Relationships Talk

Rihanna just made history as the first black woman to grace British Vogue‘s coveted September issue, and to top it all off she dropped some solid advice in the accompanying interview.

The ‘Wild Thoughts’ singer discussed everything from relationships to body image (psst, she even revealed the science behind that ‘thicc’ bod), leaving us armed with the knowledge to grab life by the balls, Riri style.

Rihanna chatted with the editor in chief, Edward Enninful (for what was his first September issue too), and she had some stellar words for anyone starting a relationship.

As reported by Buzzfeed, Riri said: “I think a lot of people meet people and then they’re dating the idea of what the person could become, and that person never shows up and then they’re just mad disappointed.”

She added: “A person can always get better, they can always get worse, but you’ve got to be fine with what you met them as.”

Basically, if you’re already tryin to change ’em… they probably ain’t right for you.

Her wise words didn’t end there.

The singer has never been afraid to address the topic of body image, from clapping back at fat-shamers to proclaiming “savages come in all shapes and sizes,” when she dropped her ‘Savage’ lingerie line, and she touched upon the topic once again.

Edward asked her what it’s like to be the woman other women “fancy,” to which she responded: “Okay, you’re asking the wrong person. I don’t know, maybe it’s because I’m ‘thicc’ now,” she said.

Rihanna has opened up about her “fluctuating” body type in the past, and now she’s dished further on some of the science behind body shapes.

“I’m about to get back into the gym and stuff, and I hope I don’t lose my butt or my hips or all of my thighs. I’ll lose some but not all. And I think of my boobs, like, ‘Imma lose everything, everything goes!”

“But, you know, it comes with a price. You want to have a butt, then you have a gut,” she revealed.

Iconic.

So there you have it, folks, bodies are imperfect, ever-evolving things that we should be hella proud of no matter what stage they’re at.

This isn’t the first time Riri has got real about her changing body.

Chatting to The Cut earlier this year, she explained: “I actually have had the pleasure of a fluctuating body type, where one day I can literally fit into something that is bodycon, and then the next day—the next week—I need something oversize; I need a little crop here and a high-waist there to hide that part, you know?”

Sure, it’s not exactly a ground-breaking discovery that bodies don’t stay the same, but we have to applaud Riri for making it known that it’s OK to fluctuate. So whether you’re snacking or gyming today, here’s to loving your bod.

This gal is literally an endless source of wisdom.

When you get a pat on the back for something, you’re more likely to do it again, right? So if your date or partner pulls through on getting back to you quickly, don’t be shy about acknowledging it.

“When your partner does what you ask of them, it gives you a great opportunity to say ‘thank you!’ and show your appreciation,” adds Goldstein.

Giving them props shows them that timely responses matter to you, and if they know that’s something you value, they may try to make it a habit.

Feeling like you went from texting amateur to ace? You may not be able to actually control when someone gets back to you, but these tactics could help to inspire a speedier response.

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Everybody has a piece of wisdom to share when it comes to romance and, TBH, I’d take a lot of people’s pearls of wisdom with grains of salt. I mean, let’s face it: Not everyone knows what they’re talking about. That being said, there’s also a decent amount of people with some pretty fantastic advice out there. Like Rihanna. Recently, in Rihanna’s British Vogue interview she dropped some wisdom bombs about love.

Rihanna graces the cover of British Vogue‘s September 2018 issue and, throughout the interview, she keeps it extremely real. After admitting that she gets “a lot of boy-advice questions,” she decides to throw in this absolutely flawless piece of advice:

I think a lot of people meet people and then they’re dating the idea of what the person could become, and that person never shows up and then they’re just mad disappointed. A person can always get better, they can always get worse, but you’ve got to be fine with what you met them as.

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I think anyone who’s ever tried to change someone they dated can agree that it is an impossible feat. Rihanna is right. Don’t bother trying to change someone — there are better uses of your energy.

This isn’t the first time Rihanna’s pulled through with the fantastic guidance when it comes to our love lives.

Back in 2015 she told T magazine:

Guys need attention. They need that nourishment, that little stroke of the ego that gets them by every now and then. I’ll give it to my family, I’ll give it to my work — but I will not give it to a man right now.

Back in 2016, she warned Vogue readers of the dangers of settling:

I always believed that when you follow your heart or your gut, when you really follow the things that feel great to you, you can never lose, because settling is the worst feeling in the world.

And Rihanna isn’t a hypocrite, either. No, Rihanna follows her own advice like it’s scripture.

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In fact, in her recent breakup with billionaire Hassan Jameel was apparently a direct result of her refusal to settle. “Rihanna and him were together for a while,” a source told MTO News. “It was a good relationship, but now it’s over.” Apparently, the source continued that Rihanna just “got tired of him. She gets tired of men sometimes.”

And we all know there’s no shot Rihanna’s going to waste her time waiting around for some snooze of a dude to miraculously become fun.

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Later in her British Vogue interview, editor in chief Edward Enninful asked her how she became everyone’s girl crush. “OK, you’re asking the wrong person. I don’t know, maybe it’s because I’m ‘thicc’ now,” she responded with a laugh. “I don’t know.”

UGH, why can’t we all hang out with Rihanna every day? I guess we’ll just have to settle for reading this article over and over again until the end of time.

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