Category Archives: marriage advice
Royal news: Harry yelled 'what Meghan wants she gets' in pre-wedding meltdown rant – claim
The Duke of Sussex is said to have insisted “what Meghan wants, she gets” ahead of the Windsor Castle ceremony on May 19.
According to Charles At Seventy: Thoughts, Hopes And Dreams the weeks leading up the wedding were tense for Harry and Meghan.
It is claimed the couple were so stressed out they booked appointments with Ross Barr, who is known as the “acupuncturist to the stars”.
But according to Prince Charles’s biographer Robert Jobson, Harry endured a “pre-wedding meltdown”.
The claims are among several explosive revelations in the new book.
Meghan’s relationship with Charles is said to be key the Prince Of Wales becoming closer to his youngest son, Harry.
The Duchess of Sussex is even said to have asked Charles’ advice on what music to play at her wedding ceremony.
A source sold Mr Jobson: “When Meghan met the Prince of Wales, she was bowled over by his gentlemanly charm.
“She told Prince Harry he was wonderful; welcoming, warm, hard-working, kind and stable. She made it clear that he should appreciate him and bond more.”
Meghan is also said to be fascinated with British royal history and to pore over notes about the Commonwealth.
Charles recognises his own campaigning zeal and philanthropic streak in his new daughter-in-law, it is claimed.
In the run-up to his wedding, Harry hailed Prince Charles’s “selfless drive” during an emotional speech, the book says.
He was speaking at his father’s official 70th birthday celebrations at Buckingham Palace in May, three days before he tied the knot with Meghan.
Harry said: “Pa, while I know you’ve asked that today not be about you, you must forgive me if I don’t listen to you.
“Much like when I was younger. Instead, I ask everyone here to say a huge thank-you to you, for your incredible work over nearly 50 years.
“It is your selfless drive to effect change, whether that is to improve the lives of those who are on the wrong path or a particular species under threat, which William and I draw inspiration from every day.”
Prince William was not present at the celebrations as he was at an official event to mark the first anniversary of the Manchester Arena terrorist attack.
Charles turns 70 on November 14.
Waiting to leave our spouses
Hello Meredith,
Twenty years ago, I was fortunate enough to meet the most amazing woman. We dated for six years and got engaged. I was divorced with a child and had many personal issues with my ex and my family. None of them approved of this woman, which made our relationship – and engagement – very difficult.
I made a decision to leave her to save her (and myself) from all of the fighting. We both moved on, both married and had children with other people. But we have reconnected over the past few years and have admitted that we aren’t over each other and that we have unfinished business. We both agree that we would like to experience what could have been. We have talked and seen each other now on many occasions and it’s obvious the spark still exists. We haven’t been together physically this time around. We don’t even kiss.
Both of our marriages aren’t the best, but we are both still married to other people. I have told her I would leave my marriage for her. She said she would also leave her marriage, but asked me to wait and hasn’t given me a timeline. I love this woman and I know I was 100 percent the reason for our split. I have no clue what to do. I’m afraid to wait and that she’ll change her mind. She swears she won’t. I don’t want to string my wife along through this process.
– Waiting
“I don’t want to string my wife along through this process.”
Well, that’s what you’re doing. It sounds like you’ve been setting up a second life without telling your wife that there are any real problems. You say your marriage “isn’t the best,” but does she have any idea that that you’re basically out the door?
You owe your wife the truth – before you pack your bags. Please tell her you’re unhappy and that you’ve been making plans without her. Let her ask questions and think (and talk) about how she wants to proceed.
Please know that she might want to work on the marriage. She might have questions about what you can fix together, with help. You should think about whether you’re open to that kind of effort, and what going to a counselor could do. Perhaps it would make it easier to discuss next steps. It also might remind you why you’re in this marriage to begin with.
My advice is to focus on your marriage and what to do with it. I know the other woman is the one on your mind, but you can’t be a good partner to her without dealing with your current commitment. Do not skip that step.
– Meredith
Readers? Did the LW miss a step here?
Dear Abby: Man says he wants divorce, but doesn't leave the house
Advice: Could he be having performance issues? Do you still love him? I ask because nowhere in your letter did you mention it.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We’ve had our share of ups and downs, but always managed to work our way through them. Last year, he decided he no longer wanted to be married, saying the last 20 years “were not all that pleasant” and “we have never really gotten along.” (As far as I know, there isn’t another woman.)
My problem is, for the most part, he still acts like he wants to be married. He has made no attempt to leave, tells me his comings and goings, asks me to have dinner together, etc. However, he sleeps on the couch and there’s no sex. He says he does this because he hopes we can stay friends after the divorce.
I have yet to be served with divorce papers, so I’m thinking it may be a midlife crisis. Am I misreading his signals and he’ll snap out of it, or am I being strung along? — ANONYMOUS IN THE USA
DEAR ANONYMOUS: You are confused because your husband is sending you mixed messages. Could he be having performance issues? Do you still love him? I ask because nowhere in your letter did you mention it. The two of you are overdue for an honest discussion about whether your marriage is salvageable. If it isn’t, ask him when and if he plans to file for the divorce, because this situation has left you in limbo, which is unfair to you. Then consult an attorney to ensure you get a fair shake.
DEAR ABBY: I am a young adult who suffers from migraines, which make it difficult to have much of a social life. My family and close friends know about them and are supportive and understanding. However, I’m a private person and don’t like talking about it with new people.
It’s hard to make friends and go on dates when I know I might have to flake out at the last minute due to a migraine. What’s a good way to gracefully bow out of plans without seeming like a flake? Or should I just tell new people about my migraines? — HURTING IN NEW YORK
DEAR HURTING: Suffering from migraines is nothing to be ashamed of. More than 12 percent of people in the U.S. share your problem. While I don’t think it’s necessary to make an announcement about it when you meet someone, I do think you should tell the truth if you must cancel an engagement.
DEAR ABBY: I am the youngest of four children. Every Sunday, our family gets together for Sunday dinner, a tradition I have loved since I was a kid, although lately, I have grown less fond of Sundays. Here is why: I am now 30 and the tallest sibling in my family, yet I am made to feel as though I am the smallest.
No one listens to me; no one asks my advice. I could be at the table with my finger up my nose and I don’t think anyone would even notice. I say things and no one acknowledges me. Sometimes I feel as though I don’t even exist. It’s as if because I’m the youngest, I have no importance. What can I do to change this? — PATIENCE RUNNING THIN
DEAR PATIENCE: Allow me to suggest that at the next Sunday dinner you speak up loud and clear and say exactly that. And if nothing changes, make other plans for Sunday.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
He checked her out on Facebook and liked her
Martie North was on a mission when she walked into a bar in downtown Little Rock in May 2011. When she walked out, Scott Hamilton set out on his own mission — to go out with her.
Martie went to Twelve Modern Lounge in downtown Little Rock to interview a band for a story in a friend’s online magazine.
The first time I saw my future spouse
She says: “I thought he was a great dresser. He was always immaculately dressed in a suit and nice shoes.”
He says: “I was determined to get my woman.”
On our wedding day:
She says: “There was a lot of laughter. The weather had looked like it was going to act up and we were running late but we had worked through all of that. There was a lot of laughter.”
He says: “There was a huge sense of friendship between us and those who were at our wedding.”
My advice for a long happy marriage is:
She says: “Marry your friend.”
He says: “Be honest and be yourself.”
She saw several people she knew at the club, and she stopped to chat with Ricky Mays Jr., a guy she had known for years. Scott, Ricky’s cousin, was there with him.
“They were telling some of the most hilarious stories about their childhood that made me question how on earth they were alive to tell the stories,” Martie says.
Martie left them and did her interview, said a quick goodbye when she was done and left.
“As far as I knew that was the end of it,” Martie says.
Later, though, she got a Facebook friend request from Scott.
“I maintain a very strict 300-person Facebook group. No more than 300 friends and I have to know everybody, I don’t allow strangers into the group at all,” she says. “But I thought, well, OK, he’s a friend of Ricky’s and a few other people in there seemed to know him, so he’s probably safe.”
Scott had seen Martie around town — his office at the time was across from the bank building where she worked, and he had spotted her at various fundraisers and social events. They went to the same church, but they attended different services, and he sometimes saw her there, too.
“I was very intrigued. I thought she was really sharp,” says Scott of meeting her at Twelve Modern Lounge.
Seeing her posts on Facebook just reinforced that.
“She’s an extremely social-conscious person and she would post thought-provoking things about all kinds of things going on in society. She really made me think,” he says.
He was often the first to comment on her posts, and when she wrote that she wanted someone to go have sushi with her for lunch he sprung at the chance.
“Of course I responded that I would join her. I couldn’t stand sushi,” he says, though he has since come to like it. “But I was like, here’s my opportunity.”
Martie had issued a blanket invitation to her entire friend list, but Scott was the only one who showed up to meet her that day. Over lunch, they chatted about work and family, about how he had just moved back to Little Rock to be near his mother, who was ill, and how she had lost her mother the year before.
They finished eating, and she told him she needed to drop off some shoes for repair and head back to work. Scott was impressed that she had used a GroupOn voucher to pay for her meal, and he was impressed again that she was the kind of person who had shoes repaired.
“I like nice things but I’m cheap as hell,” he says. “I said, ‘This is my kind of woman.'”
Scott considers that lunch to be their first date. Martie doesn’t.
She thinks of their first date as happening later, when he asked her to see the opening of Cars 2 at Breckenridge movie theater after she posted about her excitement about seeing the film.
“I’m a huge Pixar fan,” Martie says.
After the movie, they went out for drinks. And after drinks, he made sure she was busy every day — with him.
“There was a strategy behind that. I was determined,” he says. “I made sure that she was doing something with me every day so that any potential suitors would be eliminated.”
Scott and Martie dated for four years before he surprised her with a proposal.
“We were coming in from church and I’m walking from the kitchen to the dining room and he literally gets down on one knee,” she says. “I was like, ‘What the heck are you doing? Oh, oh, wait a minute …’ I was totally oblivious. I was so focused on a task it took me a minute for it to sink in what he was doing. But we had had zero conversations about marriage. I was shell shocked.”
They exchanged their vows on May 22, 2015, at St. Anthony’s On the Creek in Lowell.
Martie had worried he thought they were on a date in the sushi restaurant and she had been slightly annoyed that he wanted to monopolize her time in the beginning. But about a month into their relationship, she realized he was perfect for her.
“I really realized that for the first time I was going out with somebody who was very similar to me,” she says. “I always enjoyed his company and we always had great conversations.”
Scott says common interests make their life together fun.
“We found that we were just as comfortable laying around watching TV as going to something like the royal wedding,” he says. “I could literally say something about something that was interesting to me and she would be genuinely interested in it. And vice versa — except for sushi.”
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Martie and Scott Hamilton were married on May 22, 2015, at St. Anthony’s on the Creek in Lowell. “I wanted to have a small wedding; he wanted to invite the universe,” she says. They compromised with a reasonable guest list of family and close friends who kept them laughing well into the early hours.
High Profile on 10/28/2018
