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Ukrainian rent-a-brides plan to target Liverpool fans in elaborate marriage scams when thousands arrive for the …
LIVERPOOL football fans face being ripped off by beautiful Ukranian women in elaborate marriage scams when they travel to Kiev for the Champions League final.
Hard-up Eastern European women register with agencies offering gorgeous rent-a-brides to lonely Brits.
Liverpool fans are being warned against marriage scammers when they travel to Kiev
And it’s feared the fake marriage fraudsters may try to seduce thousands of fans online before they leave the UK and head to Kiev for the May 26 clash.
Previous cases show scammers work these sites – and bleed the trusting blokes dry.
The Foreign and Commonwealth Office has issued a warning to fans heading to the Ukraine capital, adding that victims of such scams are “unlikely to recover their money”.
A spokesperson said: “Exercise caution when travelling to Ukraine for a relationship initiated via the internet. There have been incidents of marriage fraud and attempted extortion affecting foreign nationals.
“You should be particularly vigilant if the person is uncontactable face-to-face or they ask you to send money urgently (for example, they may say that they’ve been arrested or have fallen ill).
“Unfortunately, it’s very unlikely you’ll be able to recover your money if you’re a victim of such a scam.”
But it’s not just fake brides who plan to target Liverpool fans; other crooks are also known to spike tourists’ drinks with drugs so they can be mugged or even sexually abused.
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The fraudsters are known to bleed their victims dry
The UK government says Kiev – where Liverpool will play Real Madrid in just under three weeks – is one of the country’s crime hot-spots.
Travel advice states: “Travellers of Asian or Afro-Caribbean descent and individuals belonging to religious minorities should take extra care.
“Be alert to the possibility of street crime and petty theft, which is on the increase in Kiev.
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“Foreigners may appear to be lucrative targets. Where possible, avoid walking alone late at night in dark or poorly lit streets. Keep valuables and cash safe and out of sight, especially in crowded areas, tourist spots, and on public transport, where pickpockets and bag snatchers operate.”
And the FCO says of the roads in Ukraine: “Local driving standards are poor. Street lights are weak, speed limits, traffic lights and road signs are often ignored, and drivers rarely indicate before manoeuvring.
“There are a high number of traffic accidents, including fatalities. Speeding, drink driving and infrequent use of helmets, seat belts and child restraints in vehicles are the main contributing factors.”
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Essential advice from a feminist conservative pastor!
Summary: A Pastor’s advice shows the power of radical feminism, the decay of Christianity, and why so many young men are having difficulty relating to women.
“How to Be a Happy Husband: Advice to a 15-year-old Son“
By J.D. Greear, pastor of The Summit Church, in Raleigh-Durham, NC.
“This is great advice for all the 15-year-olds out there, a helpful template for all the parents out there, and a much needed reminder to all the husbands out there!
{Much of his advice is conventional. Here are his unconventional recommendations.}
- “Don’t date just for fun.
- Look for a wife, not a girlfriend.
- Honor girls now by refusing to join in disrespectful banter that will occur with your friends.
- Assume that your girlfriend may be someone else’s future wife.
- Remember that your girlfriend is someone’s daughter and sister.
- Learn how to have conflict.
- Develop the skill to resolve conflict with compassion.
- Apologize (and don’t expect an apology).
- Demand respect for your wife, not from your wife.
- Never ever sleep on the couch. If necessary, sleep on the floor outside the bedroom door.“
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This advice is so bad as to defy rational analysis. Let’s create alternative subtitles for it. Post your suggestions in the comments!
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Most women want to have fun and build their careers for a decade before marriage. It is nuts to tell a 15 year old to ignore this fact. Also, there is little evidence that “learning to have conflict” improves marriages.
More important – Not all women want bad boys (aka men with dark triad behaviors) — although many do (e.g., that’s one reason Taylor Swift’s songs are so popular with women). But few women want a doormat for a husband. Most women find “pedestal polishers” a bore. I’ll bet most women consider it creepy for a husband to sleep on the floor outside the door after a fight, like a dog.
Most important – this advice is antimatter to a young man’s pride. Without pride, he is toast. A sensible 15-year-old young man will listen carefully, then conclude that Pastor Greear is a loon.
Pastor Greear is modern pastor!
Many conservative christian leaders have gone full radical feminist, showing the power of the feminist movement in America. Dalrock has documented this in a series of terrifying posts. Their beliefs range from ascriptural to contra-scriptural, but are quite PC.
See Dalrock’s posts about wife worship servant leadership (aka Women on Top), and the mutant variant of Complementarian theory (aka Women On Top, unlike the usual version). Here are few introducing you to this doomed religious movement. See it before it goes extinct!
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Strongly recommended: Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy
See my posts about Cheap Sex: Misadventures of a young woman in modern America. and Cheap Sex is the Inconvenient Truth in the end of marriage.
After almost 13 years, my husband and I still do marriage classes to keep our relationship strong
For our wedding, my aunt gave Zach and I tickets to a weekend-long marriage conference. The gesture was unbelievably sweet, but having only been married for six months, most of the advice we received fell on still-honeymoon-blissed ears.
I remember looking at Zach and saying, “None of this applies to us.”
And it didn’t.
Although not long after that, I know Zach and I were both grateful for the information we’d gleaned from the conference. As marriage got tougher and more complicated, as our communication skills were tested and stretched and as life inevitably got harder, we leaned into those morsels of good advice, finding endless opportunities to apply them.
Nearly 13 years have passed since that “Weekend to Remember.” The biggest takeaway for Zach and I wasn’t the advice, but the weekend itself. We would never have chosen to spend a weekend at the conference had it not been gifted to us. That weekend set the tone for our marriage going forward.
Marriage conferences and classes are not strictly for couples on the verge of divorce. They’re helpful tools for every marriage, no matter the stage or health of the relationship.
Since then, whenever possible, Zach and I have jumped on every opportunity to invest in our marriage. We’ve admitted to each other that this thing is hard, that life together is complicated and difficult, and the world we live in only makes things worse. The more we know about the other person and the more tools we have to work together on a unified relationship, the deeper, more enjoyable our commitment to each other is.
No two people can have a perfect relationship. There will always be struggle as two different people — with very different ways of thinking and very different backgrounds — try to maintain one mindset. But the harder you work to understand your spouse and invest in them, the easier the struggle becomes.
We’ll be married for 13 years this August, and we’ve just started another three-month-long marriage class. We’re giving up comfortable Thursday evenings at home to spend in deep discussion with other couples about managing our expectations and learning to give each other grace.
I’m going to be honest, these classes or seminars aren’t always easy. Sometimes they’re too revealing. Sometimes I don’t like what I learn. I’d rather everything be his fault. I hate admitting that I’m wrong. Sometimes we’re doing great, but when we dive in deep during a class, we find out that things aren’t as perfect as they seem and we have some damaging hurt to work through. Sometimes the classes we take bring out more struggle than our every day life.
And that’s OK. Because the point of working on your marriage is to make the core of it stronger. It’s easy to pretend everything’s fine when the surface is smooth. But we’re more interested in what’s underneath the surface. We’re more interested in the heart of each other. We’re more dedicated to our marriage than our immediate happiness.
I encourage you to do the same. Things could be going great for you or things could be awful. Both scenarios are the perfect time to pause the busyness of life, find a seminar or book or couples class and invest in each other. And while you’re there, remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Rachel Higginson is a married mom to five kids. She is a New York Times and USA Today bestselling author who has received a Utopia Award for Best Contemporary Romance and Penned Con Award for Best Novella Series. She lives in Omaha. To read more from Rachel, click here.
The Dark Secret About Why Jackie Really Married JFK
Throughout the ages, people have tied the knot for a whole spectrum of reasons. Like Meghan Markle, many of us love a great love story. However, plenty have married for convenience, companionship — and of course, money. A recent book about Jackie Kennedy, one of America’s most famous first ladies, addresses the reasons she married both times.
According to Randy Taraborrelli, author of Jackie, Janet, and Lee, Janet Bouvier had a rock-solid influence on the marriage decisions of her daughters Jackie and Lee. See who Jackie almost married before JFK (page 3) and why her marriage to a wealthy millionaire was an escape (page 6).
Jackie’s father made a mess of his finances
Jackie’s father burned through the family fortune. | Evening Standard/Getty Images
Janet Bouvier and her husband John Bouvier married in 1928 and had two daughters together, Jackie (born 1929) and Lee (born 1933). The couple went on to separate in 1936 due to John’s womanizing. They divorced in 1940.
In addition to his philandering, John had depleted his money through a series of bad investments. He also frequently visited the racetrack. This was a major causal factor in the divorce.
Next: The advice Jackie’s mom gave her and her sister
Her mom’s advice: Marry a rich man
Janet Bouvier advised her daughter’s to marry rich men. | Evening Standard/Getty Images
As Taraborelli’s story goes, during one of their regular “Mother Daughter Teas” in 1951, Janet told her young daughters the secret to “Happily Ever After” was “money and power.” Her point was money matters when it comes to men.
Janet’s advice was based on her own experience with her first marriage. She had gone on to marry the financially stable Standard Oil heir Hugh Auchincloss two years after divorcing John Bouvier.
Next: Did Jackie take her mother’s advice?
Jackie was engaged to someone else before JFK
Jackie’s mother convinced her to dump her first fiance. | Stringer/AFP/Getty Images
In the early 1950s, Jackie became engaged to boyfriend John Husted Jr. When her mother found out the stockbroker was only making $17,000 a year, she told her daughter — at the engagement party — to break up with him.
Maybe not at the party, but soon enough later, Jackie ended the engagement, placing the ring into Husted’s coat pocket. “She was ice cold,” Taraborelli quoted Husted’s recounting. “Like we never knew each other.”
Next: She married a different John.
Jackie married John F. Kennedy
She married into money and power. | Keystone/Getty Images
In 1953, Jackie married John F. Kennedy, a dashing Massachusetts Senator. He came from a politically-connected and wealthy clan worth at least $500 million. While her mother approved of the union for monetary reasons, she did have reservations due to Kennedy’s reputation as a philanderer.
Jackie pushed all that aside, however, enthralled by her new husband’s fame and lofty political ambitions. She went on to support his successful 1960 campaign for president of the United States.
Next: She met another John after the assassination
She considered marrying an influential architect
She ended her relationship with John Warnecke after she found out he was in debt. | John F. Kennedy Presidential Library/Wikimedia Commons
A year after her husband’s untimely death in 1963, Jackie became romantically involved with John Warnecke. The tall, handsome architect had designed the president’s memorial with the eternal flame at Arlington National Cemetery.
The new couple even discussed marriage on a trip to Hawaii in 1966. However, two years into their relationship, Warnecke revealed to Jackie he was $650,000 in debt. He’d even spent some staff bonuses at his architectural firm to keep up with her lifestyle. Jackie ended their relationship there.
Next: Where Jackie found refuge
She married a Greek shipping magnate
In 1968, Jackie married Aristotle Onassis. | Central Press/Getty Images
Jackie wasn’t looking for a relationship with someone in debt, and “that’s how she ended up with Aristotle Onassis,” according to Taraborelli. In 1968, Jackie married the Greek shipping magnate, 29 years her senior. This provided her with newfound wealth and a safe haven from the United States, where both her first husband and his brother Robert F. Kennedy had been assassinated.
“It’s not to say Jackie did not love J.F.K. and Onassis in her own way,” Taraborelli noted. “She did. But if they were not well off, she would not have been with them.” She and Onassis remained married until he died in 1975, upon which Jackie received $26 million of his fortune.
Next: A companion in her last days
Her last love interest
Maurice Tempelsman was with her at her death. | Timothy Clary/AFP/Getty Images
For the last 12 years of her life, Jackie’s companion was wealthy international diamond merchant Maurice Tempelsman. He steadied her as they strolled through the park in her last days and was at her deathbed in 1994. He stood with her children at her funeral and read a poem during the eulogy.
Tempelsman amassed his fortune as a diamond dealer and was also a partner of a real estate investment company. Although he and his wife Lilly Bucholz were separated, they never divorced.
Next: Jackie’s sister’s marriages
Jackie’s sister’s three marriages
Her sister Lee ended up marrying a prince. | Jimmy Sime/Central Press/Getty Images
Jackie’s younger sister Lee was married three times, first to Michael Temple Canfield. The marriage reportedly struggled from the start as Canfield couldn’t fund her expensive lifestyle. After divorcing him, she married former prince Stanislaw Radziwill. They had two children together and divorced in 1974.
Lee went on to become the second wife of American film director and choreographer Herbert Ross. The two divorced shortly before his death. Lee, 85, currently resides in Manhattan.
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