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The four magic words every husband needs to know
Once again, Laura Mazza says it how it is and she is 100 percent CORRECT.
I want to tell you the four magic words that will save your life, your marriage, your sanity, your wife’s sanity, etc.
It’s so easy. Are you ready?
You say …
“What can I do?”
Scenario: You’re about to leave and she’s feeling insecure about how she looks and she’s shitty. You know why? It’s because before you went out, she’s fed the dogs, she’s swept the floor so you don’t come back to a messy house. She’s fed the kids, packed nappies, wipes, changes of clothes, baby food, change of underwear, change of clothes for herself (nothing worse than realising you’re underprepared for a snowstorm in the middle of summer), dressed the kids, dealt with a tantrum over shoes and wiped some bums.
And in the last five minutes, before you had to leave, she’s scrambled to get ready.
And then you’ve asked her, “Are you ready yet?”
When what you should have asked while she’s picking out GODDAMN LEGO pieces out of her foot is, “What can I do?”
All she wants is time
If you ask a mum how she’s going to do her hair, she will simply say, “whatever is quickest” when what she wants to do, is to take her time and get ready and FEEL GOOD.
You can literally shower and you’re instantly David Beckham, but some of us like to get dolled up because we have gotten the opportunity to step out of leggings and mum buns and we want to release our inner queens.
We were well groomed when you met us because we had time. Let us have that little moment and take care of shit while we get some self care in check.
“What can I do?” I promise you, the brownie points you’ll get for that could lead to making another baby, ya feel?
This post originally appeared on Laura Mazza – The Mum on the Run, and has been republished here with permission.
Helping cowgirl in distress leads to rodeo romance
It wasn’t until Bud Grant proposed marriage to Marsha Rochelle that she conceded to go on a date with him.
Bud had come to her rescue the first time they met. Marsha, who did barrel racing, was unloading her horse from a trailer in Simonton, Texas, in 1969 when the horse’s hoof got tangled in a mat.
The first time I saw my future spouse:
She says: “All I could think of was, ‘Wow, he is so nice. He saved my horse.’”
He says: “She was real trim and real pretty — had long dark hair and she looked like a good cowgirl to me.”
On our wedding day:
She says: “Our friends put about 50 pounds of rice in the camper that we stayed in.”
He says: “When the preacher said, ‘Do you Marsha take Bud to be your lawful wedded husband,’ and she was supposed to repeat, ‘She said, ‘Do you Bud take Marsha to be your lawful wedded wife.’ She was so nervous. Everyone laughed.”
My advice for a long happy marriage:
She says: “Love. You’ve just got to love each other and work everything out.”
He says: “Love and do everything together.”
“I happened to be parked by them,” Bud says. “That horse came out of that trailer and turned a backflip and got away and ran off from her, and I caught it. She came up to get it and I went, ‘Man, that’s a pretty girl.'”
Marsha was grateful to be holding the reins again, but she wasn’t interested in the cute guy who had brought them back.
“All I wanted was my horse, my vehicle and a trailer and a rodeo,” she says.
She saw him almost every weekend after that at one rodeo or another. Sometimes they would chat a little, and he asked her a few times to “ribbon rope” for him.
“The guy would run out and rope a calf and it would have a ribbon on its tail and the girl would run out and grab the ribbon off the calf’s tail and run back across the line,” Bud explains. This was all timed. “Marsha ran the ribbon for a bunch of guys and she was the fastest thing I saw so I asked her if she would ribbon rope with me, so we started doing ribbon roping at rodeos.”
He got acquainted with her family on those occasions.
“I always liked her mom and dad and brother,” Bud says. “I always thought they were good people and I always made a point to visit with them.”
Bud asked Marsha to go out with him a couple of times, but she said no.
He did go out with one of her friends, however, and that date set things in motion.
The girl told Marsha on a Friday morning that the night before, she had gone out with the nicest guy — so nice, in fact, that she thought he might be “the one.” Marsha asked who this fellow was, and the friend told her it was Bud Grant. Marsha went to the rodeo that Friday night, in search of Bud.
“Me and my buddy didn’t go to that rodeo that night, we went to a different one,” Bud says. “When I got back from that one Saturday morning a buddy of mine called me and he said, ‘Boy, you’ll never guess who was at the rodeo last night looking for you?’ I said, ‘Oh, really?’ That kind of gave me a hint she was after me.”
He found her that night at the rodeo.
“I rode up next to her and we were riding around talking and I said, ‘Marsha?’ and she said, ‘What?’ And I said, ‘Why don’t we get married?’ and she said, ‘OK,'” Bud says.
Marsha registered no surprise, he remembers.
“I had no idea how it would turn out,” she says. “I didn’t really know him. I guess it just felt right.”
When they left the rodeo, she was in a vehicle ahead of his with her family. He pulled up next to her and she rolled down the window.
“She said, ‘We live right up here. Why don’t y’all stop and drink a Coke?'” he says.
He and his roommate stopped at her house and spent the next few hours talking with her and her family.
Their first date, which happened post-proposal, was to see the R-rated Woodstock at the drive-in movie theater.
“That was our first date and I took her to a movie where they were saying bad words,” Bud says.
They had only had two or three more dates by the beginning of October.
“I was working at an electrical company and I got laid off and the Loretta Lynn Rodeo Company that put on rodeos over on the East Coast, their superintendent called and wanted me to go to work for them setting up rodeos and working for them during the fall circuit,” he says.
He and Marsha had been planning for a June 1971 wedding, but after this news Marsha insisted they move up their wedding date.
They exchanged their vows on Oct. 11, 1970, in a Presbyterian church in Hooks, Texas.
Bud’s family had met — and loved — Marsha but they weren’t able to make it to the wedding because they had already committed to work on a rodeo that day. The newlyweds stopped by to see them the next day, on their way to Hampton, Va., where the first Loretta Lynn event was to take place.
In 1972, Marsha and Bud moved to Benton and started a company erecting metal buildings. A few years later, they opened another company, American Building Systems. Their son, B.J., also works with them.
They’re no longer involved in rodeos, but Bud likes to hunt and fish and sometimes he convinces Marsha to do those things with him.
“We’re still together almost all the time,” she says.
“It’s worked out pretty good,” Ed says. “We’ve been married 48 years.”
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Marsha and Bud Grant met when he returned her runaway horse, which had bolted from her as she was unloading it from a trailer. They worked together in rodeos after they were married. Bud, who started trick riding when he was 6 years old liked to show off a rope trick, called the Cowboy Wedding Ring, spinning a rope around the both of them.
High Profile on 10/14/2018
Bride gets advice from Instagram on how to plot revenge on man who left her at the alter
Being jilted at the altar must be one of the worst experiences that any man or woman can experience on their wedding day.
Unfortunately, that’s exactly what happened to one woman whose husband-to-be didn’t even bother to show up at the church, leaving her in a very tricky situation.
In a sure-fire sign that she was far more committed to the relationship than he was, she paid for the majority of the wedding and even their honeymoon to Greece.
She explained exactly what happened in an email to the Instagram account The Shade Room.
Just in case you can’t read that above post this is what she said:
This was suppose (sic) to be me and my ex-fiancé, but he never showed up to our wedding on Mon and we never went to Greece.
I didn’t get insurance for our trip and it cost over 3 grand, not including all the vendors I paid out of pocket myself. He paid for nothing.
People showed up and flew from everywhere and went back home after the venue turned them around. I found out he never paid the venue.
I was at the hotel getting ready with my girls when this went down. 10 years gone in 10 minutes.
I purchased a dress for 3 grand, paid the dj 2.4 grand, Photographer 4 grand and other small purchases totaling 2 grand.
He spent $300 for my hair and nails and $500 for the venue deposit which he told me he paid, but was a lie, he never paid it.
We even had a bridal shower. I’m in a dream-reality now.
The Shade Room asked their followers to happy this unhappy bride out and give some advice about what she could do next.
The majority were under the impression that she should sue him. iminyjo wrote:
OUCH. Sue him. This was a breach of contract.
The ring was material consideration for the verbal contract.
She should be able to get at least some of her $$$ back.
I learned that in an HS law class I took twenty year ago – hopefully it’s still accurate!
Good Luck honey!
Others were less sympathetic and felt that she should have seen this coming. eugenia08 said:
I am sorry but the writing was all over the wall here.
You can’t marry just to hit into society norms or to keep up with the Joneses.
You paid for everything! I mean that was one of the signs. Did you buy the engagement ring too?
You are saying 10 years is gone in 10 mins, but In actually (sic), you probably was unhappy for 10 years, but you thought marriage was going to solve the void.
Please take this as a lesson and move you. Your soul mate awaits you dear.
Some told her just to go to Greece and live her best life. xo_niaj said:
Go to greece change ya name and get married to a prince and use your wedding dress as a bathrobe.
Unfortunately, this sort of thing seems to happen quite a lot. bknysb wrote:
OMG, I’m not the only one…My HUSBAND cancelled our wedding reception 5 weeks before the event.
EVERYTHING was in my name because his credit was ruined by his 2nd EX-WIFE…
Still in debt from this MFer.
Others felt the whole story was a little fishy. puregoddesss posed this question:
BUT WAIT…how you didn’t know your venue wasn’t paid for before your wedding day, isn’t there normally a rehearsal at the venue a few days before???
Something ain’t adding up.
It’s unlikely that we’ll ever learn what happens in this scenario but the morale of the story has to be: don’t let useless men get away with paying for nothing at a wedding.
HT Someecards
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UNCUT: Kathryna Yu, bride of Koko Pimentel, on relationship and Duterte's marital advice
Kathryna Yu accompanies her fiancé, Sen. Koko Pimentel, to the latter’s filing of his certificate of candidacy as a reelectionist in the 2019 polls. Mark Demayo, ABS-CBN NewsAmid the frenzied start of another election season, re-electionist senator Koko Pimentel’s bride, Kathryna Yu, cut a refreshing figure at the Thursday filing of certificates of candidacy at the Comelec office in Intramuros, Manila.
For good luck, Pimentel brought along his fiancée as he registered his candidacy, exactly seven days before their wedding at the Coconut Palace at the CCP Complex in Pasay City.
A native of Marikina with a Filipino-Chinese bloodline, Yu led a low-key and quiet life as a caterer when she met Pimentel in 2013. It happened at his election victory party, where she was the food supplier.
“He asked me to make him coffee, sabi ko, ‘Bakit ako pa?’” she recalled in a recent interview with ABS-CBN News.
She later found out that it was Pimentel’s way to get to know her, and that he did not drink coffee at all.
Pimentel later said that Yu is his soulmate and that it was fate that their paths crossed at a challenging point in his personal life.
The senator’s marriage to his first wife, former Binibining Pilipinas Jewel Lobaton, was eventually annulled in January.
He popped the question to Yu in February, after her workout in a setting devoid of any suspense or romance. “It wasn’t exactly a proposal or a question. He just said it’s about time we become a family,” she recounted, laughing.
Yu said yes nonetheless to the man who would change the direction of her life.
Her family was also won over by Pimentel’s self-effacing and amiable personality. “Ako pa nga nagsasabi sa kanya, ‘Magbihis ka naman!’” she shared.
She opted not to confirm the value of her three-carat diamond engagement ring. “Nakakahiya, e,” she said.
Modesty appears natural to Yu, who dresses simply and prefers a no-frills wedding that will highlight Filipino cuisine and local giveaways like peanut butter.
Yu also prefers to be in the political background, as head of PDP Cares, the charity arm of Pimentel’s political party.
President Duterte will lead the nine pairs of sponsors at the wedding that will have two receptions — the first for their families and friends at the Coconut Palace on October 15; and the second for Pimentel’s constituents at the Sofitel Sunset Pavilion on October 21.
Pimentel’s two sons, Martin and Akio, who call Yu “Mama Kath,” will be the ring and bible bearers.
Asked whether she and Pimentel have received any advice from President Duterte, she said: “Dapat daw mas maging mapag-pasensiya ang babae, para mas mag-last ang marriage.”
Yu has embraced what she calls her destiny. Referring to Pimentel, she said: “I love him 101 per cent.”
