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Corrie reveals another shock marriage proposal
Coronation Street has revealed the identity of another couple set to be involved in a shocking marriage proposal storyline…
Last week it was revealed that three of Weatherfield’s characters would be asking their respective love interests for their hands in marriage over the coming weeks – a summer of love indeed!
***Spoiler Alert****
Fans already know that one of the proposals will involve Steve McDonald and Tracy Barlow, but now we can reveal that Daniel Osbourne and Sinead Tinker are couple number two.
Daniel asks Sinead to marry him
Sharing the spoiler with their followers across their social media platforms, the soap published images of Daniel down on one knee in front of Sinead, who looks stunned.
The scenes will air next week, and in the build up to Daniel popping the question, viewers will see Flora presenting him with his mother’s engagement ring and suggesting he take the next step with Sinead.
Flora advises Daniel on his pursuit of love
Taking Flora’s advice, Daniel goes around to surprise Sinead, but will she say yes?
It will be a big week for proposals, with Steve and Tracy’s scenes also to air next week. While Daniel may have put some thought and consideration into his proposal, Steve’s will be more spur of the moment.
Due to the World Cup, Coronation Street will air at different times this week. Catch hour-long episodes on ITV and TV3 on Tuesday, Thursday and Friday at 8pm.
Remarriage Advice
Q: Our grandson is 36 years old and has been divorced for a little under five years. He has full custody of his two young children. After dealing with the divorce, he recently got back into the dating scene and found a woman about eight months ago.
Now he’s thinking about proposing and wants to know his family’s opinion. But we’ve only met her twice and we barely know her.
How should we answer?
A: Before he rushes to the altar, encourage him to take his time. He is doubtlessly lonely and stressed, as raising children as a single parent is difficult. However, making a hasty decision could be disastrous if he doesn’t think it through.
It’s good that he is being thoughtful about the idea, especially since he has already divorced. To that end, remind him of several questions he should discuss and think through beforehand: Do they have similar goals and values? Has she been married and had children already? How do his children feel about their relationship?
On a logistical level, there are some other decisions he will need to think about: Do they feel prepared to live together? Where would they live? Would she plan to work or stay at home with the children? Does he have assets that he would want to manage under a prenuptial agreement? Do either of them have outstanding debt or liabilities?
These are the types of questions they need to discuss and agree on before thinking about committing to marriage. And even if they are on the same page, he will need to prioritize his children and ensure that they feel happy and secure.
In reality, most marriages are a crapshoot in many ways. We all seek the joys of love, intimacy, happiness and familial harmony. The choice to bond himself to a new partner is one that only he can make. But you can help him realize what he wants and needs with your advice.
The keys to a successful long-term relationship are communication, honesty and compromise. — Doug
MEMORY BOXES
Q: Over the years, I have been lucky to experience many adventures all over the world. I’ve kept a chronicle of holidays, travels and family events.
Looking at my stuffed boxes of photos, my children are telling me I should get rid of some of them. I think that this would be a huge mistake. Future generations will be able to look at my collection and feel connected to the past.
Do you think I’m right?
A: Especially for seniors, photographs have huge importance and represent a sort of security of being able to remember. These tangible referents to our memories make it easier to hold on to our experiences. Even when we don’t remember events, these mementos help us remind ourselves of the past.
Ask yourself how often you want to look at these photos. If you’re willing to go through all of your memories and reminisce, it might make sense to keep all of them.
But most of us don’t really want to go to the effort. Looking through our photos, only a few of them provoke strong, sentimental feelings.
You don’t need to get rid of all your photos, but it might be time to sort through them. You don’t need quite so many.
It’s well worth it to keep pictures that you want to frame or pictures involving extremely dear memories. Have a family member help you digitize the rest — you will have a record while saving the space and preserving the image.
When shoved in a box, photographs can be damaged by spiders, humidity and other factors. It’s also hard to find the ones you want when you want.
Additionally, you should consider who will inherit your collection. When you pare down the number, it will be easier to care for them.
Go through your photos with a family member and decide what is truly worth keeping. By doing this together, you can share the experiences behind your pictures. — Emma, Doug’s granddaughter
Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at [email protected] Emma, Doug’s granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.
Photo credit: at Pixabay
10 Unconventional Pieces Of Marriage Advice From Divorce Lawyers
Divorce lawyers are all too familiar with what drives couples to their law offices, embittered and ready to call it quits.
Given all they’ve seen and heard, family law attorneys are uniquely qualified to give advice on what married couples should and shouldn’t be doing if they want to avoid divorce court.
Below, divorce attorneys from across the country share some unexpected, but spot-on marriage advice.
1. Make it a goal to be the first partner to say, “I’m sorry.”
“You can be right or you can be happy. Don’t be stubborn in arguments. Apologize as soon as you know that you are wrong. If you are not wrong, still apologize for upsetting your spouse during the argument.” ―Brad M. Micklin, an attorney in Nutley, New Jersey
2. Secure your own oxygen mask first in the event of marital turbulence.
“Life can be hectic and stressful, which can lead to anxiety, irritability and frustration. Those emotions can lead to dysfunctional behaviors that have a negative impact on your marriage. People need to take care of themselves first and take a deep look to determine how their job, their children and their friendships are meeting or violating their core values and affecting their marriage.” ―Christopher S. Hildebrand, an attorney in Scottsdale, Arizona
3. Be honest, but not that honest.
“Trust me: Many relationships are destroyed with one really critical, mean sentence that could have been prevented by walking away until you’re calm. Don’t be overly honest with your partner.” ―Lynda L. Hinkle, an attorney in Turnersville, New Jersey
4. Set monthly “state of the union” meetings.
“Poor communication is rampant in couples who separate and ultimately go through a divorce. How can two people live in a house and not even know how to talk to each other? It happens all the time. In these cases, it’s not surprising that spouses lead nearly separate lives, as if the marriage is the husband’s island and the wife’s island and the only bridge between them are the children. Monthly ‘state of the union’ meetings alleviate this problem. Each month, the spouses have a sit-down meeting. Each brings an agenda of talking points. The spouses then factually and logically go through each point and come to a consensus. Either spouse can create and keep the minutes (record) of the meeting or the spouses can alternate. You can definitely dedicate one to two hours out of a month to this, especially if you’re doing it over a glass of wine or some dinner.” ―B. Robert Farzad, an attorney in Orange County, California
5. Force yourself to have those unsexy conversations about finances.
“Keep informed of your finances, always. Often, there is one partner who is in charge of the money and bill paying and the other is left in the dark, often by their own choice. Everyone should know what is going on in the finances, and you should meet every month to talk about goals, failings, aspirations and where you are. Since money trouble is one of the No. 1 causes of divorce, working together on this is a key to a successful marriage.” ―Lynda L. Hinkle
6. When you have financial talks, treat them like business meetings.
“It is dollars and cents. If you and your spouse cannot agree on a financial-related issue, turn the heart off and treat it like a business transaction. ‘Feelings’ on the issue are irrelevant. Do you and your spouse have a dispute regarding whether the family can afford to buy the house? Affording is not the same thing as loving or wanting. Affording means you create a conservative monthly budget and decide if the house payment, property taxes, insurance, association dues and moving costs all fit within the family’s budget. You should also look at the real estate market and decide whether you are buying at a good time or not. The heart gets plenty of spouses in trouble when it is time to make financial decisions.” ―B. Robert Farzad
7. Remind yourself that not everyone is as happy as they look on Instagram.
“Everyone looks so happy on social media, we often think we are the only ones with problems. As a divorce attorney for 20 years, I can tell you, many, if not most, marriages are suffering in some way at some time ― you just can’t tell because they comb their hair and dress nicely for the Facebook pic.” ―Brad M. Micklin
8. Focus on your marriage first, even if it means giving others you care about the short shrift.
“Everyone else in the world with whom you interact should be a distant second to your relationship with your spouse. The constant bombardment of crises from everybody else’s life can become an unwarranted intrusion into your relationship. As a couple, focus on solving your problems and let other people solve their own problems. This is especially true for adult children and close friends.” ―Christopher Hildebrand
9. Make your own couple-focused holidays.
“Don’t wait for the Hallmark holidays to do something nice. Those are always expected. Celebrate your spouse when they don’t expect anything. Make it up. It will score you more points and you’ll be more appreciated. It’s a win-win.” ―Jason Levoy, an attorney and divorce coach in New York City
10. Realize that when you always win the argument, you may lose your marriage.
“Couples are going to disagree and some disputes get more heated than others. It’s easy to become entrenched in your position and lose sight of what’s important and focus only on wanting to win the argument. Communication is one of the keys to a strong relationship, and learning to compromise with your partner creates a winning situation. Compromise is always a win.” ―Tanya Freeman, an attorney in Parsippany, New Jersey
Beyoncé and JAY-Z's Surprise “Everything Is Love” Album Is a Celebration of Their Marriage
On what would have otherwise been a normal summer Saturday, Beyoncé and Jay-Z shocked their fans with the launch of a new, joint album that spills some serious tea on their relationship — and offers up marital advice in the process.
The couple released the nine track “Everything is Love” album on Jay-Z’s Tidal streaming service, seemingly providing a final chapter to the musical romance saga fans have been following for years. On Beyoncé’s 2016 “Lemonade” she called out Jay for cheating, and in 2017 he responded (and admitted) to the allegations on “4:44.“
Now, Bey and Jay have come together for an album that can best be described as a celebration of their love.
“The ups and downs are worth it/ Long way to go but we’re working/ We’re flawed but we’re still perfect for each other, yeah yeah/ Sometimes I thought we’d never see the light/ We went through hell with heaven on our side/ This beach ain’t always been no paradise,” Beyoncé sings, per Genius, in a track titled “LOVEHAPPY,” shedding light on their current relationship status.
On the same track, JAY-Z admits, “we broke up and got back together.”
In a 2017 interview with The New York Times, the rapper opened up about his infidelity, and why he and Beyoncé have chosen to stick it out for the long haul. “Well, that’s my soulmate. It’s the person I love. And you can be in love with someone, you can love someone, and if you haven’t experienced love and you don’t understand it, and you don’t have the tools to move forward, then you’re going to have complications, period,” he said. “You can either address it, or you can pretend until it blows up at some point, and for us, we chose to fight for our love, for our family, to give our kids a different outcome, to break that cycle. And for black men and women, to see a different outcome.”
In addition to the album, the pair also released a music video to accompany a song titled “Ape S**t,” some of which Beyoncé teased on Instagram. The mini-film was reportedly shot in the Louvre in May — solidifying the Carter’s status as king and queen of hip-hop (/everything).
As if Bey and Jay being crazy in love on the album aren’t enough to make you melt, one of the family’s other lyricists also makes an appearance. On a track titled “Boss,” 6-year-old Blue Ivy raps alongside her parents and gives an adorable tribute to her baby twin siblings. “Shout out to Rumi and Sir, love Blue,” she says.
The couple have been traveling through Europe on their “On The Run II” tour, which will hit North America later this summer, CNN reports. BRB, frantically buying myself some tickets.
