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6 Quotes About Love & Marriage To Write As Wedding Wishes In A Card – YourTango

That double as strong relationship advice, too.

You’ve been invited to a wedding. You bought a new suit or dress and, perhaps, some new shoes. You shopped for a lovely gift and spent 15 minutes in front of the wedding cards, carefully selecting the perfect one.

But, wait … shouldn’t you write some wedding wishes or something a little personal inside? Merely signing your name feels so wrong.

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When you don’t know what to write in a wedding card, here are 6 wedding wishes to share with the newlywed couple that double as great relationship advice.

1. “Congratulations on your marriage!”

When I was a young woman, my mother warned me to never congratulate a bride for getting married. She told me that it would make her sound like an old maid who just got lucky. However, I also remember that it was okay to congratulate the groom who, presumably, did just land a catch!

Perhaps, if you must congratulate them, say something like this: “Congratulations! It’s not easy to find the love of your life, but you did. Now that you’ve found each other, remember to nourish your relationship always.”

2. “Best wishes on …”

This is a good saying, but a little lazy. Best wishes for what?

How about: “Best wishes for a life filled with love, good health, happiness, and abundance in all things. To create this life together, dream your wildest dreams, your highest aspirations, and speak them often. Be specific about your shared vision and remember to visit it often!”

3. “Make sacred the space between you.”

Say something like: “Between the two of you, there is a space. It is there that your relationship lives. You are both completely responsible for sanctifying that space. Remember to fill it with careful listening, deep compassion, respect, kind gestures, and affection. Your future children will live in the space you create–make it sacred!”

4. “Learn to say ‘Hello’ and ‘Good-bye’.”

By this, I mean something like: “All of life is coming together and going apart. Remember to greet one another with eye gaze, kind words, hugs, and kisses when you wake up in the morning, when you leave for the day, when you come home at night and before you go to sleep. Small moments of connection mean the world to the health of your marriage!”

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5. “Live by the Platinum Rule.”

You’ve heard of the Golden Rule, right? “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” That’s a nice sentiment, but in a good marriage, it’s far better to live by the Platinum Rule.

You could write: “Always remember the Platinum Rule: do unto one another as your spouse would have you do! Learn each other’s Love Languages and offer your love in the way that nourishes each of you the best.”

6. “Turn towards one another.”

There are so many ways to make bids for connection in marriage. Let the newlyweds know what to do when their partner is seeking love or attention.

Say something like, “Always turn towards one another with love and attention. Never turn away, causing each other to feel neglected or ignored. Never ever turn against one another in anger, frustration or contempt. Learn to communicate well in order to stay deeply connected.”

Writing some version of these pieces of marriage quotes and advice is sure to get your card saved for years to come. So, enjoy the wedding ceremony and hope that your new shoes don’t hurt your feet!

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Mary Kay Cocharo is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in West Los Angeles, California. For more information, visit her website.

This article was originally published at Mary Kay Cocharo, LMFT. Reprinted with permission from the author.

Best sex tips for marriage life – YEN.COM.GH

Sex is a topic that easily catches anyone’s attention. People either want to read or talk about it, and married couples are no exception. The reason for this is that people are curious to learn more about sex because it is an endless topic in which there is always a new thing to uncover and probably try. Therefore, whether you have amazing sex in your marriage life or whether you are sex-starved, this article is meant to help you learn something new as it explores the best sex tips for marriage life.

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Sex is a very important element of marriage life. It is one of the major things that hold most marriages in place. Therefore, a married couple that is always curious to learn new things about sex is able to keep the passion of sex alive in their marriage, as well as prevent its frequency from dwindling.

Here are some important sex tips to keep away sexual starvation from your marriage.

1. Keep a schedule for sex

Marriage life is fairly busy compared to dating life. It involves the scheduling of various activities such as children’s play dates, doctor’s appointments, and so on. Therefore, it is equally important for a married couple to schedule sex as well. This scheduling should involve foresight and planning in order to create quality experiences.

2. Talk about your sexual fantasies

Married couples are advised not to keep their latest sexual interests and fantasies to themselves. Instead, they should discuss them with their spouses in order to build a stronger sense of connection and foster deeper intimacy.

3. Cuddle and make-out more

Cuddling and kissing is the foundation of romance. These actions express passion, desire, and they lead to more intimacy most times. Married couples should engage in more kissing and cuddling because it translates to amazing sex. It also makes each of the partners feel wanted by the other.

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4. Have more fun in the bedroom

In marriage, you are allowed to go to the extremes to bring a sparkle in your sex life. Therefore, why not add some more wild fun? You can do this by adding things like handcuffs, blindfolds, and sex toys in your bedroom affairs. These tools are an easy way to introduce some kink into your marriage sex life. Blindfolds take away the sense of sight, thereby heightening the other four senses. This means that every touch and breath is much more intense. In addition, they reduce inhibitions and offer more freedom. However, before the introduction of these objects, a couple should be in agreement about them. They should also ensure that they are both comfortable using them. More fun can also be achieved through strip teases; these show that you can put up a romantic show for your partner.

5. Try new positions

New sex positions for married couples boost their desire to have sex more often. The ability to explore new positions for a married couple shows that they are comfortable exploring their sexuality as partners. You can use the internet to search for sex positions and discover the ones that you have never tried.

6. Turn on the lights

Visual stimulation is particularly important for men. You might have heard the phrase ‘men are visual beings’, right? Well, turning on the lights when having sex can turn out to be mind-blowing and satisfactory for both partners. So, the next time your spouse goes to turn off the lights, you could stop them and say that you want to see them. If they are hesitant or shy, you may dim the lights for a start.

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7. Try a new location

The most common sexual fantasy for many people is having sex in out-of-the-norm locations. These could include pools, somewhere outdoors, in the shower, in a hot tub, in a car, and so on. As a married couple, you need to explore other locations other than your usual place. If you are used to doing it in the house, you could try a hotel or somewhere else where your privacy will be guaranteed. You could also try doing it in other places in your house that you may find appealing.

8. Involve creativity in your foreplay

Foreplay is an important part of sexual life. It is important that you and your spouse do not allow yourselves to fall into your usual foreplay routine. You need to do the things that you have not done before. For example, you could walk around the house nude before making love or explore other erogenous zones you have not explored before. You could also get playful with your partner, maybe deny them sex before finally giving in or even talking dirty. This could be part of the foreplay that turns on your spouse.

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9. Create an intimate setting

Another sex tip that could work well for your marriage sex life is the creation of intimate settings when making love. This could be including sweet smelling candles in the room, soft lighting and a sprinkle of roses, romantic music background, or aphrodisiacs. This romantic setting is likely to set the mood for intimacy for a married couple. It could also remind them of the times when they were dating, thereby bringing back good memories. Such intimate settings show initiative and are likely to be highly appreciated. While it might not be possible to do this every time you are getting together with your spouse, you can try it every once in a while.

10. Watch erotic videos or films together

Another way that you can spice up things in the bedroom with your spouse is by watching erotic films or videos together. This can be a good source of ideas for new styles that you can try. In addition, such films put you in a mood for sex with your spouse. Apart from watching these films and videos, you could also consider reading erotic works together. This could also help you as a married couple to learn new things that could improve your bedroom affairs.

11. Be loving

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To love and to make love – there is a difference there. People can make love without being actually loving. Show your love in practical ways to your spouse. Do it regularly outside the bedroom. Learn his or her language of love and do little things to please your partner.

12. Learn your partner’s anatomy

Both men and women should know how the body of the opposite gender works. Men, it is not enough to do your business quickly and get it over and done with! Take your time to caress your lady and do everything she needs to get aroused and have an orgasm. Yes, males and females function differently, so learn to be a really good lover. That is your job.

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Making use of these sex tips for any married couple can improve the physical and emotional connection between you and your lover. It can also help couples get closer and bring back the spark in their marriage. Nevertheless, married couples should always remember that communication is the background of a successful sexual life. They should always communicate their thoughts, fantasies, and needs with their spouse because communication is the foundation for trying out the tips provided above.

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Redux: Older, Wiser and Still Very Much in Love – The New York Times

In Unhitched, couples tell the stories of their relationships, from romance to vows to divorce to life afterward.

An early marriage led to a quick divorce and it took decades, and several more marriages, for this Texas couple to find their way back to each other.

The difficult childhoods and lack of relationship skills thwarted all attempts for successful matrimony for Sjanna Leighton, 67, and Peter Leighton, 70, until, in midlife, they found they were in a different place, but also a familiar one.

Where did they grow up?

She grew up in San Antonio, with a working father and stay-at-home mother, though the home was not a happy one, she said. At 14, her father died of a heart attack.

He grew up relatively affluent in Weatherford, Tex., a small, conservative town. “I was the guy who did everything right,” he said, adding that his family wasn’t close. After graduating from Trinity University in San Antonio, he worked in the telephone industry, moved to California, then rode a bicycle back to Texas, hitchhiked to New York and then around Europe. Like many of his generation, he was “trying to find himself.”

How did they meet?

In the fall of 1972, she was home from college in Austin, Tex., and they met at a party. Both felt an immediate, strong attraction. “Our eyes met and that was it,” he said. They discovered they shared a sense of humor and many interests.

“I felt Peter liked me for who I was, something that was not usual for me,” she said. She did not return to college.

What did they like about each other?

For her, his creativity and intelligence. For him, her intellect and curiosity about life.

“In my family, relationships felt so wrong,” he said. “This felt very right.”

Why did they marry?

Four months into their relationship, they moved in together. While their peers were challenging the idea of matrimony by living in communes, or living together, marriage was meaningful for Peter. “The structure of marriage fits the way I’m wired,” he said.

“I wanted to be married and I didn’t comprehend what that meant,” she said.

What was the response from their parents?

Neither one was in communication with their parents; she had stopped talking to her mother when she went to college. He told his parents after the marriage; his mother felt compelled to get their photo in the local paper. “My family pretended well,” he said.

How were the early months?

Both say the beginning was magical, but reality soon set in. She was working in a restaurant, he was trying to make it as a photographer, but their finances were deteriorating. They purchased a car that turned out to be a lemon. She was supporting them, but barely. “I couldn’t see what to do,” she said. “We were so young and immature, and had no models to look to for help.”

“I was spending more time making art than making our marriage work,” he said.

Friends advised them to break up and move on.

Other signs of trouble?

Neither of them knew how to argue or even talk things through. “I’d spent most of my life positioning myself so that no one would be unhappy with me but none of those strategies of my past worked with Sjanna,” he said.

Did they try to work on things?

Having been raised in homes where they had walked on eggshells, they continued to do so. She was convinced he regretted marrying; he felt like he was failing her. “We were connected when not under stress, but ill-prepared to deal with each other when we were,” he said.

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Sjanna and Peter Leighton on their first wedding day, May 13, 1973. They divorced the following year, but married each other again more than 30 years later.CreditRichard Gibbe

Who asked for the split?

In March that first year, she came home from work one day and he had left and moved in with a friend. “I thought she would be a lot better off without me,” he said. “I was hoping that she would want me back.” Neither gave an inch in what turned out to be a silent stand off.

“That day was one of the most traumatic in my life,” he said.

The final break up?

A few months later, she talked to a lawyer friend who helped her file for divorce.

Did they feel stigmatized?

She was humiliated and felt rejected publicly. Divorce made her feel like she was the problem her mother always thought she was. “I acted like everything was O.K. but inside I was crushed,” she said. He didn’t feel any stigma, but fell into a depression that lasted many years.

How did they fare financially?

It was rough for both.

How did they move on?

In 1977, she moved to California and eventually joined an evangelical church. “At the time, it helped to have a path and to know that God accepted me, warts and all,” she said. In 1980, she married a minister, and lived in Texas, Colorado and New Zealand. They had four children. That marriage broke up 27 years later in 2007. “If you are an evangelical Christian in an unhappy marriage you are just supposed to make it work,” she said.

Mr. Leighton started therapy. In 1979, he married again, then divorced four years later. At 40, in 1988, he married again. With this third wife, he had three children and adopted another. That relationship lasted 18 years.

Did they keep in touch during these relationships?

In 1983, she was with her son and was pregnant with her second child when they saw each other in Texas and had a pleasant conversation. He had heard she was a missionary and was happy for her. It wasn’t until 2007, when she was divorced and living in Texas, that she found him online. “I was examining my life, trying to figure things out, and looking to find peace,” she said.

He was then 59 and she 56. After a few emails, they met in a cafe and talked. It went well. At first they were cautious. Eventually she asked, “What happened to us?” Both let down their guard and talked about their struggles. Neither imagined a new relationship together but within weeks they felt the same magic they did when they were young.

What was it about each other, this time?

“I could talk to her as honestly as I would talk to a therapist, when we were first together we didn’t know much about ourselves,” he said.

He was still kind and this time she trusted him.

How did they make a new life?

He had his children every other weekend so they spent alternate weekends together. They married Dec. 20, 2007, but kept it a secret from their children for awhile. Within five months, everyone knew.

How did their kids react?They didn’t tell them for a while and didn’t move in together for seven months. Of their eight children, the youngest was 13, the oldest 26 then. Her children were fine, but his were shocked. “In my previous marriage we were good at hiding problems, so the kids didn’t know much about why their mother and I had split,” he said.

What would you have done differently in the first marriage together?Both wished they had stuck with it, but note that their childhoods affected the relationship negatively. Therapy would have helped, he said, but in 1973 that wasn’t an option. Both say they needed tools to deal with conflict and both caution against marrying young.

Looking back, what marriage advice would they offer?

“Having pretenses is a fool’s game,” he said. “And work on yourself.”

“I thought I would find love like Peter and I had around every corner, but it’s not everywhere,” she said. “We believed the song ‘All You Need Is Love’ and we thought we could do it better than our parents, but it was way more complicated.”

Both say they are more honest and comfortable with themselves now.

“Keep examining yourself and try to figure out what went wrong so you don’t do it the same way the next time,” he said.

“Love is easy, relationships aren’t,” she said. “Make mistakes but never lose respect. Love can’t change anyone, but it can help people heal.”

What is life like now?

In 2008, the financial crisis hit them hard and they struggled for a time but they’ve been remarried now nearly 11 years. “At 70, this is the happy ending,” he said. “I managed to screw up a lot of stuff before, but life has certainly turned out well.”

“My expectations are more real this time around and I love him more every year,” she said.

Bigamist, 45, caught out when second wife from Vegas wedding saw photo of his third wedding – Daily Mail

Bigamist, 45, was caught out when his second wife who he wed in Las Vegas saw Facebook photo of his third wedding while they were still married

  • Nottingham engineer Daniel Glasby, 45, was given a suspended jail sentence
  • He admitted to first marriage but not second – which had not formally ended
  • He claimed Vegas wedding was ‘null and void’ because he lied on paperwork

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Convicted fraudster Daniel Glasby, 45, lied on the marriage certificate for his second wedding, in Las Vegas. Then he married his third wife last year in Nottingham without divorcing his second

Convicted fraudster Daniel Glasby, 45, lied on the marriage certificate for his second wedding, in Las Vegas. Then he married his third wife last year in Nottingham without divorcing his second

A bigamist appeared in court to ‘face the music’ after ‘burying his face in the sand’ over a Las Vegas marriage.

Daniel Glasby was given a suspended jail sentence after the judge ruled against his claim that the Nevada wedding was always ‘null and void’ because he lied on the paperwork.

The father of Daniel Glasby’s second wife Elizabeth Wing, whom he married in Vegas, contacted police after she saw a photo of his third wedding, which took place in Nottingham last year while the pair were still married – although the couple had split up.

That led to 45-year-old Glasby, of West Bridgford, just outside Nottingham, being quizzed by police and being charged with bigamy.

Glasby’s complicated love life was laid bare at Nottingham Crown Court after he pleaded guilty to bigamy on September 30, 2017.

He received a four-month prison sentence, suspended for 18 months, and 100 hours of unpaid community work. He was also ordered to pay costs of £2,000.

Judge Jeremy Lea, sentencing, said: ‘Quite why you were not honest, I’m not entirely sure.’

He said it did not understand why he could not be honest to his second wife about his intended marriage to the third woman.

‘You may have felt a loss of pride or loss of face,’ he said. ‘Now you have to face the music.’

Glasby married his third wife on September 30 last year at The Walton Hotel, The Park.

‘The only problem, of course, he now accepts he was already married at the time,’ said Alan Murphy, prosecuting.

Daniel Glasby was told he would 'have to face the music' at Nottingham Crown Court (pictured) yesterday

Daniel Glasby was told he would 'have to face the music' at Nottingham Crown Court (pictured) yesterday

Daniel Glasby was told he would ‘have to face the music’ at Nottingham Crown Court (pictured) yesterday

Glasby was divorced after his first marriage, then married Elizabeth Wing in Las Vegas.

Glasby, a convicted fraudster, never told his second wife he was a divorcee, and ticked a box on the marriage licence stating he had never been married.

After that second marriage ran into difficulties, leading to a split in 2014, his wife left the marital home but the pair stayed in touch.

By 2017 he was in a relationship with his future third wife and arrangements were made for the wedding. 

He told the registrar about his first marriage and divorce but failed to mention his second marriage.

Daniel Glasby's second wife, Elizabeth Wing, above, discovered that her husband - from whom she had separated - had married for a third time when she saw a photo on Facebook.

Daniel Glasby's second wife, Elizabeth Wing, above, discovered that her husband - from whom she had separated - had married for a third time when she saw a photo on Facebook.

Daniel Glasby’s second wife, Elizabeth Wing, above, discovered that her husband – from whom she had separated – had married for a third time when she saw a photo on Facebook.

Her father called the police to report the bigamist, who yesterday received a suspended prison sentence and ordered to undertake 100 hours of community work

Her father called the police to report the bigamist, who yesterday received a suspended prison sentence and ordered to undertake 100 hours of community work

Her father called the police to report the bigamist, who yesterday received a suspended prison sentence and ordered to undertake 100 hours of community work

Then his second wife was made aware of a Facebook photo showing he went through with the third marriage.

Glasby told police he had contacted a Nevada lawyer, who told him the Vegas marriage was ‘null and void’ due to his lie on the marriage certificate.

Glasby claimed the lawyer, whom he could not name, assured him he was legally free to marry his third wife.

‘We say he must always have known,’ said prosecutor Mr Murphy.

Mr Murphy referred to an alleged conversation Glasby had with his second wife, in which, Mr Murphy claimed, Mr Glasby had assured her he’d told his then third wife-to-be a formal marriage was not possible and they would instead have ‘some sort of celebration’.

Mr Murphy said Glasby’s third wife denies this conversation ever took place.

‘He always knew and buried his head in the sand and went ahead with it anyway’, he added.

Family members plainly think he had done something rather stupid, the court heard.

‘In this case, it is plain they have a deal of affection for him,’ added Mr Murphy. 

Daniel Church, mitigating, said it was not the most flagrant example of bigamy.

Glasby was given advice that he could go back to State of Navada and go to the courthouse, he explained. He was told there would be a $8,000 penalty – around £6,250.

His client currently lives with the third woman, who was in court to support him, and is a self-employed air conditioner and refrigeration engineer.

Glasby has a 2012 conviction for fraud, over a £28,000 scheme in which he invoiced multiple companies for air conditioning equipment and then sought to blame innocent people.

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