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Gospel star Loise Kim's advice to married women annoys christians who react violently
Loise Kim, a popular and respected vernacular gospel artiste is in hooooooot soup with her fans.
Loise gave her views about the ongoing debate over the recent court ruling on the 50/50 property split after a divorce.
The ruling by Justice John Mativo is not very favourable for slay queens and gold diggers.
Only what a spouse has contributed to the marriage – be it the wife or the husband – can he or she walk away with upon divorce, the High Court declared.
The judgement reignites the debate on the question of division of matrimonial wealth, said the Constitution recognises equal worth and equal importance of parties in a marriage.
Anyhow, Loise gave her views and now people are seething and froothing over her take on the ruling.
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Loise wrote on her social media:
“Dear Ladies,
This is a wake up call to all women to work and have own savings even when married. A new look at marriage where both partners work and save for self and family.”
Adding, “Don’t get caught flat footed. Always have necessary documentation on investments, avoid giving money in cash instead do bank transfers so that there is a paper trail. Go to school, work hard and become someone in life. Marriage is not a career and a man is not a financial breakthrough… Don’t bring beauty alone to the equation. Beauty fades with age.”
In conclusion, the post that was clearly aimed at slay queens and gold diggers read: “Be WISE in the marriage agreement. Combine workmanship and Sustain a healthy marriage.
We don’t pray for divorces, but women need to be enlightened.”
Her fans did not find this piece of information aligned to their beliefs as such they gave their candid reactions.
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Here are some I selected for your reading pleasure.
Mariam Karugi: These people wenye wanalia ooh this is not a good advice from a Christian ooh cjui from Loise……. can you STOP the hypocrisy because you know very well the kind of men we have in this generation mnatafuta from scratch then when he’s full yaani pesa ni mob he kicks you out Ati you aren’t his type. In short I Mariam will never in this world expose my wealth to any person whether I get married to an angel or any other man. THIS is THE GENERATION YOU CAN’T DREAM OF TRUSTING…… THANKS loise for HITTING THE NAIL ON THE HEAD💞💕.
Faustine Gitonga: It is funny how u women now react when both slices get buttered.. Napita tu.. Sijasema kitu
Grace Mwangi: I honestly wonder where it is written or who is this philosopher …..who said “a born again woman should only wake up pray wash slippers and go for door to door …ata chumvi ikiisha ana please call mzee…
Mariam Karugi: Grace I’m still asking the same question. Kuokoka sio kupungukiwa na ujuzi wa maisha.some people should know that
Pauline Muthoni: I think you are not good in marriage advice stick to what you do best. That advice can be looked at in very many dimensions. But Loise any Christian knows that that advice is not healthy why take vows with the wrong person why. Question is why do we get married? Are ppl ready for it? Ppl who get married for all the funny reasons should take that advice. To those who are married divorce bible imekataa
Mundu Ni Uyu Before putting contribution to this Fanya introduction,..wengine wanaongea tayari wameshapata divorce already,. Waiting 50/50 share.
Henry Kararu: The easiest people to confuse is women that’s why in these ‘Panda mbegu ‘ churches 96% of the followers are women, Loise Kim stop the best thing u should have done is to advise women on how to keep their marriages and not this crap.
Fren Hann: Kuna mzazi aliambia msichana wake a high-school teacher na ameolewa na tycoon… Mtoto wangu kazi yako ni dhahabu yako,, iwe na pesa kidogo au nyingi.. Hautaulizwa swali ukiitumia..ata kama ya mzee inateremka kama mto nje hiyo ni yake si yako na ukiitisha ata sumuni mpaka ufanyiwe interview ni ya nini… Ladies let’s wake up.. Tusiolewe tukae baridi,homes are built with lots of wisdom..let’s Workhard too.. Mundu umwe ti mbogo then in future akuache kwa mataaa…ebu tutafute pia tusaidiane si tusaidiwoo.
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Patricia Sangiriaki: Am surprised at the naivete displayed here! Women are only being told to work hard and make sure the property they worked for remains theirs! Or is she speaking Greek? Pay for a house or Car, don’t give cash, do it using a bank transfer! You are doing a joint project don’t pay your share in cash.For instance I have a couple wife, have been in formal employment, the other wife is a stay at home mom, do I just give monies to my husband for the upkeep of the other woman?
This is a wake up call women! And these men yapping here are the ones who leave their wives and probably children without a dime. I buy a carpet and I keep the receipt somewhere safe! No surprises for me! Take heed ama, utalilia chooni.
Shera Magder Wamumbi: People are funny….so because she is a christian she is not allowed to reason reasonably like the rest of us…..its just advice take it or leave it….n moreover its so true.
Bizzy B Bussy B: What happened to Two becomes one for better for worse for sickness and health? So when things are good you’re one but when bad-things happen its everyone for him/ herself, it’s the epitome of hypocrisy in marriage.
Hassan Muriraikihia Kagombe: Looks like you are advising married women to stay with only one foot in the marriage. ……being married should be giving it 100%,but according to my understanding of your advice here on you seem to be misleading the ladies
Martine Kimoney: What do u mean by caught flat footed???? Are u preparing them fo a run..i love ua mudic so stick to it Mum…
Jessy Njenga: Only until Christian’s will marry Muslims, then peace will be noticed among many marriages or we call it relationships.
5 Relationship Tips From The Duggars, From Courtship To Marriage
The Duggars are known for doing things a little differently when it comes to relationships. The famous family from the TLC reality series 19 Kids and Counting, and later Counting On, is made up of a variety of bonds, from married couples, siblings, parents, and kids, that are each unique, but all rooted in similar family guidelines and traditions. Since Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have 19 kids, featuring several married couples with kids of their own, there are a lot of relationships to go around. And when it comes to relationship tips from the Duggars, there’s no shortage of advice to share.
A lot of the relationship tips the Duggars follow developed after Jim Bob and Michelle got married. Michelle in particular was not religious as a child, but turned to a more fundamentalist form of Christianity as a teenager, according to In Touch Weekly. Michelle and Jim Bob were more traditional when they dated, according to their daughter, Jill Duggar Dillard, when she spoke about their relationship in an old 19 Kids and Counting interview. That means they didn’t do the whole courtship thing that the younger Duggar couples are famous for.
As part of their more conservative lifestyle, the Duggars practice and advocate for relationship guidelines that may seem a little out-dated to the rest of us. But whatever works for them, I guess, as long as everyone involved agrees to the guidelines.
Courting, Not Dating
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In the video above, Jill explained that her parents told their kids that they dated in the usual sense, but that they felt that courtship “provides a neat aspect” by comparison. All of the Duggar kids have chosen to pursue courtship, which they also call “dating with a purpose,” according to TODAY.
The Duggars recommend courting in general when it comes to exploring romantic relationships, because they feel it helps you determine whether the person you’re considering is someone you can see yourself marrying. It’s one relationship tip that everyone in the family has followed when it comes to choosing a spouse.
Setting Boundaries
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Setting boundaries, particularly physical ones, is one piece of relationship advice the Duggars highly promote. Especially during courting, Michelle once told People:
You’re like two magnets being pulled together. You need boundaries.
So the Duggars set physical parameters to keep things from getting too hot and heavy before marriage.
To combat the temptation, the Duggars generally have chaperones accompany courting or engaged couples in their family, according to People. Doesn’t sound all that romantic to me, but they seem to have a lot of successful marriages going on, so clearly something about setting boundaries before marriage and having someone be accountable for them works for the Duggars.
Communication Is Key
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One of the Duggar relationship rules included in a People article published back in 2014 involved communication during courtship. Prior to Derick and Jill beginning their courtship, Jill said she wrote a three-page list of questions for her future husband.
Jim Bob also reportedly gives his kids’ suitors a questionnaire with a ton of questions on it. Asking a lot of questions seems to be a big part of a courting relationship, but really, that’s not a bad idea for any couple trying to get to know one another. But if the video linked above is how things normally go, it looks like it can be difficult for the Duggar kids to do that with their partners in a more private capacity.
Keeping The Spark Alive
TLC on YouTube
Of course, courting is not the only sort of relationship that the Duggars have a lot of advice about. Jim Bob and Michelle have been married a long time, and a lot of their kids are married, and just starting to share tips about marriage from their own experiences as well.
In a 2014 interview with TODAY, Jim Bob and Michelle shared some ways in which they keep things “sexy” in a marriage that has lasted many years and persisted through almost 20 kids. For starters, Michelle said a wife should always be “available” for sex, which I personally do not agree with.
Michelle also said that she loves when Jim Bob shares “his heart with me, his struggles, his fears and his dreams,” and I can see how that sort of communication could be really important in a marriage. Both Duggar parents also recommended regular date nights, which I think is a good relationship tip for any couple, whether they’re just getting to know each other or whether they’re parents taking a night out from the kids.
Having Faith
Finally, the Duggars recommend having Jesus at the center of any relationship, which isn’t going to be relevant for everyone. Jill once said you shouldn’t date anyone who doesn’t have the same “values” as you, according to Cafe Mom. And Jinger Duggar Vuolo once said of her relationship with husband Jeremy Vuolo:
Since we began our relationship, Jeremy and I have learned that when we are walking closely with Jesus, we are closest to each other.
Now, that piece of relationship advice is obviously not going to work for every person. It certainly has no part of my relationships. But faith is obviously important to the Duggars, and for anyone who does follow a particular religion, it’s safe to say some of those values and beliefs sometimes come into play in relationships — romantic or otherwise.
Relationships can be tricky, but the Duggars definitely have a lot of advice on how to make them work. A lot of their relationship tips involve courting, which won’t apply to much of the general population, but the spirit of many of their tips can be used in all sorts of other relationships, too.
Pastor Majid Michel Gives 'Powerful' Marriage Advice To John Dumelo
Actor Majid Michel has advised his friend and fellow actor John Dumelo to make God a priority in his marriage.
According to him, making God the centre and highest priority of any marriage is the key to saving that marriage even if it’s not in troubled waters.
He gave the advice two days after John Dumelo’s marriage ceremony.
John Dumelo tied the nuptial knot with Gifty Mawunya, actress Selassie Ibrahim’s younger sister, at a ceremony at Spintex on Saturday.
The ceremony was attended by a number of entertainers and politicians, including ex-President John Mahama. The rest were Majid Michel, Yvonne Nelson, Prince David Osei, Yvonne Okoro, Nadia Buari, Jackie Appiah, among others.
After the wedding, Majid Michel, who has been married for years, took to his Instagram page to advise John not to only love Gifty but also allow God be their guide.
“Let Jesus in. He is what you need. We choose to Love. Love is a choice not a feeling. Your hand has already been taken. Your life-long promise should always stand. Until your last breath you will always hold her hand. Through everything she’s half of you. Even though you may not always agree, you shall never part,” he said.
“This world may not be fair, but through sickness and in health, promise to be there. To make her happy, that’s your only wish. To love and obey is also part of your promise. Anytime things get rough, always remember, sometimes God let’s you hit rock bottom so that you will discover that He is the Rock at the bottom. @johndumelo1 Congratulations,” Majid Michel concluded.
This is what you should know before getting married, according to Reddit Users
It’s easy to get caught up in all the excitement of a wedding.
It’s a day of love, with your nearest and dearest, where you get to wear a dress of dreams or a snappy suit, drink bubbles and celebrate your relationship but, just as a puppy isn’t only for Christmas, a wedding isn’t just a party.
On the other side of the celebration is hard work – often the good kind but nonetheless hard. It’s a commitment that you’ll need to work on as life throws curveballs and you both develop as people.
In a new thread, the ever-honest users of Reddit were asked what people should know before getting hitched. Here’s what they had to say…
“Your SO most likely fell in love with the best and strongest version of you. When you get married, make sure that your SO will still love you when you’re down. It’s a lifetime. Hard times will come. This goes both ways.” – ThrowAwayVenting2018
“When my grandfather asked my grandmother to marry him, her father made them both sit down and write a list of 10 deal breakers. They then had to discuss them all to decide if they could both live with them before he would give his blessing. In over 50 yrs of marriage neither one crossed the deal breaker line and they had a head start on open communication channels from the experience. The other thing they did was to ensure that each of them got at least one hour of me time every day from Monday to Friday (the other would watch the kids and there would be no chores done during that time) and weekends were family time.” – GrumpyKitten1
“If you’re prone to loneliness, make sure you’re not just trying to seal the deal to end feeling lonely. You can still be lonely in a bad relationship. Make sure you emphasize each other’s happiness, not need it to function.” – recovering-juggalo
“That people often change throughout their lives, but not just because they got married. Many people get married with either the expectation that marriage will change their SO or that the person will stay the same forever. Neither are correct. People will change, but not always in the ways that you expect and you have to be willing to adapt to them.” – Tazi750000
“Pretend you aren’t going to have a wedding. Still wanna get married?” – CaptainClay2606
“When you fight, remember that you two are on the same side.Sometimes it’ll feel like it’s you versus her… whenever it feels like that, Stop. Back up. Figure out how it’s you both versus the world (or you both versus the fear they’re feeling, or you both versus the problems you’re having or whatever…) and not the two of you against each other. Hell, try to remember that when you’re not fighting too.” – Allisade
“Some days your SO is vomiting their guts out and literally cannot do any chores or emotional work. Their job is to empty their guts and moan into the toilet about how terrible life is while you fetch water and crackers and keep the rest of the house in line.” – Daitoshi
“A cliche bit of marriage advice is “it’s not 50/50, it’s 100/100”. Both parties need to be trying their best every day, because some days it’ll be 50/50, sometimes 75/25, and on the rare occasion, 100/0. Point being, not only can you not depend on 50/50, sometimes you’ll be doing all the work, but also, sometimes you get to be a total dumpster fire and have someone pick up your slack without even needing to ask. Recognizing that from the beginning makes it a lot easier to give 100% as often as possible.” – EnsignRedShirt
“If you respect your partner, you’ll communicate well with them. If you communicate well with your partner, you will end up respecting them. You can’t treat someone as a valued equal and not respect and value them. The third part of the equation is trust. You lack one of these three things, you lack the other two.” – Kunabee
“You should know that while you think you might be communicating well, you can always do better. What I mean by that is that relationships take rigorous honesty and compassion.” – scoal64
“This is it. I have a family of four. Me, my wife, and our two kids. We love our extended families, but they are peripheral. My bond with my wife and my children is MUCH stronger than my bond with my parents and my siblings (and, frankly, my bond with my wife is a tiny bit stronger than my bond with my kids). If there’s a conflict between what my parents want and what my wife wants, there’s no conflict, just a bit of emotional labour as I explain to my parents that we’re not doing the thing they prefer. Not everyone sees things this way. I can’t imagine seeing it any differently. But I would make sure you have similar views about family relationship pecking orders before getting married.” – letransient
“Don’t lose your individualism. My best friend recently got divorced and discovered that he didn’t even know what he liked to do anymore. The person you’re going to marry fell in love with YOU. Don’t lose that. It’s okay to have different hobbies/interests.” – DirtyWalnuts
“You should have the “big” discussions before you get married and have kids, e.g. if you do have kids are you both on the same page regarding potential issues that may occur during the pregnancy, are you both willing to parent a very poorly child? What about if one of your parents becomes ill or dies what do you expect to do then, will the surviving parent come and live with you etc. What about the big holidays how will you spend them and whose family will you spend them with. If you don’t agree on these things now, you won’t after you get married and then you are stuck in a more difficult position.” – Lennial
“Most people don’t realize how much stress each other’s families bring to the table. Always be a united front.” – AmandaBee8
“It’s work, and it’s everyday work. If you want a healthy relationship you need to tend to that relationship.” – SCFE1
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