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8 Women On The Worst Dating Advice They've Ever Heard From Someone
Everybody takes it upon themselves to advise women on how to navigate love, life and everything in between. From “well-meaning” uncles and aunties, to the next door neighbour, and sometimes even our friends, we women get advice (often unsolicited) on everything! But, most commonly, it is about matters of the heart. Little do we realise that more often than not, this advice is garbage! We asked eight women what the worst dating advice they’ve ever received was. You may be shocked, or you may be thoroughly entertained! Here goes…
Dessidre, 27
“Don’t eat too much on a date.” WHAT? If I’m going to a restaurant on a date, I’m going to starve myself all day so I can eat all that good food! And, that the guy should always pay for the date. Really? Why?
Priyanka, 27
Make him wait. Arrive fashionably late!
Shivani G, 27
“Let the guy come to you, don’t go after him. Let him pay. Don’t respond immediately.”
Pallavi, 28
The whole “play with your hair while talking to him,” “lean in”, etc. They seem like harmless little things, but they’re actually destabilising for the woman who is subconsciously just wiring herself to please a guy, even if it is through passive manipulation.
Naina, 32
“Bikul ignore maar, dekhiyo 6 din, ladka in.” Don’t ask me who gave me this bullshit piece of advice, and why! Oh and, I’ll have you know… I tried it. He found someone else.
Sharon, 31
As you can see, I have crazy curls which, by the way, I LOVE! But, I can’t even begin to tell you the number of times I’ve been told to straighten my hair when I go for a date. It feels like that whole “can’t tame a girl with curly hair” stereotype.
Shruti, 28
“Wear girly clothes and try not to talk too much.” I would laugh my ass off if it didn’t make me livid! Firstly, girly clothes are damn uncomfortable, and secondly, don’t talk too much? What? Am I a show piece?
Shalini, 33
“Try to be as mysterious as you can.” WHAT does this even mean? Please somebody explain!
Don't date one man; take as many as 5 – Gospel musician advises
Entertainment of Sunday, 22 April 2018
Source: yen.com.gh
A US-based Ghanaian female gospel musician, Esaaba Haizel has stirred some controversy with her advice on dating.
The gospel singer has been using her social media accounts to advise young ladies to date three to five men.
According to Esaaba, her advise stems from the fact that she believes dating multiple partners in order to assess them before selecting Mr Right.
Speaking on Abusua FM, the singer explained that dating one man is very risky because the man might break the woman’s heart by jilting her after heavily investing in the relationship.
Esaaba, however, quickly added that the ladies should be careful not get in any sexual activities with the men.
“I advised young girls on my Facebook wall to have three to five men at the same time without having any sexual intercourse with them. You just have to be firm not to sleep with them. Having multiple partners will help you to study them, then you let the rest go, by choosing just one. Why waste your time to date only one person?”
Esaaba further explained that dating multiple men also has many other advantages aside from the giving the lady a chance to assess them.
“I’m saying this because you can’t have it all. One of the men would be interested in your business, one would be concerned about the food you eat on daily basis thereby supply your needs, the other will be interested in the shoes, make ups, clothing you wear, the list goes on,” she stated.
Though Esaaba’s view sounds controversial and will not easily she believes it is good advice which would not be given even in church.
“I’m a Christian, is there something wrong with my advice to young ladies who aspire to marry? It’s a good advice your pastor cannot give you,” she quizzed.
Baggage Check: I'm dating a fairly well-known guy and now it feels like I'm second fiddle
Below are some of the exchanges from the relationships advice column, Baggage Check, published weekly in The Washington Post’s Express.
Q: I am dating someone well-known in our community (think respected blogger in a certain field). I am really into him, but I also feel that I don’t have a sense of being on a level playing field with him. I had gotten used to feeling pretty accomplished, at least on par with who I date, and I tend to feel like I’m the attractive one in a relationship. Now I feel like I’m the appendage. Is there a way to get over this? Or do I need to be the star in the relationship?
A: You’re dating someone with whom there is a new dynamic and balance of power and status, and that may take some adjustment. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything negative about you. There’s no way for me to know, but I’ll err on the side of not pathologizing: You’re human, your partner is not the typical partner, and so your reaction is natural and understandable. Give it time and see where it goes. Ultimately, you choose to be with the person, not the image.
Q: I have some history with a guy my friend is now dating. Nothing serious, just a few hookups when we knew each other years ago. She knew that we were acquaintances, but she has no idea otherwise. I keep going back and forth on whether to say something to her. My gut says to let it go, but I also feel like if it does come out someday and I never said anything, then that will be bad.
A: There are two truths here, and they’re at odds. One: For sure, it is far better for her to find out now than to find out later. Two: On any given day, it is easier if she doesn’t find out at all. But, easy doesn’t mean right. I’m not sure how close you are to this friend. Is it fair to her to withhold this? And imagine having to sit on this secret potentially indefinitely — or even worse, wondering if others who knew of it, including him, are going to spill the beans regardless of your wishes. It definitely runs the risk of becoming A Thing. I’m generally in favor of preventing the growth of such Things. And if they are not yet serious, hopefully this should not (yet) be a humongous deal.
Ntando Duma's dating advice
The star who gave birth to a baby girl several months ago is seemingly giving the father of her baby dating advice, on Twitter, Ntando proved that she and Junior are the perfect co-parents to their baby girl after Junior tweeted how he was most likely to spend his upcoming birthday single, Ntando’s offered her ex sweet advice. Take a look at the tweet below.
