Category Archives: marriage advice
Sonam Kapoor Calls Up Karan Johar for Marriage Advice. Guess His Hilarious Response
Karan Johar is known for his upfront talks. The director-producer never shies away from being savage and brutally honest with his responses. Recently in his radio show he said that he doesn’t want Roohi and Taimur to be labelled as brother and sister. Some 20 years from now something might brew up between the two toddlers and he doesn’t want to come in the way.
And now newlywed Sonam Kapoor called up the Ae Dil Hai Mushkil director on his radio show Calling Karan to seek some advice on how to adjust in the first year of marriage.
KJo said, “Not that I am a marital expert Sonam! Adjustments are critical, because practically being husband and wife, living together, you get privy to all the habits that your partner has that sometimes may not be in conjunction with yours. So the first thing, I really want to tell you is patience.”
He asked Sonam to observe and understand small details like which side of the bed would your partner like to sleep on, or his bathroom timings, or his watching television or Netflix habits.
“It could be anything that may not be in conjunction. First, understand the schedule, routine habits, and then if something really difficult, then try and talk about it. But not definitely in the first year, you don’t want to come out so strong and cause road blocks, initially”, he added.
For the uninitiated, Calling Karan is director producer’s radio show. The first season of discussed open marriages, LGBT, love issues and more. Season 2 is also expected to cover these topics and more in a bolder way.
Of late, Karan Johar has been making headlines for his upcoming projects. 2018-19 is a busy year for him as he is working on films like Simba, Kalank, Takht, and Student of the Year 2 among others. He will also be back on the small screen with the sixth season of his popular chat show Koffee With Karan, which is premiering on October 21st.
Pope in Ireland: Francis shares tips for a happy marriage
The Pope has some advice to offer to young couples: it’s OK to fight, just make peace before the end of the day.
Pope Francis, on his first day of a historic visit to Ireland, was joined at a service in Dublin by 400 young couples, either recently married or engaged.
“A marriage where people don’t fight is really a bit boring,” he joked, drawing laughter from the crowd.
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“But the secret – and you may throw dishes at each other – but the secret is to make peace before the end of the day.
“And to make peace it’s not necessary to talk – just simply stroke them in that way and peace is made.
“And you know why? Because if you don’t make peace before going to bed then the Cold War of the previous day is too dangerous, and then rancour begins.
“Fight as much as you want, have as many arguments as you want, but at night make peace.
“You mustn’t forget that.”
The pontiff is on a two-day visit to Ireland, dominated by the child abuse scandal in the Catholic Church.
10 Funny Tweets That Sum Up Sex After You're Married
It’s true that marriage has the power to shake things up in your relationship. Some things will inevitably stay the same, like your go-to date night spots, your inside jokes, and your Sunday morning rituals. But somethings will change, like perhaps your sex life. Marriage brings your relationship and your grown-up status to the next level and things like bills, work, kids and other responsibilities might put a damper on the adventurous sex life you’ve had for years.
The good news is, you’re not alone; sometimes, it’s even something that you and your spouse can laugh over. Check out the 10 tweets below that show off the reality of sex after marriage.
1. Make Plans to Do It
Remember how hot and steamy sex was when you and your partner first started dating? It might have even seemed like stress, bills, and exhaustion couldn’t keep your bodies off each other. But when marriage comes into the picture, scheduling when to have sex might be as headache-inducing as going to the DMV.
2. Your Mind Goes to Some Weird Places
If you really want to ruin the mood when you and your S.O. are finally in the bedroom together after a long vacation from having sex, the last thing you or your partner should do is think about mundane and everyday things, like grocery shopping or having to pay taxes.
https://twitter.com/LoveNLunchmeat/status/964253708337991680
3. Your List of Needs Changes
You’ll start to notice that not only do your bedroom needs change once you’re married but also how you express them to your partner changes too. Yes, you’ll be more direct at letting them know what you need, but you also might find yourself feeling less patient with them too.
https://twitter.com/TwoSapphiresBlu/status/794155220867518464
4. People Want to know When the Baby Will Be Here
An interesting thing that happens to your sex life once you’re married is that every single person wants to know about it. They aren’t looking to hear the raunchy details; rather, they want to know if you are trying to have a baby and how hard you are trying to make that happen.
5. It Becomes Just Like Going to the Gym
If you start to become the married couple that does everything and anything together but have sex, you might forget how much fun you could have and do have until you finally do it again.
https://twitter.com/TheAntonioBanda/status/1028337989858934789
6. Lingerie is Only For Days You Haven’t Done the Laundry
Remember all that lingerie you invested in when you first started dating your partner? Chances are it’s stuffed in the pack of your drawer only to be pulled out and worn on the days when you realize you haven’t done laundry in a really long time and have no other undergarments to wear.
7. Your Positions Will Change
You can start to forget all of the Kama Sutra positions that you studied in books; the only position you’ll want your partner to be in when you two are in bed is one that keeps them from snoring.
8. Pillow Talk Doesn’t Sound the Same
A lot of what changes when you’re married is your bedtime routine. If you used to get it on right before dreamtime, you might find that your routine has now changed. Now, you’re finding yourself recapping the day and letting it all out for your partner to hear, grasp, and even smell.
https://twitter.com/WalkingOutside/status/984430962053300226
9. What Turns You On Really Changes
The sight of their body in the past might have been an instant turn on. But now, small, weird things are enough to get you in the mood or even get you feeling those first-date butterflies all over again.
See more: 7 Expert Sex Tips for Newlyweds
10. What You Do in Bed Changes
When you’re not sleeping in your bed, you and your partner might be spending quality time on it together, doing things that you wouldn’t have normally done when the relationship first flourished.
Amy Dickinson: Aging woman puts herself on a desert island
Dear Amy: I am a 62-year-old woman. I am still attractive and (blessedly) wrinkle-free, due to being on an aggressive slew of hormones, anti-oxidants and telomerase-enhancing drugs. (I’m using all the latest technology).
Because I am (apparently) unattractive to men, no matter what I do, I take solace in the few close but platonic relationships I have with a few men.
During a recent walk on the California beach with my friend “Martin,” he pointed out one beautiful nubile young woman after another, and then described his male reaction to them.
Martin also indicated that I should slim down. (I’m not overweight).
As a middle-aged woman, I am used to being marginalized, but I think that, during the past three years, the problem has become acute. I’m not invisible: I’m reviled and demeaned, both by employers and single men. These days you have to look like a porn model to even get by. Short of spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery, I don’t know what I can do. I feel that something that was optional years ago is now a necessity: a complete body makeover.
I have become extremely depressed about the situation. Were it not for my loving father, who left me with enough money to live on, I would be out on the streets.
I am still in excellent health. But if people (both men and women) feel my looks are “off,” they will say so! Short of moving to a desert island and waiting for death, what are we supposed to do? — Wrinkle Free and Upset
Dear Wrinkle Free: You already live on a desert island. You’ve put yourself there, and your obsession with looking youthful in order to attract and hold the male gaze will keep you there. If men are so awful, then why are you so desperate for one? Why not simply step off of this terrible treadmill, and decide to spend the rest of your life cultivating inner beauty?
Inner beauty comes from your intellect, your character and your interest in the world and in other people. This sort of beauty does not require expensive procedures and products, and it does not fade. Take some classes or music lessons. Join a book group. Volunteer. Learn to meditate. See a therapist. Find some nice women to hang with. Or move somewhere less shallow.
Here is a passage from the recent obituary of Kathy Kriger, a former diplomat who founded “Rick’s Café” in Casablanca, Morocco, when she was in her late-50s (she died at 72):
“’If I’m honest, I always thought I would find a man while following my dream. That didn’t happen,’ she said cheerfully. ‘Instead, with Rick looking over my shoulder, I found myself.’”
I hope you find yourself, too.
Dear Amy: My wife of 10 years hides hard liquor around the house.
I can tell when she drinks — her eyes are dilated and she is unstable when she walks.
I don’t know why she is doing this; I thought our marriage was good, but now I am wondering. I have seen her drive away in that condition and have tried to stop her, but she denies drinking and we end up arguing about it. I haven’t told her I found her stash. What should I do? — Worried Husband
Dear Worried: Alcoholism is a disease. It is not a referendum on your marriage. Obviously, your wife’s drinking and secret stashes of alcohol are having a big impact on your marriage, but your relationship itself is not the cause. You should confront your wife, calmly and lovingly, and let her know that you are aware of her drinking. Tell her you are worried about her, and ask her to get help.
If you are aware that she is driving drunk, you should call the police to report it.
You have some decisions to make regarding how you will cope with this, but you can’t control whether she will drink. An Al-anon support group could help you. Check Al-anon.org for a local meeting.
Dear Amy: “Sisterly Love” reports that an inherited ring threatens to ruin her relationship with her sister.
My sisters and I let this happen in our family after our father died. We fought about stuff, and it tore our family apart.
It all seems so stupid, now. — Regretful
Dear Regretful: “Stuff” sometimes carries symbolic weight, and so people who fight over stuff are often fighting about something else altogether. I hope it is not too late for you to work on repairing your own relationships.
