A distraught mother has sought advice online after her son asked her to lie to his wife about his dirty weekend away.
The unnamed woman took to Mumsnet to share her dilemma, revealing that her 26-year-old son, who shares a two-year-old daughter with his wife of six months, had stopped talking to her after the incident.
Accusing her of ‘judging him’ and claiming she should be ‘on his side’, her son is now refusing to answer her calls.
Distressed, the grandmother took to the parenting network to ask whether she had made the right choice in not covering for him, and was soon inundated with angry replies.
A mother has asked other parents for advice after discovering that her son has been unfaithful to his partner
A British grandmother has taken to Mumsnet to ask for advice after being asked to act as an alibi for her cheating 26-year-old married son’s weekend away with his lover
Kicking off the lively thread entitled ‘Am I being unreasonable to not cover for my cheating son?’, she wrote: ‘I really need help on this one!
‘My 26-year-old son has been married for six months only, he already has a 2-year-old dear daughter, and has been in relationship with his dear wife since they were teens.’
She continued: ‘He asked me about three days ago if I could tell his wife that he will be spending the weekend with me ( I live 2 hours away).
‘I asked him why. He refused to tell me. I insisted and he confessed that he is seeing another woman.’
Shocked, the woman admitted: ‘I can’t believe it , I love my daughter-in-law. Now he’s mad and won’t answer my calls and texted me ‘you’re my mum you should be on my side and not judging me. Am I being unreasonable?’
The woman received an almost entirely unanimous response, with forum users slamming the son for putting his mother in that position
And the woman received an almost entirely unanimous response, with forum users slamming the son for putting his mother in that position.
Confirming she had made the right choice, one mother argued that the woman had a duty to her grandchild, adding: ‘Definitely do not cover for him.
‘You may be his mum but you have a duty to your grandchild and their mother which overrides his desire to use you as an alibi!’
Another branded the son immature, writing: ‘On his side? He sounds about 12, not 26! I couldn’t cover for that type of behaviour’.
Highlighting the severity of the deception, one user argued: You’re not lying to his teacher because he forgot his homework- he’s asking you to be party to him cheating on your DIL (daughter-in-law), putting her sexual health at risk, ultimately breaking her heart and throwing your grandchild’s world upside down!’
Others urged her to give him an ultimatum to confess the affair to his wife or threaten to tell her herself
And others urged her to give him an ultimatum to confess the affair to his wife or threaten to tell her herself.
Explaining his behaviour, one person wrote: ‘He’s throwing a tantrum because deep down he knows he’s in the wrong. He needs to tell his wife.’
Branding him a coward, another said: ‘I would let him get on with and sulk. Not a chance would I be calling him and texting him. If he no longer wants to be in a relationship then he needs to put his big boy pants on and break up with her. Not cheat on her like a coward.’
Arguing that her priority should be the grandchild, another said: ‘I would not help him cheat. I would tell him I expect him to either start behaving or offer his wife a divorce and generous financial support.
‘Your support should go to your grandchild and the parent or parents who are actually working to raise that child properly, even if that means supporting your Dil (daughter-in-law) because your son is a jerk.’
Explaining his behaviour, one person wrote: ‘He’s throwing a tantrum because deep down he knows he’s in the wrong. He needs to tell his wife.’
And others put themselves in the wife’s shoes, suggesting that the woman’s relationship with her daughter-in-law and granddaughter could be damaged if she uncovered the truth.
‘Now that you know you must tell your dil (daughter-in-law) as she will find out soon enough and it will end your relationship with her and your gc (grandchild) if she got wind you knew about his cheating and didn’t tell her.’
‘Horrible position to be in but your son has to own up to her or you will tell her yourself,’ another said.
Even urging her to take her daughter-in-law’s side, one wrote: ‘Either way you are going to lose out. Best keep in with your dil and your gc if you want to be in your gc’s life.’
Meanwhile another argued: ‘If I found out my MIL had done that for my DH she would be lucky if she ever caught so much of a glimpse of our DC ever again.’
