Chris Manak, 37, from Melbourne, has been a professional dating coach since 2008.
Although he has a variety of services, his most successful is ‘infield coaching’ – where for a $3000 fee he accompanies men when they approach women to analyse their successes and failures.
‘I teach men how they can go out and meet the women that they would like to meet. I encourage them to find freedom in dating – i.e. dating who they want to date, not just settling for whoever happens to like them,’ he told FEMAIL.
Chris Manak, 37, from Melbourne has been a professional dating coach for men since 2008
The infield coaching often involves five weeks of coaching and his cheapest service is a book-based course that is $50 and his Skype sessions are $250.
Although it may sound shallow to some his work has resulted in men becoming ‘significantly more confident in themselves’ in general, not just in dating.
‘This is not just running around picking up women like some people might believe, it’s looking at yourself and figuring out how you can improve so that you’re living an all-round better life,’ he said.
‘I’ve also recently started working with people specifically to help them move on from breakups.’
Although he has a variety of services, his most successful is ‘infield coaching’ – where for a $3000 fee he accompanies men when they approach women to analyse their successes and failures
‘I teach men how they can go out and meet the women that they would like to meet. I encourage them to find freedom in dating,’ he told FEMAIL
The reason Mr Manak said there is a need for his service is because men are generally given ‘horribly incorrect’ advice about dating and what actually attracts women.
He also said they are limited in who they can meet because they’re not aware that they can go out and talk to women they don’t know.
This results in men relying on Tinder or online dating or hoping to meet someone in their social circle.
‘Even then, they act on what they have assume works from movies or what their friends tell them, and then wonder why they’re not having any luck, despite doing everything that they think they should be doing,’ he said.
The reason Mr Manak said there is a need for his service is because men are generally given ‘horribly incorrect’ advice about dating
He also said they are limited in who they can meet because they’re not aware that they can go out and talk to women they don’t know (Mr Manak pictured talking to a client)
Mr Manak said it’s unhealthy to believe the idea that if a man ‘does the right thing’ and ‘says the right thing’, then he will end up with the girl.
‘In reality, if that girl is just not in any way attracted to him, it’s just not going to happen, regardless of how serendipitous he makes his approach,’ he said.
‘Much of dating is simply compatibility. You can approach a women perfectly and nothing will come of it, and then the same day you can fumble your way through an awkward interaction and end up on a date.’
The professional dating coach explained that he prefers to coach men so that they become someone that women would want to date, with no tricks involved.
He said that when men improve themselves in the dating area the chances of them meeting someone who likes them back increases.
When it comes to going on a first date in particular, Mr Manak said it’s all about mind set.
A common mistake he sees men make is putting all of their eggs in one basket.
‘They barely ever meet any women, they barely ever go on any dates, and then when they finally land a date from Tinder or wherever, they think of elaborate ways to “make it work”,’ he said.
‘You’ve already ruined that date.
‘As I’ve said 1000 times before – women tend to like a man as much as he likes himself.’
Mr Manak said it’s also unhealthy to believe the idea that if a man ‘ does the right thing’ and ‘says the right thing’, then he will end up with the girl
‘In reality, if that girl is just not in any way attracted to him, it’s just not going to happen, regardless of how serendipitous he makes his approach,’ he said
Mr Manak said that when men desperately try and impress a woman by ‘doing all the right things’ it ‘tells her’ that she is not on a date with an equal, which is ‘not attractive’.
‘Don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to impress a girl, but it’s where you’re coming from mentally,’ he said.
He said men should not put high expectations on a date and accept the fact that it might not go to plan.
This helps to take pressure off of the date and the man will be more inclined to be himself.
‘A girl wants to date an equal, someone she can relax and have fun with. Not someone that is doing everything to impress her,’ he said.
Mr Manak said that when men desperately try and impress a woman by ‘doing all the right things’ it tells her that she is not on a date with an equal, which is not attractive
He said men should not put high expectations on a date and accept the fact it might not go to plan (Mr Manak pictured talking to a client)
‘That might sound romantic in movies, but in reality it’s awkward, and arguably manipulative.
‘This is a huge irony of what I teach. Some people see it as manipulative, but when a man gets good with women, he doesn’t need to be manipulative as he can be open and honest because he has options.’
Mr Manak said so many people are struggling with dating because they’re often given horrible dating advice.
He said people are taught romanticised versions of love and dating from movies, and when you couple that with ‘our Christian roots shaming sex’ no one knows what to do.
‘To make that worse, there is a stigma around wanting to learn more in this area, so people tend to shy away from getting help,’ he said.
‘Sometimes people get triggered by what I do. Largely because they misunderstand it.
‘They think that I’m out there encouraging men to become rampant players, when in fact, all of my clients are just normal lovely guys who want more confidence in dating.’
