Anil Kapoor on Arjun dating Malaika: Whatever makes him happy, makes me happy – India Today
Arjun Kapoor and Malaika Arora are painting the town red with their love story. After keeping their relationship under the wraps for a long time, the lovebirds have thrown caution to the wind and are no more shying away from making public appearances.
From dinner dates to parties to vacations, Arjun and Malaika have almost become inseparable. So mich so that Arjun recently admitted that he is no more single, and marriage is definitely on his mind.
And it seems Arjun has got a green signal from chachu Anil Kapoor. The Jhakaas actor, who on Neha Dhupia’s chat show recently, was asked to lend advice to celebrity couple – Malaika and Arjun.
To which the 61-year-old actor replied, “I know him [Arjun Kapoor] very well. Whatever makes him happy, makes me happy. I don’t want to comment on anything as that’s personal… whatever he does. We all family members have believed in that whatever makes the other person happy, makes us happy.”
Recently, on KJo’s show Arjun was asked as to when he plans to introduce girlfriend Malaika to his family. To which the Namaste England actor had said, “It has to fall into place. There’s a lot that’s happened in the family in the last few months. A lot has happened in my life in the last few months that has given me perspective.”
Buzz has it that Arjun and Malaika are set to tie the knot in 2019. Recent reports suggest that Arjun and Malaika have bought a plush apartment near Lokhandwala complex in Mumbai, and the couple is planning to move in soon.
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'The Conners': Juliette Lewis Returns With Scandalous Dating Advice – PopCulture.com
The Conners featured the return of one of its most memorable guest stars to date, who revealed a hilariously scandalous part of her past.
During “Hold the Salt,” Darlene (Sara Gilbert) finally acts on her feelings toward her boss Ben (Jay R. Ferguson) and the two start to build a romantic relationship, with their conflicting “Alpha” personalities getting in the way from the start.
After sharing their first kiss in the office, Darlene shows up to Ben’s apartment and they have their first disagreement when he asks her to take her shoes off before coming in. The pair then disagree further as they are both stubborn about which wine to enjoy and how to season their meal. Frustrated, Darlene walks away feeling like the relationship might not work after all.
The next morning, Darlene is at a coffee shop expecting to meet David (Johnny Galecki) but is greeted instead by his girlfriend Blue (Juliette Lewis) for the first time since their serious disagreement in a previous episode.
“What are you doing here? Oh wait, that sounds rude,” Darlene says. “What are you doing here instead of David, who I wish was here.”
“Well, he couldn’t come so I’ll be going over the kids’ Christmas list with you,” she says.
Before they discuss the holidays, Blue admits that she is having problems with David and could use Darlene’s advice. Darlene says she wouldn’t want to get involved but the woman opens up anyways about struggling with David’s inability to make decisions.
Darlene says that she is struggling with the opposite as she is dealing with a man who wants to make all of the decisions in their new relationship. Blue starts to massage Darlene’s hand and convinces Darlene to open up about her dating problems.
“I started dating my boss. He’s really controlling and I don’t think it’s going work out,” Darlene admits.
“One thing I learned at my previous job, before massage therapy, is that people who have a lot of responsibility secretly want to give up control to someone else…” Blue said, before hinting she had been a dominatrix in the past.
“It was a long time ago and I was the opposite of an anesthesiologist. I brought a lot of pain,” she continued. When Darlene tells her she doesn’t think Ben might be the kind to let go of his control, Blue suggests Darlene loosen up when it comes to relationships for once.
Back at her office, Darlene tells Ben to focus on work, and when he gives her a bad suggestion for the front page, she doesn’t fight it. Noticing things are different, he apologizes for what happened during their first date.
“I’m sorry that I got upset. I’m used to being the only Alpha in the relationship,” Ben says.
“Me too,” Darlene admits. “Can two Alphas have a relationship that works?”
Darlene and Ben both agree to try to let go of controlling everything, and just to trust in each other. They seal their blossoming relationship with a kiss before getting back to work.
The Conners airs Tuesdays at 8 p.m. ET on ABC.
Nicole DiRocco Helps Executive Women Find Success in Love – DatingNews
For 25 years, Nicole DiRocco worked as a human resources executive. During her time in the corporate world, her strength and leadership were admired and rewarded. However, while Nicole made it to the top of her profession, she wasn’t having the same success with relationships.
She was unknowingly taking away a man’s motivation to pursue her. She’d go out on dates and never hear from the men again.
That’s when Nicole started seeing a dating and relationship coach and began the process of self-discovery to understand how she was showing up in relationship to men. After investing in relationship courses and countless books she had an epiphany.
Nicole DiRocco went from working in the corporate world to coaching executives, especially women, on dating and relationships.
“I didn’t understand it at the time, but my feminine side had been squelched. I did a lot of digging and learned what it meant to be vulnerable. I also didn’t understand men and their language,” she said. “Once I started implementing the shifts I needed to make, I started attracting and dating incredible quality men. My old self couldn’t imagine that possibility.”
Simultaneously, she considered coaching as a way to realize her purpose to be of service to others. That epiphany inspired Nicole to leave corporate life behind. She enrolled in classes and earned a graduate certificate in executive and professional coaching from the University of Texas at Dallas and sat for the International Coach Federation credentialing exam. Initially, she focused on leadership coaching, but when many of her clients complained of lackluster love lives, she knew it was time to share her knowledge on the subject.
That’s when Nicole narrowed the focus of her coaching to dating and relationships and founded Dating With Grace.
“I have a lot of compassion for my clients because I’ve been there. I’ve walked in their shoes,” she said. “There’s no judgment when someone comes to coaching. Everyone has their own pace. Things come up, and we deal with what the client needs in that moment.”
Dating With Grace™ is Designed for Busy Singles Over 40
Nicole said she decided to focus on top female industry leaders — age 40 and up — because she speaks their language. She understands the unique challenges of navigating a male-dominated work environment and how the professional demeanor women settle into can transfer over to their personal lives.
“I ask my clients what happens if they don’t find the relationship they’re looking for, and nine times out of 10, they say, ‘Oh, I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine.’ And then I ask ‘What would your feminine side say?’” she said. “That stops them in their tracks because they’re speaking from their masculine side.”
Her training allows her to pick up on a client’s tone and determine what is — or isn’t — being said.
As a coach, she helps women through the self-discovery process with fact-based research. She presents concepts that help her clients challenge deeply ingrained concepts that often stop people from being open to the kind of partner that’s best for them.
Nicole offers different coaching packages and strategies through her website, DatingWithGrace.me.
For example, Nicole said that many mature women will say that they don’t want to go on a date with a man who has never been married. To them, that says something about their character. However, Nicole shares research that shows a record share of Americans have never been married. One in 5 people over the age of 25 in the U.S. have never been married, compared with 1 in 10 unmarrieds in that demographic in 1960.
When women recognize that it makes sense to change some of their preconceived notions about men, relationships, and themselves, they can approach dating and love quite differently.
“I put the facts out there, and then I reframe it. My clients often have to take a step back because they have views that are not founded,” Nicole said. “Add in self limiting beliefs and a willingness to do the work, the ingredients for coaching are made.”
Dating With Grace visitors can also get a free copy of Nicole’s ebook, “3 Hot Tips To Successful Dating In The 21st Century,” by signing up for her newsletter.
Available to Global Clients Through Phone Calls and Emails
Nicole works with women (and, a few brave men) around the world, from North America to New Zealand.
She offers a tailor-made program for clients who seek exclusive coaching. With a boutique practice, Nicole approaches every client’s situation as unique and deserving of a one-of-a-kind coaching experience. Before taking on a new client, she determines if the client is ready to get back into dating — especially if they’ve recently been through a divorce or ended a meaningful relationship.
“All of my clients are excited about moving forward, but they do need to do that first-level work in therapy if there is still grief or anger associated with the end of a long relationship,” she said. “I’m ethically obligated to do that. I’ve had to say, ‘What I’m offering and what you need are not a match.’ And then they come back to me after they do that work.”
“I show my clients strategies for effectively attracting the kind of man they’re interested in. When I use words like strategy, that resonates with executive women.” — Nicole DiRocco, Founder of Dating With Grace
Nicole works with clients over the phone and she’s also available via email in between coaching sessions. She helps clients focus on self-care, finding happiness from within, and how to diversify their dating portfolio including rewriting their online dating profiles and provides pre- and post-date support. Her support spans from what to wear on a first date to complex ideas about understanding men and how to handle specific situations.
“I show my clients strategies for effectively attracting the kind of man they’re interested in,” she said. “When I use words like strategy, that resonates with executive women. I also do an online values inventory and we talk about what kind of life they want to create. As well, I focus on upskilling their flirting abilities and to how to make their date feel like a million bucks.”
Nicole DiRocco Focuses on Authenticity in Life and Love
Nicole said she has helped so many executive women — and men — maintain their professional focus while opening their hearts.
“When we do the work, they never have to change who they are at their core — it’s tweaking their behavior and reframing beliefs they’ve held about themselves and men,” she said. “I want them to realize that they’re perfect as they are and the most attractive thing to a man is a woman’s authenticity and her confidence.”
When women become more connected to themselves and more comfortable with intimacy, they can learn how to respond to a man’s pursuit, she said.
One of Nicole’s clients, a prominent coach herself, had just come out of a 10-year relationship and had no idea how to meet a man because her last relationship was with her next-door neighbor. Nicole helped the woman learn how to navigate online dating, as well as how to meet men offline, and now she’s dating a great guy.
Nicole helps clients learn how to be authentic and attract compatible matches.
Another client, a successful entrepreneur, in her early 60s and divorced, was intent on finding someone with whom to spend the rest of her life. But when she started working with Nicole, she complained that she was doing all the work. That’s because, after approaching dating with the same attitude she used in her business life, she was attracting the quintessential beta men.
“Today, she is with a man she met on Match.com. We wrote her profile together, and he quotes her profile, that’s how much of an impact her profile had on him,” Nicole said. “They are now engaged and she’s happier than she’s ever been. He is the leader for which she was looking.”
Those results make Nicole proud to be a coach, and she plans to continue reaching out to executive women through speaking engagements, writing for various publications, online Master Classes and attending events — including the Texas Conference for Women.
“Coaching helps people realize their full potential. Unlike therapy, coaching is solution oriented. It’s humbling, and I get a great feeling of giving back,” she said. “I’m grateful for the opportunity to serve my clients. Their success is my success, and it’s very rewarding.”
My 15-Year-Old Daughter Told Me She’s Pansexual and Dating a Transgender Boy. I’m Struggling. – The New York Times
Dear Sugars,
I’m the mother of an amazing teenage daughter. Our relationship is close, but recently things have gotten complicated. She came out to us as pansexual when she was 11. I was concerned about her labeling herself at such a young age and being bullied. She met a transgender child in summer camp, then a few others, and helped them through some tough times. I was proud of her for her compassion and did not restrict her friendships, though she wasn’t allowed to sleep over at anyone’s house.
Fast forward to age 15. After several heterosexual relationships and a few girl crushes, she wants to date a transgender boy. My older Latina mother, who lives with us, disapproves. I also feel uncomfortable. She goes to a small private school where she would be labeled by some, although there are friends who would understand. I’ve told her we need to meet the person and if her behavior starts to be affected adversely we would react accordingly. Our daughter feels it’s unfair that she has more restrictions placed on her dating than her brother.
I know it’s her life, but I don’t like her hanging out with these kids, some of whom don’t go to her school. A few are really odd in appearance and seem to focus very narrowly on gender issues. I worry that I’m being shallow and judgmental but want to do what’s best. How much of this is experimental teenage stuff and how much is who she is? What should I do to support her? My mother thinks I am crazy to “allow” her new relationship, but I don’t want to lose my daughter’s trust.
Mother of a Free Spirit
Steve Almond: You’re concerned that your daughter wants to date a transgender boy, and that she’s socializing with children from the L.B.G.T.Q. community. But it sounds like your underlying anxiety is that your daughter has a sexual identity and desires that aren’t heteronormative. It’s hard enough to move through a world fraught with bigotry as a young Latino woman. It becomes that much harder when you identify as pansexual and have a transgender partner. You worry that she’ll be bullied or ostracized, or that she’ll define her identity too narrowly. That doesn’t make you shallow. But it’s also true that there’s an undercurrent of anxiety around her social and sexual independence. The best way to support your daughter is to sort out how much of your anxiety arises from threats to her happiness and safety versus threats to your own idea of what’s “normal.”
The central questions I’d be asking are not about who she’s hanging out with, but about her. Is she happy? Is she doing well in school? Is she kind to those around her? Your daughter is still a minor, so officially you get to make the rules around the house. But it’s only natural that she’d object to a double standard predicated on gender rather than character or circumstance. It’s going to be hard for your daughter to trust you if she senses that you don’t trust her.
Cheryl Strayed: Nothing you write about your daughter’s choice of friends and potential dating partners gives me pause, Mother of a Free Spirit. Your discomfort doesn’t appear to stem from any peril to your daughter, but rather from your own biases. I encourage you to examine the ways that negative assumptions you’ve made about L.G.B.T.Q. people have needlessly stoked your fears.
You state that you’ve told your daughter that you need to meet the trans boy she wants to date and that you’ll “react accordingly” if her behavior changes while dating him. Wouldn’t you do that regardless of whom she was dating? Why do you put her current romantic interest in a special category because he’s trans? Because our transphobic society has told most of us that trans people are in a special category, that’s why. But they aren’t. They’re just people. Everything that may happen between your daughter and the trans boy who’s attracted her interest is everything that may happen between your daughter and anyone she may date, their gender identity notwithstanding. The best thing you can do for your daughter is to wrap your mind around that.
SA: To that end, it’s worth asking what you mean when you write that you don’t like your daughter “hanging out with these kids.” You mean kids who happen to be L.G.B.T.Q.? Your own daughter is part of that community and has been for several years. So what you’re saying, on some level, is that you don’t want your daughter hanging out with kids like … your daughter. Can you see how this would breed mistrust?
We’re living in a cultural moment in which kids like your daughter are suddenly free to think more openly about who they are and whom they might choose to love. That can be unsettling for those of us who grew up without those freedoms, and within systems of bigotry that assailed those freedoms as unnatural or sinful. But in the end, the heart desires what it desires. That’s the natural order of things. Your daughter appears to have recognized that early on. She’s now offering you the opportunity to reckon with that truth. Bless her. And bless you for being the kind of mother willing to bear the risks of self-examination. The world needs more people like you.
CS: Your sincere effort to do right by your free-spirited daughter is commendable. You aren’t alone in feeling afraid and uncertain at various points along the way as you watch your daughter explore things that are foreign to you. Your question about what part of her interest in gender identity is “experimental teenage stuff” and what part is “who she is” can be rightly answered two ways: In choosing the friends, romantic partners and interests she has, your daughter is showing you precisely who she is, and also, with the passage of time, who she is will change. Both her current and her future self will do better if she has you by her side — loving her, trusting her and accepting her through it all.
