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Tribune News Service

Lifestyle Budget for Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Updated at 4:30 a.m. EDT (0830 UTC).

This budget is now available on the web at http://www.tribunenewsservice.com, with direct links to stories and art. See details at the end of the budget.

^TOP STORIES<

^’I can get up every day and feel good about what I’m doing.’ St. Louis bakery offers felons work, second chances<

^LIFE-BAKER-FELONS:SL—<Bakers at a small downtown shop here need not have prior kitchen experience. Just a felony record.

Laughing Bear Bakery founder Kalen McAllister never asks job candidates what landed them behind bars. She just hopes her growing nonprofit can keep them from going back by providing above-minimum-wage pay, a place to learn job skills and build a work history, and a support network to lean on in tough times.

“I don’t care what they did in the past,” said McAllister, 66, a Buddhist priest and retired chaplain at the Farmington Correctional Center. “I only care what they do this day forward.”

1000 by Nassim Benchaabane in St. Louis. MOVED

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^Facing eviction, Las Vegas Trail activist given new home to help under-served children<

^LIFE-HOME-UNDERSERVED-YOUTH:FT—<Las Vegas Trail Revitalization Project member Abdul Chappell, the facilitator of after-school programs for children at the Villas Del Mar apartments, where he is being targeted for eviction by new ownership, is receiving a helping hand to relocate.

Howard Gyler, owner of Garland-based Gyler Management Inc., said he has negotiated a deal in which he will pay one year’s advance rent, nearly $11,000, for Chappell to live and run his programs at the Villas at Sierra Vista apartments, located at the southeast corner of Las Vegas Trail and Calmont Avenue.

Chappell can move in on May 9.

650 by Jeff Caplan in Fort Worth, Texas. MOVED

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^Health summit offers parolees a chance to ease back into society<

^HEALTH-SUMMIT-PAROLEES:TB—<The sales pitch — mostly two main questions and a promise — was similar for each of the hundreds who filed past the vendor’s table.

“Are you working? Do you need a job? We can get you one.”

Still, the resource expo held recently at Painters District Council No. 30 on Sequoia Drive in Aurora was hardly typical. For one thing, the event was billed as a Summit of Health. And most of the 30-plus vendors were, indeed, from groups that dealt with mental illness, substance abuse and anger management.

But the expo also connected those attending to other community resources necessary to be healthy in mind and body all of which are critical to these 350 invited guests, as the summit was sponsored by the Illinois Department of Corrections for parolees and probationers to help them assimilate back into society.

900 by Denise Crosby in Aurora, Ill. MOVED

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^OTHER STORIES<

^It wasn’t ‘Easy,’ but J.C. Penney and Lionel Richie have created a home collection<

^HOME-LIONEL-RICHIE-BEDDING:DA—<Grammy winner Lionel Richie has another talent acquired on the road. The singer-songwriter’s demanding international travels have led him to some of the world’s finest hotels.

350 by Maria Halkias. MOVED

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^St. Louis group that supports women-led startups expands into six new cities<

^BIZ-WOMEN-STARTUP-SUPPORT:SL—<Brazen Global, the St. Louis-based organization that supports women-led startup companies, said recently it is expanding into six new markets: Chicago, Dallas, Denver, Detroit, Philadelphia and Fort Worth, Texas.

200 by Brian Feldt. MOVED

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^Chicago women’s breast imprints part of River North art exhibit<

^LIFE-ART-BREAST-IMPRINTS:TB—<Sixty breasts imprinted in paint will be displayed as part of a celebration of female empowerment in a River North art installation.

350 by Alison Bowen, in Chicago. MOVED

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^INSPIRATION<

^Light Notes: Mother, the dew always will be on your roses<

^RELIG-LIGHTNOTES-MOTHERS-DAY:PK—<Looking back, it seems like only yesterday.

There I was, perched precariously on the edge of the church pew like a small bird ready for flight. My tiny feet didn’t even reach the floor.

But I was secure. Mother sat beside me.

500 by Lucy Luginbill. MOVED

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RELIG-SPIRITUAL-LIFE:PK

Inspirational piece.

(Will not move this week.)

^RELATIONSHIPS<

^Erika Ettin: To share or not to share<

^RELATE-DATING-TIPS:MCT—<Someone on my mailing list, not a client, but a person, who seeks dating advice, asked me this question via email recently:

“Is it good to have some secrets in a relationship? Isn’t that one of the many things that attracts a person a little mystery? Are there things that you should always keep to yourself?”

550 by Erika Ettin. MOVED

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^Barton Goldsmith: Mom’s deserve love<

^RELATE-RELATIONSHIPS:MCT—<When I was growing up, Mother’s Day was right up there with Christmas. The energy around the house was always positive, mostly thanks to my father who made sure that his kids appreciated their mother. And no matter what day it was, that attitude was paramount around our house.

600 by Barton Goldsmith. MOVED

^PETS<

^These puppies may be Maryland’s first cloned dogs, and superheroes in their own right<

^SCI-CLONED-PUPS:BZ—<— A Bel Air woman loves her long-haired chihuahua so much that she paid a Texas animal cloning company $50,000 so that her dog — or a version of him — will be at her side forever.

Five puppies who are genetically identical to the dog, named Bruce Wayne, were born in October and thrived. Four went to live with Bruce and his owner, Meesha Kauffman, while the fifth lives now with a friend of Kauffman’s in Baltimore.

700 by Mary Carole McCauley in Bel Air, Md. MOVED

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^Boynton votes to allow dogs on the beach for trial period<

^PETS-BEACH-DOGS:FL—<Boynton Beach commissioners voted 3-2 to allow dogs on the beach at Oceanfront Park on a trial basis for limited days a month.

150 by Marci Shatzman in Boynton Beach, Fla. MOVED

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^PETS-PETVET:MO—< Q&A with a California veterinarian by Dr. Jeff Kahler.(Will not move this week.)

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^PETS-TALKINGDOGS:MO—<Animal behaviorist talks about living with pets.

By Lisa Moore (not moving; moves once a month).

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Finding love has never been easy. And you would think in a world of dating apps, speed dating, and social media, things would be easier. But it’s made things a lot more complicated.

You have to make a dating profile, pick a suitable profile picture, write a bio and you still have to deal with meeting people in real life. It can all be a bit much, so to make things a little easier we spoke to Claire Certain, Head of Trends at dating app Happn to give advice on things you can to make dating easier.

1. Change your mindset

Going on one too many bad dates can really make you see dating negatively. So it’s time to change this mindset, and start over. See every date as a new beginning and although it might be hard, try not to take the negatives of the last date onto the new date.

2. Try something new

Get out there! Yes, everyone says this, but it happens to be true. And it can be a little annoying to hear, but seriously get out there.

Join a new gym, find a new gallery to visit, or try a different jogging route- just do something to get you a little out of your usual day to day. Even the smallest shifts in routine can inspire you to be open to new opportunities.

3. Don’t take it too seriously

Not every person you meet will be ‘the one’, so be realistic. Dating should be fun, not a chore.

Take each person as they come, without the expectation of meeting the perfect match. It lightens the mood on the date and takes away the pressure, leaving you both to enjoy each other’s company.

(Photo by Happn)

4. Talk to your friends about it

There’s a good chance you’re not the only single person you know, so talk to your friends about it. Ask them what’s worked for them, and see how you can fit that into your dating routine.

5. Be clear about your expectations

If you’re not feeling your date after a drink or two, don’t drag the night out.

Stay true to yourself and be honest with your date. You both deserve to have a great time and letting someone down gently can be the nicest thing you could do.

6. Spend some time on yourself

Treating yourself and making sure you are feeling like your top self can do wonders when it comes to dating.

Go shopping, get a massage, or spend the day enjoying the early sun.  Whatever you decide to do, just take some time out for you.

Read more:

Facebook to add dating features focusing on ‘meaningful relationships’

Why I’ve given up dating apps

How your long-dead ancestors are still shaping your dating preferences